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Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

How to Confront Your Husband About Flirting (without Starting a Fight)

By Dustin | Communication

4 Inspired Ways to Get the Respect You Deserve

Is a woman flirting with your husband at work?  Or maybe he’s the one flirting with another woman?  

Either way, it is crazy-making to deal with a flirty husband!  It’s scary to think what that might lead to. 

It’s also just plain hurtful to live with. 

Does he really expect you to turn a blind eye to such blatant misbehavior?  How are you supposed to ignore his ogles, smiles, and winks?

That’s not right.  He should be more respectful and control himself.

But what if he won’t? 

It’s embarrassing, and it can make you feel like a fool. 

Fortunately, you can use your influence to put an end to such disrespect.

Here are 4 ways to end the flirting problem and get the respect you deserve, without having to just ignore it.  

1. Don’t Make This Very Common Mistake 

Flirting has many purposes.  

It could be reward-seeking or looking for proof that he’s still “got it.” 

It could be an awkward way of getting your attention, even if it’s negative.

It could also be a way to shore up a self-esteem issue.

That doesn’t make it right. 

That doesn’t make it okay. 

But knowing that could be a clue that helps you resolve the issue.

Here’s what I mean: No marriage is perfect – not even mine. If yours isn’t perfect either and if your husband is dissatisfied with the relationship because you’re unhappy with him (maybe because of all his ogling), he may compensate with what he considers harmless flirting.

We all have a deep need to be heard and seen and known in big and small ways. That’s just human. If he’s looking for that, ask yourself: Has he been able to get that from me recently?

I’m NOT saying his flirting is your fault. Not at all. 

But if your relationship is falling short or you’ve lost the joyful spark that attracted him in the first place, then you have more power than you realize to keep his wandering eyes firmly planted on you. 

And it’s not going to happen by scowling at him, even though you’re hurt and upset.

That’s a very common mistake I see so many women making, but it actually makes things worse because what he’s missing the most is your happy, sexy smile directed at him.

Have you flashed him one of those recently? Can he still get the validation and approval from you that he used to get?

It’s easy to become serious or overwhelmed when there’s a lot on your plate. You may have lost the playfulness you once had.

Consider what’s happening on your side of the street. 

Ask yourself if you have behaviors that might cause your spouse to feel insecure? 

Of course you don’t intend to make him feel insecure, but him flirting could actually be a symptom that he’s not sure you think he’s still “got it.”

Just letting him know that you think he does could go a long way toward ending his flirting with others.

2. Avoid Unwittingly Making His Flirting Worse 

When Mia was worried about her husband’s too-close-for-comfort relationships with other women, she laid down the law and made it clear that if he ever cheated, she’d be out of there. 

Guess what happened after her ultimatum?  He cheated. 

Author John Gray of Mars and Venus fame nailed it: “When a man does not feel loved just the way he is, he will either consciously or unconsciously repeat the behavior that is not being accepted. He feels an inner compulsion to repeat the behavior until he feels loved and accepted.”

That’s not to say it was Mia’s fault, but it was a painful lesson for her that what she focuses on increases.  Now that she has shifted her focus to how faithful he is and how much he wants to please her, she’s the one he’s flirting with!  

No one likes a nag.  If you bring up every one-off instance where he flirted, that will only make him feel like your personal punching bag, and he’ll retreat even further. 

Also, if you’re anything like me, you don’t just want him to stop flirting, you want him to want to stop flirting.  But laying down the law does just the opposite of what you want it to do. The moment you make an ultimatum, you’re dangling forbidden fruit that actually makes him more likely to continue the unwanted behavior, as I explain here.

Is there a certain stressor in your marriage that leads to him flirting?  For instance, does he get more flirtatious with other women after you’ve had a nasty spat? 

It can be even more crazy-making when that happens, but consider the possibility that you could interrupt the whole vicious cycle yourself by changing up just your lines in the familiar argument you have about flirting, just like Mia did. 

3. Get More Respect and Reconnect with These Three Words  

Men want to feel masculine.  Going into mom mode by scrutinizing his every move tends to have the opposite effect (not to mention killing the intimacy since nobody wants to have sex with his mother).

So don’t get too caught up in the details of his flirting, like saying, “Remember that one time you ogled the barista and the waitress after and the very next day the crossing guard?” 

Naming names will put him on the defensive.  Nobody’s at their best when they feel defensive.

Instead, listen to his side of the story, even if you don’t agree with it.  Simply responding with “I hear you” when he opens up and shares with you is a magical way to create a culture of mutual respect.  

After all, conflict resolution is a two-way street.  

If you’re not rehashing the dirty details of his deeds, what are you supposed to communicate about?  Try recognizing his strengths and the strengths of your relationship.  Consider going a step further and actually expressing your gratitude for all those strengths. 

This does double-duty: You quit giving oxygen to the behavior you don’t want (which actually increased it), instead increasing what you do want to see more of.  

You’ll also create a culture of gratitude this way, so be prepared to be on the receiving end of lots more appreciation! 

4. Bring the Butterflies Back

Make your marriage fun!  Use tiny gestures that show him your flirty side.  Hugging, kissing, and handholding are all strong relationship anchors. 

An old ad for jeans wisely put it this way: You flirt not because he looks good but because YOU do.

In other words, feeling good about yourself – whether it’s because you gave yourself a pedicure, are flush from a brisk walk, or spent the whole day at a spa–is a great springboard to flirting.

Outside flirting is often a way for him to rediscover the passion and excitement you shared in the early days of your relationship.  If you miss that too, think about what you could do to bring back those butterflies-in-your-stomach moments.

When Candace’s husband’s flirtation with his secretary went too far and he told his wife he needed a three-month break from her, she went full Goddess of Fun and Light mode.  She piled on the fun, indulged in activities that made her happy, making a point to schedule at least three per day. 

She dialed up the gender contrast by dressing sexy and feminine.  She honored her desires, even buying herself flowers.  As she focused on what she wanted, she considered going overseas to pursue her studies. 

But her husband talked her out of it!  

She’d become so irresistible that he couldn’t even wait three months before coming back home.  He started saying “I love you” several times a day, which he had never done in all their years together.  He now held her so tightly at night that she ended up sleeping crooked so as not to forego the delicious snuggling.   

The chemistry was definitely back!  And the extracurricular flirting was gone.

The same can happen in your relationship when you focus on doing the things that bring you closer.

About Laura Doyle

Hi! I’m Laura.

I was the perfect wife – until I actually got married. When I tried to tell my husband how to be more romantic, more ambitious, and tidier, he avoided me. I dragged him to marriage counseling and nearly divorced him. I then started talking to women who had what I wanted in their marriages and that’s when I got my miracle. The man who wooed me returned.

I wrote a few books about what I learned and accidentally started a worldwide movement of women who practice The Six Intimacy Skills™ that lead to having amazing, vibrant relationships. The thing I’m most proud of is my playful, passionate relationship with my hilarious husband John – who has been dressing himself since before I was born.

The Often Overlooked Factor That Has The Biggest Impact on Your Relationship

By Dustin | Communication

Have you ever known a couple that has huge arguments and blow-outs, but is also so in love that they couldn’t live without each other?

Relationships are rife with conflict. But make no mistake: relationships are also our number one source of happiness. Nothing else comes close to it.

Success, wealth, or achievement can’t take the place of fulfilling relationships. Nothing else tugs as tight on our hearts or delights our spirits more than a relationship that meets our longing for belonging.

This, unfortunately, is where the problem lies.

We want to belong. We want to feel like we’re not alone.

Whether that’s home with a partner you love…

Or in the office, feeling like you’re valued and appreciated…

Or around friends and family; those who understand what you’re like…

You long to belong!

This places a lot of pressure on your relationships. Maybe you put so much pressure on yours that you define your happiness and self-worth based on the strength of them. You want them to be strong and healthy. So, as soon as you hit a problem you immediately jump to a solution to improve it.

Maybe this is why you’re reading this article right now…

The problem with this is, you miss the most important aspect that impacts your relationships.

And, you overlook the actual root cause of your pain: your own wholeness.

Why Wholeness Has a Huge Impact on Your Relationships

Although relationships are the number one source of happiness, they will never complete you.

If you try to build intimacy with another before you have gotten whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself. This is why so many relationships fall flat or fail. Nobody else can complete you. Not a friend, colleague, family member, or even your soul mate.

Nobody can do that work for you. 

They can help you, as iron sharpens iron. 

But you are the one who must do the work.

Any relationship you have with another can only be as healthy as the one you have with yourself.

So although you may have arrived here wanting to improve your relationship with your:

… I’ll instead encourage you to focus on the relationship you have with yourself.

How To Move Towards Wholeness

There’s a lot that goes into making yourself whole. It’s often a life-long journey.

The sooner you start it, the better; the sooner you can finally be whole and feel like you belong.

Until you feel whole, nobody else will fill the void.

You can read books and try every trick in them, but you’ll keep returning to the same point.

Here are a few ways you can move toward wholeness.

1: Define What Being Whole Means To You

Whatever your baggage or background, I know at least one thing about you:

Each day you either move away from or toward the person you want to be.

You’re either maximizing your moments or allowing them to slip by without notice.

It’s hard to know which camp you fit into unless you know where you’re heading.

  • What does wholeness mean to you?
  • What does progress look like?
  • How will you know when you arrive?

Too many people live life with no thought of where they’re going. 

Yet if you want to feel whole, you must first define what it is.

This is unique to you, too. For one person, feeling whole may involve: the freedom to work wherever you like, whenever you like; feeling healthy and fit; have time each day to reflect and enjoy a little “me” time…

Whereas for someone else, feeling whole may center around: family, spending time with your kids each day and enjoying adventures with one another.

There is no right or wrong.

It’s about what’s right for you.

What makes you whole?

What does wholeness look like to you?

2: Appreciate You Are Not, And Never Will Be Perfect

Nobody is perfect. Not even healthy and happy people. 

In fact, the truly healthy and happy ones own their dark side; their ugly parts

They recognize and study their personal flaws, wounds, and idiosyncrasies. 

Knowing they have blind spots, they’re on an unending quest for better self-insight. 

Through good times and bad, they continue on their journey to improve. Their brokenness and failures become the reason to grow, not a deterrent from it. They embrace that they’ll never be perfect.

They may never quite reach the point they’re driving toward.

And they are okay with this because their real purpose is the journey they’re on.

3: Be Content With The Present And Grateful For The Past

To use the thoughts of Epicurus: the most contented people remember the past with gratitude and accept their present situation without coveting what someone else has.

We all have a past.

Some of it is good.

Other parts of it are bad.

To become whole, you must accept the past for what it is; to be at peace with it; grateful, even.

It’s impossible to feel content with what you have, otherwise.

How can you possibly live in the moment if you cling to the past?

Yet once you do live in the moment, you can be thankful and grateful for what you have. 

No longer envious of what other people own, you can finally become whole.

4: You Have A Choice, And It’s Yours Alone

“I never knew I had a choice.”

It’s the saddest sentence I ever hear when counseling someone.

Many things in life are beyond your control. 

But there is a vast, unclaimed territory of actions over which you do. 

These actions involve the countless choices you make—or do not makeevery day.

These choices go on to define your life and how you feel about… everything.

Whatever your situation is, I promise you that you do have a choice.

If you wish to become whole, it’s within your control.

If you want to heal your relationships (with others and yourself), you can choose to whenever you like.

5: Be Aware of Where You Are Right Now

This final step is actually the first one.

Before you can define where you’re going and who you want to become, you must first appreciate where you are.

  • How you’re feeling.
  • How you currently act (and react).
  • The state of your relationships overall.
  • The state of your most important relationships.
  • The state of the relationship you have with yourself!

A question I’m often asked is:

What’s the single most important thing you can do for your relationships?

I offer a simple answer: Get Healthy!

When relationships go bad, we look for things (or people) to blame.

We expect relationships to make us feel better about ourselves.

This is wrong. It’s the other way around.

Our relationships improve once we improve the one we have with ourselves. 

This begins once you gain an awareness of where you are.

You are not perfect and you never will be. So, embrace the point you’re at.

To help you discover this, I’ve prepared a Free Assessment you can take. This free assessment shows you ways you can destroy toxic self-talk and revolutionize your relationships.

The way you talk to yourself prevents you from being (and feeling) whole

Take back control. Once you do, you can mend those relationships that feel most broken.

#1 New York Times bestselling author Dr. Les Parrott  is a psychologist and author of best-selling books including Love Talk, The Good Fight, Crazy Good Sex, and the award-winning Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts.

His work has been featured in the New York Times and USA Today and on CNN, Good Morning America, the Today Show, The View, and Oprah.

Please check out his latest work and take his free assessment for the health of your self talk (and relationships) by visiting HealthyMeHealthyUs.com.

A Creative Date Idea for Parents: Ask the Kids

By Dustin | Romance

Creative Date Idea for Parents - Ask the Kids

When you’re a parent with young kids, it can be difficult to carve out time to spend with your partner.  You might be so exhausted that the idea of coming up with a creative date idea for parents seems like climbing an impossibly high mountain.

What if you didn’t have to do the creative thinking?

One of my favorite ways of coming up with creative ideas for date night is to outsource the thinking to my children.

Kids are naturally creative – and there are some real benefits to getting them involved in planning your next date night.

Creative Date Ideas for Parents…from Kids

It might seem odd at first to include your kids in the planning of your next date night, but your kids will love the idea of being involved.

And, you can bet that they’ll come up with some fun and interesting ideas for you and your husband or wife.

You never know what experience awaits you when you let your kids plan your date.

If your kids are too young to come up with ideas, you can ask nieces or nephews – or if your kids have flown the next, try asking your grandchildren!

Give the children at least a week’s notice and ask them to design a fun date night that you can experience together.

If you want to keep it a surprise, you can wait until the day of your date to have them reveal their ideas.

Or, if you prefer, you can ask them a few days ahead of time, so you can make plans.

From the Mouths of Babes

You may be pleasantly surprised by the creative ideas that your kids have.

They’re likely to include some things that you may not consider traditional date night activities, such as:

Your job is to do your very best to live out their ultimate date night.

We recommend taking photographs as proof that you used their ideas. Photos will also show your kids that you appreciate and value their input.

The Benefits of Having Your Kids Plan Your Date Night

Having your kids plan your next date night can be fun, but that’s not the only reason to do it.

The truth is that every time you interact with your spouse, you’re showing your kids what a happy and healthy marriage looks like.

When your kids come up with a date idea for their parents, they’re learning these things:

  1. Parents are people too, and they need time to spend with one another away from the kids. Spending time as a couple doesn’t mean that you don’t love them and value them. It just means that your relationship is important.
  2. All of you are a family unit and even when you spend time apart from them, they are an important part of your life. Having their input is a way of showing them that you care about what they think and how they feel.
  3. It teaches kids to respect your couple time and value it as something that’s necessary and beneficial to the whole family. When you have time alone, it makes your family time all the more precious.
  4. It encourages your kids to think creatively and teaches them compassion as they work to come up with date ideas that will appeal to you and your spouse.

When your kids grow older and begin their search for partners, they’ll remember that you and your partner made time for one another while still respecting your kids.

That’s a lesson that will increase the chances of them having happy and healthy relationships of their own.

Get Out of Your Date Night Rut

It’s easy to fall into a rut with date night. A lot of couples end up doing the same thing every time they go out rather than trying to find a creative date idea for parents.

A kid-planned date night is by definition going to be different from anything you might come up with on your own. Your kids are less likely to fall back on the tried and true.

They might come up with ideas that truly surprise (or even shock) you – but that’s all the more reason to stay open to what they suggest and make a sincere effort to do it.

Keeping the spark in your marriage requires dedication and effort!

If you close yourself off to the idea of having fun with your spouse, you may end up losing sight of what you love about them.

Getting your kids to come up with a creative date idea for their parents is a great way to keep things fresh, exciting, and new.

The next time you plan to go out with your spouse, have your kids plan a creative date idea instead of doing the same old thing. It will bring you close to your partner and your kids.

Oh, and by the way…if you’d like a PDF summary of this article, please click here now to get yours (on me, no opt-in required).

Managing Finances in Marriage: The Happy Couple’s Guide to Success

By Dustin | Finances & Careers

Managing Finances in Marriage

Arguing about money is such a common problem in marriage that it’s almost a cliché. While couples certainly fight about other issues, managing finances in marriage properly is something that can stop a lot of arguments before they start.

The key to managing finances in marriage is communication. If you don’t talk about money when you’re both in a calm state of mind, you’re certainly not going to be able to discuss it when you’re having a problem that’s related to money.

Fortunately, we’re here to help. There are some things you can do now that will set you up for financial stability in the future.

Identify Financial Areas of Concern

Sometimes, couples make the mistake of overlooking certain aspects of financial planning. They might focus on household expenses but forget to talk about insurance.

Here are the crucial aspects of finance that should be part of your conversations as husband and wife.

  1. Budgeting
  2. Investment planning
  3. Tax planning
  4. Retirement planning
  5. Insurance planning
  6. Estate planning
  7. College planning (if you have kids)

The goal should be to take as comprehensive a look at your finances as possible. That way, you can plan everything and reduce the likelihood of being caught by surprise.

Long-Term Financial Goals

Once you’ve identified all the areas of your finances to discuss, you can start by opening up a conversation about your long-term financial goals. Where do you want to be in:

  • One year?
  • Three to five years?
  • Ten years or more?

Looking at the big picture first is necessary because it can help you set the right kind of goals – what we like to call SMART goals. That means that your goals must be:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Actionable
  • Realistic
  • Time-bound

In other words, this isn’t the time for nebulous, poorly-defined goals.

Managing Finances in Marriage with a Budget That Works

With your goals in hand, the next step is creating a budget to help you control your spending and save money to meet your goals.

We recommend using the three bucket system for budgeting. The buckets work like this:

  1. Bucket #1 is the Static Bucket. It’s for your fixed expenses, the things that stay the same each month, including your rent or mortgage, utility bills, cell phone bills, and insurance premiums. It should account for no more than 50% of your income.
  2. Bucket #2 is the Control Bucket. This bucket is for your regular but variable expenses, including things like groceries, gas, eating out, and entertainment. It should account for no more than 30% of your income.
  3. Bucket #3 is the Dynamic Bucket. This bucket is for things that aren’t regular expenses, and may include extra debt payments, savings, or even a vacation or holiday fund. It should account for at least 20% of your income.

Be sure to check out our full guide to budgeting for married couples. Your budget will help you with the next step.

Automate Your Finances

One of the keys to good financial management for married couples is automation. We all get busy and distracted at times, but you don’t want your credit rating or finances to suffer as a result.

Automation works in two ways. For the things in your Static Bucket, the best way to automate is to set up an account for those budget items, transfer money into it when you get paid, and sign up for automatic bill payments whenever possible.

The items in the other two buckets can’t be automated in this way. However, you can set up separate accounts and transfer 30% and 20% of your paycheck respectively into each of the two accounts.

You may want to make the 20% transfer for your Dynamic Bucket into an interest-bearing savings account. From there, you can always transfer some to an IRA or to a checking account so you can make extra debt payments.

Pay Down Your Debt

If you’re carrying any credit card debt, use some of the money in your Dynamic Bucket to pay it down as soon as possible. You might not think it makes much of a difference, but let’s look at an example.

Imagine you have $3,500 of debt on a credit card with a 14% interest rate. If you make the minimum monthly payment of $75.83 per month, it will take you 19 years to be debt-free and you’ll have paid $3,583.18 in interest.

Add an additional $10 over the minimum payment each month, and your payment time is reduced to 4 years and 8 months. $20 over the minimum brings it down to four years, and $50 over the minimum would mean that you’d be able to pay off the debt in 2 years and 10 months.

How Much Interest are You Really Paying?

Not only is the timing more favorable, but you’ll end up paying significantly less in interest, too. You already know you’d be paying more than $3,500 in interest on the 19-year plan. Here’s how the extra payments help:

  • $10 a month extra reduces your interest total to $1,278.74
  • $20 a month extra reduces your interest total to $1,087.92
  • $50 a month extra reduces your interest total to $756.11

If you can budget $50 a month toward debt reduction, you can save almost $3,000 in interest. That money could go toward a down-payment on a new home or car, or it could pay for a family vacation.

Two Approaches to Paying Down Debt for Managing Finances in Marriage

You can choose between two methods if you have debt to pay down. The first is the snowball method, which pays off the lowest balance first before moving onto the next balance.

The second is the avalanche method, which pays off the balance with the highest interest rate first. You should choose the one that works best for you.

We recommend being as aggressive as you can afford to be while paying down debt. The benefits and savings are clear, and this is a critical first step to successfully managing finances in marriage.

Maximize Your Retirement Savings

Once your debt reduction plan is in place, you can turn your attention to saving for retirement. You can and should take advantage of:

  • Work-related retirement plans like 401(k), 403(b) and pension plans
  • Individual retirement savings accounts like IRAs and Roth IRAs
  • Social Security

Make sure to take advantage of employer matching funds, which many companies offer to employees who enroll in a 401(k) or 403(b) plan.

You should also Vanguard’s retirement calculator, which you can find here, or the Flexible Retirement Planner, which you can find here.

Finally, you may want to consider making some investments outside of your retirement plans. Some to consider, from most to least risky, include:

  • Art/Collectibles
  • Stocks
  • Real Estate
  • Corporate Bonds
  • Government Bonds
  • CDs and Money Market Accounts

You should diversify your investments to minimize your risk. It’s never a good idea to put all of your financial eggs in one basket.

Make Managing Finances a Shared Goal

Perhaps the most important financial goal you can have in your marriage is to talk about money regularly.

After all, your finances affect both of you, and your kids if you have them. Talking to your honey about money will minimize conflict and maximize your chances for success.

If you’d like to dig deeper on the topic of managing finances in marriage, be sure to check out our full step-by-step workshop with our favorite financial planner.

Try a Cooking Class Date with Your Spouse

By Dustin | Romance

Cooking Class DateIn a recent post, I shared a way to reconnect with your spouse while staying home on date night. This time, you’re going to go outside of the house on a cooking class date.

I’m not talking about a restaurant, though.

How engaging is to go out to eat? You come in, you sit down, and you’re served.

Don’t get me wrong, I love dining with my wife. It’s nice to get away from it all and be treated from time to time.

But imagine having all that, PLUS an innovative and fun learning experience. There’s an added engagement from doing or making something together in addition to just talking that really stands out.

Consider a Cooking Class Date

Part of a long-lasting relationship is growing together and trying new things. It means having new experiences, new adventures, and new challenges…together.

I’m going to suggest you try skipping the typical evening out at the same old restaurant and enjoy an intimate and educational session on a cooking class date instead.

After that, you’ll have a follow-up session at home later on to keep the good times going!

Find Cooking Classes

To prepare, one of you will search for local cooking classes. There are several ways to find out what classes are offered in your area, including:

  • You can ask friends for referrals, which increases your odds of picking a good place.
  • Google “date night cooking class near [your hometown]” and you’ll find plenty of options.
  • Many classes are offered inside of higher-end grocery or retail stores like Whole Foods and Sur La Table, and the prices are comparable to dinner out at a decent restaurant.
  • Local cooking schools sometimes offer classes to the general public.
  • You probably get catalogs full of community classes in the mail from time to time, showing adult education classes offered to the public for a modest price.
  • Next time you’re in a coffee shop, check out the corkboard as there are often flyers for local cooking classes posted there along with other community events.
  • Checking Groupon.com is a great way to see who is offering classes at a discount. If you can save a few bucks in the process, why not!
  • You can even hire expert cooks and chefs in your area using Thumbtack.com to give you a personalized cooking class date, as low as $40/person in some areas.

Picking the Right One for You

So many choices! No worries, you’re sure to find the ideal place for this memorable date night. The next step is choosing the right one.

Pro Tip: Make it as interactive as you can.

You’ll find options for classes where a chef does all of the cooking and you simply watch, enjoy a cocktail, and then eat when they’re finished.

However, for your cooking class date night, look for an interactive class instead where someone leads the way but the two of you actually get your hands dirty and prepare your own meal.

You’ll learn a lot about the foods you’re creating and have plenty of time (and reason) to laugh along the way as you learn new skills.

The type of food is also a consideration and a chance to show your thoughtfulness.

  • What kind of foods does your spouse like?
  • Is there something maybe they’ve always wanted to try?
  • A favorite country’s cuisine?
  • What about you?

Here’s your chance to kill two birds with one stone and learn something that will benefit both of your lives while also improving your relationship.

Whatever your options are, can you see yourself cooking it more often at home? Think how great it would be to add a new dish to your regular home meal lineup.

Once you’ve thought it through, pick a cooking class, register for it, and have fun when the night comes!

The Follow-up Session

Here’s a twist to make this extra special. Pick another date night to cook the same meal together again sometime within the next month, and compare it to the original.

The spouse who didn’t register for the cooking class will schedule a follow-up session at home and pick up the ingredients at the grocery store that day.

Don’t worry – the chef from your class will send you home with a detailed recipe for the dinner you prepared.

All you’ll have to do is follow along together…and bring back the laughs and good memories.

Later on, whenever you want to bring back memories of the fun time you had on your cooking class date, you can always cook the meal on an ordinary night. “Surprise! It’s our special dinner.”

This is just one of many fun but simple activities you can plan with your spouse to make date night special.

Doing so will add variety to your life, keep your relationship continually positive and healthy, and help you both to learn and grow as individuals.

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