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If you had no preconceived notions, and you spent even one day simply watching television, reading magazines and browsing the social media updates of the most popular sites on the web, what impression would you have of marriage?
I’m afraid you’d learn that marriage is an antiquated idea where two people are imprisoned in a house together with no sex life and lots of bitterness.
You’d be led to believe that most couples get divorced and those that don’t are either naive or they’ve been brainwashed by their church or family to continue to suffer. You’d learn that married couples are missing out on freedom, personal fulfillment and lots of exciting, casual sex.
Well, I believe differently.
Despite all the forces against traditional marriage these days, I still believe in it. I believe that marriage is good and that it’s a worthy vocation for many.
I believe that strong marriages are the key to making the world a better place.
Here are a few reasons that I’ve come to believe so deeply in this old-school institution:
As a Christian, I believe plenty of counter-cultural ideas, and one of my deepest beliefs is that God has a special plan for each of us. For many, I think we find our highest calling as a married couple leading a family.
God gave us an example through the holy family of Joseph, Mary and Jesus. And he gave us the ultimate example of love and commitment through the passion of Jesus Christ.
While it requires a spiritual lens, I see the relationship between Jesus (groom) and his Church (bride) as a beautiful example of married love. And I’m super wacky because I think us married couples have the opportunity to serve the world and be an example of God’s love to others in the way we live out our marriages.
The reality is that the example of married life I grew up with was pretty bad. It left me wondering how marriage could really work (and a lot of other questions).
Fortunately, I did have healthy models of married life to experience outside of my own home. I could see the goodness of married dedication through my friends’ parents, and I ended up finding one of the strongest examples of a great marriage in Bethany’s parents.
In fact, their relationship went a long way toward helping me choose to be a Christian in my college years.
Last but most importantly, I live the gift of marriage every day.
Like all couples, Bethany and I have our “moments” but we are certainly a happy and blessed couple. Marriage is one of the absolute best parts of my life, and I know God has called me to be a good husband and father, even if he chose a pretty crazy path to lead me through to get here.
I obviously care a lot about marriage, and about YOUR marriage, which is why Engaged Marriage exists. Like I said, I think that we can change the world for the better by supporting and encouraging strong marriages.
But the bottom line is that no matter what TMZ reports or a sitcom portrays, I still believe in marriage because marriage is so good for me.
Thank God for that.
I wrote this post as part of a worldwide blog tour to raise awareness about happy marriages, coinciding with the release of a new book by a dear friend of mine.
Fawn Weaver is an awesome person who has taken a stand for the goodness of love and marriage, and I’m thrilled to support her and her great book – Happy Wives Club.
I encourage you to check it out and read about the best marriage secrets the world has to offer. She traveled to six continents to write it, and it’s truly a gift. Here’s a short video trailer for the book for you to enjoy.
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.