You hold the key to everything you want for your marriage, your family and your life.
In this post, I’d like to share with you how to make it happen.
We hear often about the many ways to improve your marriage.
You might hear that it’s all about open communication, a healthy handling of money, a strong faith life, great physical fitness, regular sex.
No doubt, these are all parts of a good marriage. If you could simply snap your fingers and instantly have them, life would be grand.
Of course, the reality is that you already feel way too stretched for time – you work a demanding job, you may have children to take care of, there are bills to pay this week and shopping to get done before Christmas (and more bills to follow).
That’s just the tip of the iceberg, and you haven’t even considered doing anything fun and fulfilling with your husband or wife.
It can all seem a bit daunting. Trust me, you are not alone in your desire to do more and have more and enjoy more in your married life.
I’d like you to read a little list and consider for just a moment that this describes your life.
Now, there are surely things on this list that you have no interest in doing, so just replace that item with something that’s important to you.
That’s a lot of great stuff, right?!?
Well, that’s a partial list of the things I’ve accomplished in the last three years.
I don’t say that to brag at all – and trust me when I say that my life used to be a basic mess with NO chance to accomplish these kinds of goals (more on that in my next post).
No, I share this only to show you what’s possible in your own life and in your own marriage. The opportunities ahead of you are amazing.
Now, you might look at that list of accomplishments and see many items that aren’t related to marriage. Health, spiritual life, money…what gives?
Our lives are holistic. What you do in one area of your life impacts all other areas of your life. And this is never more true than in your marriage.
Everything in your life affects your marriage. And your marriage impacts every aspect of your life.
Please take a moment to consider that fact. It’s super important and it holds a lot of promise for you and your spouse.
So here’s the big secret – the key to an amazing marriage is a little something called personal improvement.
When you improve yourself, you’ll improve your marriage and all aspects of your family life. This is especially true when you accomplish a big goal in an area that you’re currently struggling with.
Take a moment to consider an area of your life that you’d like to improve, and you’ll quickly realize that your marriage will be better when you make that positive change.
Hopefully, you recognize the power of improving yourself and what it means to your marriage and family. But the real question is HOW to actually make it happen.
Again, you are busy and maybe you’ve tried to make a similar change in the past and failed. New Year’s resolutions, anyone?
Here’s the best news of all. You really can make the change you want, and I’m going to help you.
The basic process is actually really simple. In fact, I’m going to lay it out for you in 5 simple steps right now.
1. Assess & Choose
One key to personal improvement is to focus on one area of your life at a time…just one. So in the first step, you’ll want to assess where you are in all six areas of your life, then pick the one you want to enjoy more success in first.
2. The Big Why
Before you jump into making a change, it’s vital that you first get your mindset in the right place and drill down why this is such a good thing for you and your marriage. This makes it easy to stay motivated and stick to your plan.
3. Get SMART
Simply put, this is goal setting on steroids. When you set goals the right way, you’ll be making progress right away and enjoying every small (and large) victory from day one.
4. Master Your Time
This is my favorite part. By applying a few “time-tested” strategies, you will enjoy much more time and margin in your life. I still remember the first time I did this and felt my stress level drop almost immediately (more on that later).
5. Do It for Life
Meeting even the most amazing goal is pretty worthless if you go right back to your old ways. The good news is that living intentionally and making your new accomplishment a habit in your life is really straightforward (and kinda fun).
That’s simple enough, right? This is totally something that you can accomplish, and you’re going to be so thankful when you do.
This is the general framework for how to accomplish anything you want in your life, and it’s been proven to work time and time again.
In fact, when applied the right way, you can meet life-changing goals in as little as 30 days.
Please be sure to check back to read our next post, because I’m going to share more details about how to put these 5 simple steps into action in your life so you can accomplish exactly what matters most to you. This is powerful information.
And I’ll share a personal story that I’ve never revealed on this blog before to show you what’s possible.
In the meantime, I really want to hear from you in the comments to this post. By sharing below, you’ll not only start to make your goal a reality in your own life, but you’ll inspire thousands of others to take a minute to think and share what matters most to them and their marriage.
Do yourself a favor and take a minute to consider where you’d most like to Improve Yourself in 2013. Then share your goal in the comments below.
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Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.