It’s that time of year when you’re making the rounds of parties for Christmas and the New Year.
Maybe you’re even hosting a few of these shindigs. (If that’s the case, then you’ll definitely need a way to relieve some stress!)
I want to lay down a challenge for you and your spouse. Be super intentional about communicating your sexual desire for each other at these gatherings — without being obvious about it.
There’s something beyond sexy about public display of affection (PDA).
I think this is particularly arousing if PDA isn’t really your thing. After courageously venturing into this arena, you may discover it is your thing!
Let those crowded chaotic boisterous parties be your opportunity to give AND receive PDA. It will make sexual connection even hotter when you crawl beneath the sheets after the party lights go down.
You may even be inspired to leave the party early!
Want some ideas? (Of course you do!)
Gals, you more than likely have an advantage in this department. There’s just something about fingernails and light caresses. Some great areas to run your fingernails? Back of the neck, just under the shirt cuff, along the arm, along the hand and fingers.
Get creative and make the most of those tingling touches with your fingernails. Your lover will totally get what you’re saying. And you won’t have to say a word.
What is it about that waistline area right in the center of the back? Husbands and wives can both make the most of affectionate touch in this area.
To make it especially sensuous, move your finger tips in a subtle, yet firm, circular motion, drifting along the waistline toward either hip or up the spine.
Okay, this might not count as true public display of affection, because it’s all about sneaking out of sight. Obviously, you have to be wise about this, especially if you are in someone else’s house.
But if you discern it’s appropriate and easy to sneak into the pantry, den or a hallway out of sight, then take the chance to have a passionate kiss or some less-than-subtle caressing.
Sure, you don’t want to announce in the presence of partygoers what you’re going to do later when you get naked.
But there’s no reason why you can’t whisper those things quietly to your lover. You know, while you’re going through the buffet line or making your way to the kitchen for a refill on your refreshment or cuddled up on the couch in the family room.
You don’t have to wait for a party to put your PDA plan into action. All of the above work well in other atmospheres as well — shopping at the mall, traveling in the car, waiting at the airport, going out to dinner, seeing a movie, running errands and so forth.
Make the most of your public display of affection! It will pay big dividends later! (And by later, I mean a few hours later. Literally. Just. A. Few. Hours. Later.)
Julie Sibert writes and speaks about sexual intimacy in marriage. You can follow her blog at www.IntimacyInMarriage.com. She lives in Omaha, Nebraska, with her husband and their two boys. When she's not writing, she's probably drinking ridiculously overpriced coffee.