Play! – Engaged Marriage


By Dustin | Romance

Today’s post is adapted from the book 15 Minute Marriage Makeover – Refresh Your Relationship, Add Sizzle to Your Sex Life & Be Happier in Just Minutes a Day.  If you think this and other Couple Time exercises would be great for your marriage, be sure to check it out.

When was the last time you played?

If you have children, you probably spend some playtime with them most days.  You might play golf with your friends or play Angry Birds on your iPhone.  If you’re lucky, maybe you have occasional game nights with other couples where you can keep your Trivial Pursuit or Scene It! skills sharp.

But how often do you spend “playtime” with your husband or do something with your wife just because it’s fun?

Today’s Lesson

Life is so busy that we can start to push the time for play out of our closest relationship.  Playtime with the kids is mandatory and recreational time with our friends is usually retained.  However, when it comes to our spouse, it is so easy to lose the simple, pure time for fun together in favor of “more important” duties.

The truth is that few things can feed your marriage and refuel your romance better than a little time spent playing together.

And like most of the best things in life, playtime with your spouse is simple, cheap and easy!

Today’s Couple Time Task

Our Couple Time today will be spent simply having some fun together.  Please take a look at the list below to get some ideas for a playful activity that you can do together.  Pick one that suits you, do it and smile.

  • Play a board game
  • Go roller skating
  • Play a video game
  • Dance
  • Play a card game
  • Go to the park and play
  • Play Guitar Hero (one of our favorites)
  • Have a water gun fight
  • Play miniature golf
  • Visit an arcade
  • Wrestle
  • Create an art project together
  • Play 21 questions
  • Go bowling
  • Race go-carts
  • Play Truth or Dare
  • Play some Nintendo Wii (clothing optional)

When it comes to having simple fun with your best friend, the possibilities are really endless.  So, what will you do today to enjoy a little playtime together?

Today’s Tips

  • This is not a time for competition or trash talking!  Trust me on this one. 🙂
  • If you can’t decide what to do, then today is the husband’s turn to Take the Lead and choose for you both.
  • You can definitely include your kids or friends in many of these activities (though clothing is recommended for those Wii games), but be sure to spend playtime alone as a couple on a regular basis.

This post is adapted from one of 28 powerful daily exercises that will take your marriage from good to extraordinary in just 15 minutes per day. Please go check out all the details about 15 Minute Marriage Makeover by clicking here now.

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About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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My husband and I definitely love board games. We used to play sequence all the time together, but he never actually beat me, so I think he’s given up on that venue. 😉 Otherwise, video games are a great way for us to connect.


    That’s awesome, Kathryn. We used to play more board games before all of the little hands were around to steal the pieces. We need to get back into it!


We use to love to play darts… but haven’t in awhile, maybe we will have to get back to it! We do read together, not two books at the same time, but we are reading a fun book out loud and cracking up over it currently! We are sure having fun!


    I love darts, too, but we also haven’t played in forever. You guys can come over and play at our place but Randy has to fix his own dart hole damage. 🙂

Bojan - Workplace Productivity

What about us, who never plan on getting married? 🙂


    Odd place to be reading if you’re anti-marriage, Bojan…but still glad to have you around! 😉


One thing I love about these suggestions is that so many of them are cheap or free! It goes to show that you don’t need to have a fancy dinner date at a nice restaurant to connect as a couple … you can just go to the local park and swing on the swingset!


    I’m all about being frugal! We’ve found that cheap and simple activities are usually the most personal and worthwhile, too.


We play together alot. But not having any children probably helps with that. You mention clothing optional Wii, which reminded me of when we got out XBox Kinect for Christmas, and it was a pretty hot day as it was, so it was quite a shock when we found out that the Kinect takes photos of you while you are playing. It was pretty funny, but we quickly deleted them, before i did something stupid like accidentally uploading them to our xbox profiles.


I love this! There was a time in my marriage when we did not LIKE eachother, much less love eachother. But it so happened the kids all had an activity one night and neither of us had to take them. The first night was rather awkward but as weeks went on we started going to a coffee shop and talking about nothing important and nothing with conflicts. It was like when you are dating and awkwardly get to know eachother. It rekindled our like and then love for oneanother. What an amazing transformation. You may “fall out of love” but that does not mean it needs to stay like that. With all the problems we had, if we could do it anyone could.
There is another blog with good insight and help too. It’s: Hope this has helped or will encourage many.


Indeed playing is a very good activity to revive your love life and build attraction for each other.
Thanks for a great post.


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