I get emails from readers all the time and, in general, I really enjoy it.  I honestly believe that the Engaged Marriage community is one of the best around, and you always have kind words, constructive feedback and excellent ideas and guest posts to share.

However, from time-to-time, I get an email from a reader who needs more help than I can offer.  They may have experienced deeply broken trust, a serious breakdown in communication or what seems like a loss of love.

This apparent loss of love could be one-sided or a mutual feeling, but it usually comes in the form of “I still love you but I don’t think I’m in love with you anymore” or perhaps “I just don’t feel attracted to you in a sexual way anymore” or something similar.

When faced with these types of emails, I’m usually full of mixed emotions.  I take them quite personally and often discuss the situation presented with Bethany (my wife).  I can share my personal thoughts and opinions, but I am always careful to state up-front that I am not a professional counselor and issues running this deep in a marriage are beyond my capabilities to handle responsibly.

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So what can I do for a reader in need?  Up until this point, I would offer my prayers and tell them to seek professional counseling in their local area.  I think this is good advice and in-person counseling is an excellent option, but couples will oftentimes throw up excuses when faced with this option.  Counseling requires scheduled time away from the house, it can be quite expensive and the one-on-one in-person setting can be intimidating (and it somehow feels like you’re “admitting” there’s a problem in your relationship).

Well, today I’m very excited to let you know that I have an excellent resource to recommend to the Engaged Marriage community when a need for professional help or simply a fresh perspective presents itself in their marriage.

Introducing “Blow Up My Marriage”

You may be familiar with Dr. Corey Allan and his site Simple Marriage.  I’m a monthly columnist there because I believe in the site’s message and approach to marriage.  Corey is a professional marriage and family therapist as well as a Ph.D. and all-around great guy.

When Corey approached me to share his ideas and early successes with a new course known as Blow Up My Marriage, I was both excited and looking for more information.  Here’s what you’ll learn in this class:

  • How to create the best marriage from your strengths, not by looking at what’s wrong.
  • How to see that it’s the relationship that’s the issue, not you or your spouse.
  • Why you never want to lean on your spouse.
  • How to create a great life and have your marriage be the icing on the cake.
  • And, how to transform your sex life.

Well, after hearing about these benefits, I was intrigued and that’s when Corey shared the details of the course, which you can read more about over at his site.  I explained to Corey about the problems I have with readers in tough situations that I can’t address, and he explained that this course would be a great fit for most of those couples.  Based on his site, here’s the intended audience for Blow Up My Marriage:

  • are constantly fighting
  • have experienced a betrayal via an emotional affair
  • have a spouse caught up in pornography usage
  • are in a monotonous marriage
  • consider themselves a Nice Guy or Nice Girl
  • are gridlocked on several issues in the relationship

If this sounds like something you or a friend or loved one could benefit from, from I highly recommend you check out this course.

If you are having any of the issues discussed above in your own marriage, I’m still happy to receive your emails.  However, if you tell me you’re not ready for in-person counseling, I will likely tell you to lose the excuses and then suggest that you check out the Blow Up My Marriage course to see if it is a good fit for you.


About the author 


Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. This course is necessary for any marriage that is ready to move past where they are. I would suggest to any of you that are sitting on the fence that you do it! You’ll be amazed at the transformation that can happen when you apply yourself to your marriage.

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