July 21, 2022

The way you touch your spouse — what does it say about your sexual desire? It’s an important question. Sexual desire — the degree to which we sexually long for the person we married — is a tender vulnerable place. Rich with possibilities.  And, in some marriages, fraught with discouragement. My husband and I had

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June 16, 2022

So let’s say you don’t really like sex in your marriage. You maybe even would go so far as viewing it as a “necessary evil” – something you “have” to do to keep the peace. But you pretty much hate it. And you find yourself having to “talk” yourself into sex.   Not surprisingly, a vicious

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June 15, 2022

Life, much like a relationship, is a two-way street. To get anything, you have to give in return. And if you are looking for attention, sexual or not, the best way to get it is by making it obvious to your partner. Being out in public just makes things more exciting. Imagine this. It’s that

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May 20, 2022

Does sex seem to be the last thing on your mind by the time you both fall into bed at the end of the day? Or maybe it’s the last thing on your spouse’s mind, but you are still hoping for some sexual connection. Yet, you feel way too disconnected! Hey, I get it. Life has

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May 18, 2022

What do you like about sex? This is an important question.  A lot hinges on what you and your spouse would each say in response to “What do you like about sex?” Nothing? Everything? Some things? Most things? “I like the pleasure, but not the mess.” “I don’t like the vulnerability.” “I do like the

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May 1, 2022

I am a wife with a high sex drive. Sometimes I find myself even wondering “why do I crave sex so much?” Some people would say that trait puts me in an incredibly small minority. But word to the wise, there are more of us out there than you may realize. I do hear from women

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May 1, 2022

I remember a time after my husband and I had just made love, and we were talking. And by we, I mean me. I was talking. Mostly to myself. And he was falling asleep. He was falling asleep so quickly that had it been an Olympic sport – this falling asleep shenanigan – he would

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April 21, 2022

I didn’t know when I started blogging about sex. I didn’t know how many people struggle – I mean really struggle – with sex in their marriage. It all seems ironic now, but when I started writing and speaking about sexual intimacy in marriage, I must have naively underestimated the power of the internet. And

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April 20, 2022

It may look like this post is just for the guys. But I encourage you wives to read it as well. Not long ago on my site, I did a post titled The Sexiest Thing You Can Do for Your Husband. The attention that post received got me thinking that doing sexy things is an

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April 19, 2022

Recently on my own blog, I wrote a post about the 5 Worst Excuses for Not Having Sex. Someone commented on that post inferring that husbands need to let go of this “woe is me” attitude about not getting more sex. The woman went on to imply that if the husband had to walk in the wife’s shoes

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