Take 15 Minutes Each Day to Just be a Couple

Amen, brother!! I love this, this is post has really spoken to me! I plan to print it out and make the time. You know, as well as I, in the busy day to day the “us” time is what often gets scarficed…Going to really make that 15 minute effort!!! Now if you could just talk to my kids about sleeping 🙂

Thanks, Jaycie! After I wrote this article, I realized that I need to practice what I preach a little closer on this topic. It is definitely easy to let the “couple time” slide with all of the busywork of life.

This is funny, my husband was so relieved when I told him I only need 10 to 20 minutes of conversation time to feel like we actually have a relationship. He was thinking he needed to romance me all the time, all day…I wondered where the heck he got that silly idea. Funny.

@Dennis:
These breakthroughs are are real sigh of relief arent they!

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I have heard this comment before on a sermon, but it so true. It’s so easy to fall of the wagon and get into a routine. Before you know it, it’s bed time! It’s hard to break away from the day, stop, and focus just on my spouse, but I know it’s very important. It’s important for my spouse and I to talk about our dreams, what makes us happy, and get to know each other just as we did as we were dating. This is an awesome post, Dustin!

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Geee can some male email me? I refuse to have a Facebook or tweeter,, I don’t have a social life outside my relationship unlike my wife or friend I ever do anything with such as simple coffee. My wife is the bread winner who handles it all while I work a low end job. I told I got to invest more into us over a clingy 3 year old who all about daddy still for the most part, and while my wife has her time with friends, their been no us time for 9 long years and I feeling like it totally my fault. My wife doesn’t like to be pushed to do anything and I have my flaws of repeated mistakes which makes me look bad. I don’t feel trusted I feel like their never even a chance for 15 mins of us cuz she always got something else going on and she departed last nite to basement and I had no clue why and when I go rnlooking for her I find her in basement with stair kid gate closed thining maybe I over looked her on main floor, yet I didn’t, so when I go down out of concern, and feel for her in our three year old bed, and ask why u down here, she snaps on me and says “YOU WAKING ME UP FOR THAT?!?!?!?!?!?! I realize best just walk upstairs again and put three year old in her best and come to this blog. I can afford 15 mins of US TIME DAILY, yet I can only ask and ne

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Hey Dustin, like you say, 15 minutes a day is so easy (once you change your mindset) and it’s so worth it for a marriage. For the last 5 years, this is something my wife and I have been employing along with date night every Saturday – we simply have a stand in babysitter for every Saturday. In addition to this, we also go on an annual date trip for 4 nights without the kids. At first, this seems hard to do but once you explain to the kids how important it is, they begin to understand and ease up. In addition to the 15 minutes, start dating your wife again and court her every day! I was almost divorced and now more than ever I appreciate my wife every day. It makes a world of difference. Great post you have here. Every one needs to pay attention to it for sure.

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Dustin,

This is really great advice. It’s the Slight Edge for married couples. One that is very easy to ignore in the most important relationship of all. Great article, great work!

Cheers,
Meetch

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Thank you, Dustin. This was a very helpful tip. I really love reading this article.

So many great tips. Couples often fail to realize the power of a kind word or simple gesture of love. Taking 5-10 mins before and after work can have a positive affect on the health of your relationships. Thanks for the great article.