public display of affection

Life, much like a relationship, is a two-way street. To get anything, you have to give in return. And if you are looking for attention, sexual or not, the best way to get it is by making it obvious to your partner. Being out in public just makes things more exciting.

Imagine this.

It’s that time of year when you’re making the rounds of parties for Christmas and the New Year.

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Maybe you’re even hosting a few of these shindigs. (If that’s the case, then you’ll definitely need a way to relieve some stress!)

I want to lay down a challenge for you and your spouse. Be super intentional about communicating your sexual desire for each other at these gatherings — without being obvious about it.

There’s something beyond sexy about public display of affection (PDA).

I think this is particularly arousing if PDA isn’t really your thing. After courageously venturing into this arena, you may discover it is your thing!

Let those crowded chaotic boisterous parties be your opportunity to give AND receive PDA. It will make that sexual connection even hotter when you crawl beneath the sheets after the party lights go down.

You may even be inspired to leave the party early!

Want some ideas? (Of course, you do!)

Here are 4 public displays of affection worthy of your heart and time:

Use Those Fingernails

Gals, you more than likely have an advantage in this department. There’s just something about fingernails and light caresses. Some great areas to run your fingernails? Back of the neck, just under the shirt cuff, along the arm, along the hand and fingers.

Get creative and make the most of those tingling touches with your fingernails. Your lover will totally get what you’re saying. And you won’t have to say a word.

Find the Small of the Back

What is it about that waistline area right in the center of the back? Husbands and wives can both make the most of affectionate touch in this area.

To make it especially sensuous, move your fingertips in a subtle, yet firm, circular motion, drifting along the waistline toward either hip or up the spine.

Get Sneaky

Okay, this might not count as a truly public display of affection, because it’s all about sneaking out of sight. Obviously, you have to be wise about this, especially if you are in someone else’s house. As our research shows, among the side effects of Cialis there are transient visual field disturbances (less than 0.01%), visual clarity, a drop in blood pressure, as well as headache, and dizziness. Also, doctors prohibit the use of Cialis in case if a male representative has suffered a stroke or heart attack. Men over 65 years of age are also not recommended to use this drug.

But if you discern it’s appropriate and easy to sneak into the pantry, den, or a hallway out of sight, then take the chance to have a passionate kiss or some less-than-subtle caressing.

Whisper Your Intentions

Sure, you don’t want to announce in the presence of partygoers what you’re going to do later when you get naked.

But there’s no reason why you can’t whisper those things quietly to your lover. You know, while you’re going through the buffet line or making your way to the kitchen for a refill on your refreshment or cuddled up on the couch in the family room.


You don’t have to wait for a party to put your PDA plan into action. All of the above work well in other atmospheres as well — shopping at the mall, traveling in the car, waiting at the airport, going out to dinner, seeing a movie, running errands, and so forth.

Make the most of your public display of affection! It will pay big dividends later! (And by later, I mean a few hours later. Literally. Just. A. Few. Hours. Later.)

For more reading on this topic, check out Why Men Fall Asleep After Sex [3 Good Reasons Why] and Why Do I Crave Sex More Than My Partner Does?

Frequently Asked Questions

What does PDA?

PDA stands for “public displays of affection”, these are acts of physical intimacy performed in front of other people, typically seen outdoors or in stores. Some examples of common PDA would be hugging, kissing, or hand-holding. Anything past that crosses into “sexual PDA” territory.

What is sexual PDA?

Sexual public displays of affection typically revolve around touching, grabbing, or rubbing against what would be deemed “inappropriate” parts in view of others. It’s those same thoughts, conversations, and “leading up” actions but done in view of others.

Is PDA inappropriate?

Like many things in life, it depends. Everybody has different experiences, comfort zones, and social stresses. At a bare minimum, any public displays of affection should always be consensual. Past that you’ll have to communicate with your partner.


About the author 

Julie Sibert

Julie Sibert writes and speaks about sexual intimacy in marriage. You can follow her blog at She lives in Omaha, Nebraska, with her husband and their two boys. When she's not writing, she's probably drinking ridiculously overpriced coffee.

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. There’s a lot more that the body language can do. These can also be a good example for partners who has physical touch love language.

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