We all know them…
Those couples who seem to have it all together.
They accomplish things together. They play together.
They genuinely seem happy and content.
They seem to have it all…
They are a Power Couple.
What’s their secret?
What is it that they’re doing to make their relationship so strong and enduring?
The secret is…
They work at their relationship. Every. Day.
What isn’t a secret is that you can have this kind of relationship too!
By replacing a few of those old energy-draining habits with some powerful new habits… you and your partner can power out of your relationship rut and into the marriage you’ve always wanted.
So what are these powerful habits?
Let’s take a look.
Power couples know that communicating is more than just “talking” to each other. They are open and genuine in expressing their feelings and needs.
They are present in the moment (yes, that means you have to put down the cell phone). They seek to understand first instead of thinking of their next response.
Power couples regularly engage in deep, emotional discussions that tap into a level of emotional intimacy that just “talking” misses. They nurture that emotional connection that is so vital to marital satisfaction.
If you need one more reason to improve your communication here it is…
Emotional intimacy lays the foundation for physical intimacy. Yes, a satisfying marital sex life starts in the head not in the… you know what.
Power couples know that what they put into the relationship will come back to them ten-fold. They make an effort, do the work and take the time necessary to keep the relationship healthy.
When you invest in your relationship… you trust what you give will grow. However if you invest nothing… you have zero chance of a return.
Investing sometimes means doing the hard things even when you don’t want to.
Compromising when you want to argue or seeing the positive in your partner even when they’re at their worst. Those kinds of actions build trust and commitment. Investing signals to your spouse, “You are worth the effort”.
Power couples know that intimacy is much more than just having sex. Intimacy is that emotional closeness between you and your partner that allows you both to let down your guard and share your innermost personal feelings.
Intimacy grows from spending quality time together. Power couples make it a point to do the little everyday things that connect them as a couple – like making it a priority to eat dinner together or taking an evening stroll. They create little everyday rituals that run through their lives like a thread keeping them connected.
Power couples know the power of thoughtful gestures: snuggling, hugging, hand-holding, sweet words – those little things that create closeness.
And here’s a bonus… Couples with higher levels of emotional intimacy tend to report greater satisfaction with their sex lives. And speaking of sex…
Emotional intimacy is important but let’s face it… we like to have sex too! Sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. Sadly, it’s also one of the first things that can fall by the wayside when life gets in the way.
Not connecting lately?
Power couples know that sometimes you have to leave a trail. A well-placed sexy note, a provocative text… even a whispered sweet nothing can bring your partner’s attention to the here and now.
Power couples know that you have to prioritize sexy time. Date nights, a spontaneous rendezvous, a surprise weekend getaway… even penciling yourself into your partner’s calendar can all keep sex on the schedule and just a little bit spicy.
The bottom line is… keep sex as a top priority.
Make no mistake… even power couples have their conflicts.
What sets them apart is the way they fight. Power couples know that when handled the right way conflicts are an opportunity for growth in the relationship.
So what does “fair fighting” mean?
In healthy relationships it means listening to understand each other’s feelings. It means looking for a solution and being willing to meet each other in the middle.
Fair fighting sometimes means apologizing when you need to. Yes, even power couples have to apologize sometimes. Hurtful words do tremendous damage. Once said aloud they can never be taken back.
If they do come out… a sincere apology can help the healing process to begin. Power couples know the power of accountability and forgiveness.
A marriage is not a contest and power couples know this. It’s not about “winners and losers”. It’s about finding solutions that empower you as a couple.
Want to learn more ways to power up your marriage? If so, you need to see this:
Investing in your relationship is the single most important thing you can do to build a strong, empowered and satisfying love.
The sooner you start, the sooner you can reap the rewards.
Be sure to check it out today…your spouse will definitely thank you for it!
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.