Marriage is about many things – forming a lifelong partnership with your best friend, finding a loyal teammate with whom you can face life’s ups and downs, a covenant.
But with children, careers and mortgages, sometimes we can lose focus of a key part marriage of a great marriage: romance.
Every once in a while, it’s beneficial to strip away the hassles of adulthood and find time to solely appreciate your spouse, which is why I suggest that couples “recreate the honeymoon.”
Though flying to a faraway island might sound ideal, it is also unnecessary. Couples can evoke the same romantic magic within the comfort of their own backyard through a few simple practices.
- Remember that the honeymoon is only about spending time with your partner and nothing else. Therefore, ship the kids off to spend the night with a trusted adult and then turn off your cell phone.
There should be no phone calls, texts or emails exchanged with the outside world during this time, as this will distract you from truly embracing and enjoying your spouse.
Furthermore, make the most out of your romantic time by jointly agreeing that certain stressful, sensitive subjects are not to be discussed; overdue bills, career responsibilities, past arguments, etc.
- Treat yourself to a restaurant that neither you nor your partner have visited before and embrace your adventurous side. Perhaps try an exotic cuisine, take a dance class, watch a performance by an unknown musical group, or relax side-by-side with an unfamiliar spa treatment.
Even if the activity isn’t something you two would normally enjoy, the experience of jointly exploring uncharted territory will bring you closer together.
- While splurging on a hotel room is an obvious option, there are also ways to turn your own bedroom into a lover’s paradise. The first step is to dim the lights and light up the romantic candles; seeing your spouse bathed in candlelight will undoubtedly arouse those deep seeded passions.
Secondly, consider purchasing new sheets to spruce up the bed. While listening to a preselected playlist of romantic songs, drink to each other with champagne and special toasting flutes.
Take your time when romancing each other; remember that there are no children to take care of and no pressing responsibilities to rush off to.
Consider learning a new sexual technique that is aimed to surprising and pleasing your partner. Women might want to buy special lingerie for the occasion and men could wear a freshly purchased scent.
- Finish off your stay-at-home honeymoon with breakfast in bed. Do your research beforehand to determine whether a local restaurant can deliver food to your house; if not, pick up the food the night before and have it ready to go in the morning.
The most important thing is to relax with your husband or wife. While lying in bed, resist the temptation to put on clothes, turn on the television or go for a morning jog, as this time should be exclusively designated for you and your lover.
For the evening, the most important thing to remember is to live in the moment with your partner. Diets can be temporarily put on hold, and it is not the end of the world if you miss your favorite television show.
While we don’t recommend spending extravagantly outside your means, remember that this night is special and an investment in building a long lasting marriage with the love of your life.
This post was written by guest blogger Jackie Mandell.