On the Engaged Marriage Facebook page, Dustin will frequently ask what couples are planning to do over the weekend. I’m sure one of the reasons is because he’s interested in seeing what active couples do for fun on their time off together that will aid in the health of their marriage.
He also writes often on Engaged Marriage about how important it is to take time as a married couple to focus on just that: being a couple.
I’m not going to lie, my wife and I have 2 kids, with a 3rd on the way, and it’s hard as hell to find the time to really give each other the attention we both need.
I read Dustin’s questions on Facebook but rarely answer those questions because we typically don’t have much going on besides “the usual,” but this weekend is different. We do actually have plans that fit with the driving theme of Engaged Marriage, and I’m prepared to answer his question.
Tonight, my wife and I are dropping our kids off at their Grandparent’s house then we’re heading to The Hill in St. Louis (Italian District if you will) for dinner. Afterward, we’re going to see Jerry Seinfeld at The Fox theater and after that?
We’re staying the night at The Westin hotel. I even called ahead to make sure we got a room with a big bathtub because we plan to relax, together.
With no kids and everything planned out ahead of time the only thing we have to focus on is each other. And Jerry Seinfeld… and that’s really the secret.
Plan ahead. Just like putting chicken out to thaw for dinner that evening to avoid a run to McD’s, if you plan ahead, you can make it happen.
We do these “Super” date nights a couple times a year on top of a longer weekend (we prefer somewhere out of the state so we have to fly) for our anniversary. We do this because it allows us to simply be a married couple for a little bit. To rely on each other. To remind ourselves why we got married to begin with. To help keep our romance alive. To keep our marriage healthy.
Find the time. After all, life is too short not too. 🙂
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.