Add to the picture a silent partner like alcohol, and the challenge increases substantially.
Not everyone who consumes alcohol develops dependency. In fact, studies show that a moderate amount of alcohol intake has some health benefits. However, some women may be more in danger of developing dependency.
Women who are considered dependent have the following experiences:
Withdrawal: This means a person experiences unpleasant side effects upon leaving alcohol. This is why some women adopt a ‘hair of the dog’ routine near morning, or keep alcohol near them. Mild symptoms of withdrawal include shakiness, nervousness, and an abnormally fast heartbeat.
Tolerance: This is when the individual needs to consume larger amounts of alcohol to feel the same effect they used to feel with less consumption. For example, a woman used to relax with two glasses of beer, and now it takes the double to feel the same state of relaxation.
Loss of control: This can include consumption for longer periods than intended, or more frequently than intended. Loss of control is when the functioning of the brain is disturbed to an extent than the individual can’t remember what they are doing. The person then gets told by others about their activities.
If you are concerned with alcohol dependence, either your own, or an individual you care about, perhaps this post can give you some useful insight.
A relationship in which a partner is dependent on alcohol can become problematic; such couples are often unhappy, and dependence may lead to call for counseling. As addiction gets worse, it takes more time away from the relationship, and creates an emotional distance between partners that becomes challenging to overcome with time.
When substance abuse creates a situation where couples fight often, things can become violent. And when the abuse becomes the main reason for arguing or fighting, a vicious cycle can develop, in which alcohol dependence causes conflicts, and leads to more abuse as a way to reduce stress.
It can be difficult to know what to do if you are dependent on alcohol and in a relationship because it between the ‘good’ times, life can become disturbing. The alcoholic may try to change the patterns that are causing the trouble.
But just when you feel you are starting to do well, problems crop up and you are back to where you begin; anger, sadness, and fear of being stressed out because of leaving alcohol. These are the reasons why alcohol problems shouldn’t be left untreated.
The route to recovery begins with regaining control and redefining your life.
A womens recovery center can provide options for customized programs that help you get rid of shame, guilt and stress of your relationship with alcohol and back to managing your life again.
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Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.