Almost every couple I see in the counseling, at some point during that first meeting, will say, “Is there hope for us? Can this get better?” For the sake of our discussion, let’s assume the couple asking this question is not in any way, shape or form in an abusive relationship in which an [exit
If you and your husband decide to a trial separation, just be prepared for comments from others. They will assume. They will worry. Most of all, they will not know the right things to say. They will think of only two no-no words: marriage problems. Not that it’s any of their business. You’re simply telling
For the last couple of months, we’ve been focusing on the various relationships that can have a negative affect on marriages and send them into the Danger Zone. We discussed what the “fun” of fielding unsolicited (albeit well intentioned) advice from loved ones, and also how to spot the signs that a friendship might be
I thought after last month’s admittedly “heavy” topic, I’d change things up a little bit. This month, I’d like to take the ‘counselor’ hat off, and speak with you simply as “EJ—a 30-something modern woman navigating life, career and a marriage.” So here’s something I’ve heard used as a measuring stick for healthy relationships on
A few weeks ago, I asked a question on my Facebook page: Once you’re married—What are your thoughts on having friends of the opposite sex? Yay or Nay? Much to my delight, the responses came rolling in—each with equally unique perspectives and degrees of passion. One contributor offered a simple “Absolutely not. Completely inappropriate”. Other’s
Telling your wife you struggle with porn may scare you to death. However, you need to take these 5 reasons to heart and realize it’s time to open up.
As the weather gets more temperate and lovely here in Texas, my husband and I have been spending more time outside tending to the landscaping of our home. It all started two weeks ago because I had a “vision” of how I wanted our flower beds to look. However when we went outside to start
We’ve all been there. You have a stressful day at work and you come home feeling down, angry, worried or on edge. The last thing you want to do is end up taking it out on your spouse. While it’s completely natural to feel this way, it’s important that you take the time to find
Finding out that your spouse has been compulsively viewing porn in secret can be devastating.
Now you’re wondering what to do next: ignore it and hope it goes away? Confront them and demand change?
Do you consider yourself a supportive spouse to your husband or wife’s interests and aspirations? Do you value and support activities that are meaningful to them? I think in general, people like to consider themselves supportive of their loved ones. I have found— and truly this is just plain old common sense— that people are