Living the Sacrament: A Catholic NFP Community

Living the Sacrament: A Catholic NFP Community

By Dustin | Sex & Family Planning

This guest post highlights a wonderful new online resource for women practicing NFP.  If you’ve been around Engaged Marriage very long, you’ll know that this topic is near and dear to me, and I love to share quality resources when I find them.

In the United States, only about 1.5% of women use a form of Natural Family Planning (see Reference 1 below).

Unfortunately, this often means that many of these women are isolated from others who use NFP. For instance, one of our council members, Larissa, drove over 60 miles to attend an NFP class with her fiancée.

Beyond family members, she did not know who else she could ask questions of, or share in the joys and struggles of practicing chastity within marriage. She often wondered:

  • “Does NFP really work? “
  • “How come nobody else is doing this?”
  • “Abstinence is a lot harder than I anticipated, how do other women cope?”

As Catholic women, we need a support system. Often due to daily workload, family commitments, and physical distance from others with similar beliefs, we can often feel isolated.

Recognizing this need for connection with others, five women, in the fall of 2010, decided to take this need to prayer and find a solution. We felt called to provide a place for others, like ourselves, to learn more about NFP and Catholic teachings on marriage and fertility.

We wanted women to have a safe space where they could receive encouragement and share ideas, supporting one another while living out their vocation. Thus, “Living the Sacrament: A Catholic NFP Community” was born!

Our Leadership Team

Like many of our members, our leadership team is spread out across the United States.  Kara is from Kentucky, Larissa is from California, CC is from Texas, Tara is from Arkansas, and Kristin is from North Dakota!

We have already begun adding international members to our site and hope to one day have them represented within leadership as well!

What You Can Expect to Find On-site

Women visiting our community can expect to chat with others who are striving for holiness whether they are single, dating, engaged, or married. Our members use a variety of NFP methods including CCL, Marquette, Billings, and Creighton, just to mention a few!

Our current membership also includes several women who are currently NFP instructors as well as an IBCLC or two. We do our best to honor and support one another in following the teachings of the Catholic Church and encourage our members to do so as well.

More specifically, we provide online forums for women prayerfully using NFP within their marriages to postpone pregnancy, achieve pregnancy, and cope with fertility issues. There are also spaces for sharing parenting advice, posting prayer requests, asking questions about faith and marriage, and even for reviewing products we have used in our homes.

It is our greatest hope that all women will receive the love and support they need and that those still struggling with their fertility choices will be moved to abandon artificial contraception in favor of Natural Family Planning.

Do I Need To Be Catholic Or Married To A Catholic In Order To Join?

Absolutely not! We welcome women of all faiths to join us if they feel the need for support in their lives or would simply like to learn more about Natural Family Planning!

We do however expect the conversations of our members and content of our site to uphold the teachings of the Catholic Church.

What about the Men?

While we are currently a women-only site, we cannot forget the importance of support for our husbands and Catholic Men in general.

Natural Family Planning is about both husband and wife, working together with shared fertility to uphold the virtues of a chaste marriage. And this is often not an easy task. Historically, there has been even less support for our husbands than for us.

There are two sites in particular that we would like to encourage Catholic Men to check out!  The first is The National Fellowship of Catholic Men.  They are on the verge of opening The Global Catholic Men’s Community. We believe this will be a wonderful resource for all Catholic Men.  You can learn more about their plans here.

The second resource is Catholic Dads Online, a wonderful ministry that allows blogging Catholic Dads from all over the globe to share with one another through their personal writings and life experiences. If you don’t have a blog yourself don’t let that stop you.

Read along and join in the conversation!

How To Join Us at Living The Sacrament

To better assure the privacy of our members and allow them the freedom to seek support in areas that are sometimes difficult to talk about, we are a private forum.  This simply means that our main forum is not viewable to non-registered members.

To log-in, you will first need to register and your account will need to be activated by an admin which can happen almost instantly or take as long as 12 hours depending on if one of us is online at the time of your submission.

We Look Forward to Serving You!

Although we just recently opened, our membership is steadily growing with both national and international members! We welcome women from all over the world to come connect with others in their search for holiness.

We look forward to meeting you!

Reference 1: Chandra, A; Martinez GM, Mosher WD, Abma JC, Jones J. (2005). “Fertility, Family Planning, and Reproductive Health of U.S. Women: Data From the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth” (PDF). Vital Health Stat (National Center for Health Statistics) 23 (25). Retrieved 2007-05-20. See Table 56.

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About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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Thank you so much for the opportunity to introduce ourselves Dustin! I’ll pop back in throughout the day in case anyone has any questions about the site they’d like answered!

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    Dustin

    Kristin, it’s definitely my pleasure. You are doing such great work, and I’m always happy to shed some much needed light on Natural Family Planning!

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This looks like a *great* resource. Thank you for getting the word out! I am also pleased to see recommendations for Catholic men. One of the most rewarding aspects of using NFP in marriage for me and my new hubby is that we are both invested in our fertility as a couple.

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    Dustin

    Right on, Sarah! I’m so excited about your new marriage and know that practicing NFP will really enhance your intimacy and communication.

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David

We’ve tried NFP with our third child and I can attest that it works, however not 100% guaranteed (nothing ever is), so try at your own risk. After already having two daughters, we wanted to have a boy, so we tried the “Shettles Method”, which basically takes into consideration the natural structure and functions of the male sperms and female eggs, as well as timing of both the male and female cycles and chemistry. The method will require you have buy a LH (leutinizing hormone) tester, available over the counter. These are just a few things about NFP that I discovered. There are a wealth of information on the web and book stores for your reference. Hopes this helps.

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    Dustin

    That’s really interesting, David, and I appreciate you sharing your story. That’s the first time I’ve heard of the Shettles Method, but then again we were never worried about the sex of our babies. We didn’t even find out until they were each born. ­čÖé

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Dixie

I have very much enjoyed being a member of Livingthesacrament.com as it is a wonderful supportive community full of people who value life! I am so glad I found it. Please come and join us.

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    Dustin

    That’s awesome, Dixie. Thanks for stopping by!

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Jessica

Great idea! I have actually come across several Catholic friends (married women) who use NFP, but as a military spouse, we never happen to live in the same place for long! Thanks for sharing!

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    Dustin

    This sounds like a perfect resource for your NFP-practicing friends, Jessica. Please share!

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MWeekly

Wow, this is the first time I’ve heard of this.
So interesting, I’m going to dig a little more. Thanks for the post!

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Sounds like a great resource. I find it really difficult to find other people using NFP. Even in catholic circles, artificial contraception is so common. Sometimes it will come up in conversation, but never very far. I don’t ever want to force the issue, because i don’t want to be seen as condemning people for using artifical contraception and that i see myself as being better than everyone else. Whenever i bring it up, i usually get an awkward silence. I’m sure that there must be other people using NFP around, but probably feel the same and don’t want to bring it up. But i’d love to discuss it further with other people.

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