How to Do More of What Matters In Your Life

How to Do More of What Matters In Your Life

By Dustin | Communication

Don’t just get more done, Do more of what matters in your life.

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Your life is super busy.  You certainly have no problem finding things to do.

There are literally hundreds of books, programs and “productivity coaches” out there to teach you how to get things done, manage your time and be more productive.

However, I’m a firm believer that doing more for the sake of doing more is not only a waste of time but a huge mistake.

No, you want to do more of what matters in your life.  And you want to do it while still enjoying all the blessings God has shared with you.

An Engaged Marriage Approach to Getting Things Done

In the first post in this series, we talked about the amazing opportunity you have to enhance your quality of life and your marriage through a specific, but simple, approach to self improvement.

Then earlier this week, I shared how this same approach literally transformed my life and my relationship with my wife Bethany, and then we began to refine it and teach it to friends and then private coaching clients with great success.

Today, I want to briefly share with you why this system, which I affectionately call “Time to Thrive” (formerly Go Improve Yourself!), works especially well for busy couples and exactly how you can take advantage of it in your life.

If you’ve been around Engaged Marriage for a while, you know that this community is all about living intentionally and making your marriage a top priority in what is surely a very full and busy life.  We often present ideas that you can use in just 15 minutes or less to spark some romance, improve your financial situation or ramp up the intimacy with your spouse (and much more).

It’s really all about focusing on what’s most important and taking baby steps to make real progress towards your goals with only a small investment of your precious time.

So, let’s say you could only manage to invest 15-30 minutes a few times per week to achieve something important to you.  What could you really accomplish in such a short time?

Here are just a few examples of REAL results that have been enjoyed by me and my clients using the exact system I’m going to share with you below:

  • Paid off over $1,000 of debt in the first month – and then paid off $54,500 over three years to become debt free
  • In less than 30 days, transformed the quality of communication in their marriage to go from feeling like sterile roommates to feeling passionately in love again.
  • Began exercising regularly and feeling full of energy in just a few weeks, and kept up the momentum to lose over 30 pounds in 90 days – and kept it off for over a year and counting.
  • Created a new online side business that turned a profit the first month and has since generated four figures a month on a very part-time basis.

Keep in mind that each of these goals were identified after the process was started (during Step 1) based on an initial questionnaire that helps clarify the first and top priority to address.

This short self-assessment can often be life-changing itself as you think about the six key areas of your life – Financial, Physical, Family, Spiritual, Social, and Career – and choose where to start.

And if you think that finding even 15 minutes is a tall order, then you’ll love what we have in store for you.  Go Improve Yourself won’t just help you find clarity on what’s most important and lay out a specific plan to get it, but it will show you how to find the time and motivation to make it happen.

The Hard Truth about Accomplishing What You Want

The reality is that achieving the biggest goals in your life requires two equally important things:

  1. An awesome plan
  2. Actually DOING the plan

You wanna know where most people fail?  That would be point #2.

I’m sure you can think of (*ahem*) a few New Year’s resolutions that didn’t quite get resolved.  You had great intentions, and I’m sure your goals were very achievable.

But you probably didn’t have a solid plan for success, and you ultimately failed to actually do what was required.

It’s time for that to change.

Introducing “Time to Thrive: Time Management & Goal Achievement that Will Work for YOU”

I will share all of the details about Time to Thrive next week when we open the doors and welcome in 50 members that I will personally be leading to new levels of success in 2013.

In a nutshell, this is a small, private group coaching program for those looking to achieve new levels of success in 2013.

I will lead you through the creation of a success plan for the year, help you select the one big goal you want to accomplish first, and then work alongside you to kick start your progress for the first 30 days.

Your focus can be in any area of your life: marriage, career, finances, fitness, spiritual life or anything else. The key is that you WILL see results in an area that’s important to YOU in our 30 days together.

The program will follow the 5 step achievement process I outlined previously:

1. Assess & Choose

2. The Big Why

3. Get SMART

4. Master Your Time

5. Do It for Life

Immediately upon joining, I’ll send you a quick-and-simple guide to review where you are right now and help you choose the area of your life you’d most like to improve first.  You can do this at your own pace over the Christmas holiday since we won’t officially start until the first week of January (and if you already know where you want to focus, then you’re all set).

We’ll then spend a week on each of the final four steps.  Each week, I’ll share action-oriented worksheets for you to complete, and then we’ll have a group coaching call once per week where I will teach you first-hand and then answer ANY and ALL questions you have.

These calls will sometimes include guest experts, and they will always be fun and focused on making sure you succeed.  Every call will be recorded as well, so if you can’t make it, you can listen at your leisure.

In addition to the action guides, worksheets and no-holds-barred live weekly calls, you’ll also have access to a private discussion area.  Inside, you can ask questions and get answers right away from me and your fellow members.  This is a fantastic way to stay accountable, excited and inspired!

[NOTE: This program has been refined and modified so you can join at any time and progress at your own pace.  You can check out the all-new Time to Thrive right here!]

By the end of January, you’ll be well on your way to accomplishing your first big goal of 2013 – and you’ll have all the tools and confidence to ensure you make 2013 the absolute best year of your life!

By the way, I’m going to complete Time to Thrive right alongside you.  I’ll be spending the holidays choosing my own area of focus, and I’ll share my success actions each week on our calls and in our private member’s area.  I want to not only tell you but SHOW you how to make it happen.

I’d love to hear from you about how this plan could help you most. In the comments section of this blog post, tell me…

  • Why you think Time to Thrive (formerly Go Improve Yourself) can help you improve your life and your marriage in 2013 and beyond.

Are You Ready to Enjoy More Quality Time?

I am excited to let you know that our new course “Time to Thrive” is now available for you! You can click here to go check out all the details for yourself and get signed up to learn how you can enjoy an extra hour of quality time each day.

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About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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I would LOVE to be one of the winners.

Go Improve Yourself could help me and my marriage in 2013 by giving me the courage to go out and find more piano students. I have some idea of what it will take to do that, but I lack the self-confidence I need to really accomplish it. We need the extra income from three to five more students to help us put our Baby Emergency Fund in place, and then to turn right around and put that money onto our debts. I just responded to a post on another blog about savings, because the author was suggesting that people should try to live on 80% of their income, tithing and saving the other 20%. That’s just not feasible for us right now, but I would love to get there, and one way I can do that is by starting this piano teaching business. I have one student already, and I have some idea of how to get more, but as I said above, I lack the self-confidence I need to take the next step.

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    annie

    I think that this program Going to improve yourself would help me in many ways. I have been under alot of stress in 2012 with my weight gain and alot of debt and with my marriage dealing with an addict; so for 2013 I need to change and make improvements in my life. I could really use your help and focus from you. In 2009 ; my ex husband tried killing me and our 3 daughters. I was in an abusive relationship and finally got the courage to leave and he tried shooting us for that. Its been a rough road since that. My new husband is wonderful ; however has a pill addiction that I’m trying to deal with. I really could benefit from your program. I need change and focus. I will make almost 80,000.00 dollars this year except I’m in debt too. I really hope you can consider me. Thanks annie

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Pamela Koop

I would love to be one of the winners. I am expecting my third child early in the new year. As a mom of 2 busy kids already, it is easy to not take the time for myself and just pour my energies into my family. However, I know that I need to take the time and put the energy into investing and improving myself to become the woman and mom and wife that I desire to be. When I am in the midst of the huge to-do list and daily demands, it is very hard to put this in process! Accountability would be valuable!

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Kelli Dawson

I would love to be one of the winners!! Go Improve Yourself could help me in so many ways in the new year. After having my first baby, my marriage has become more like living with a roommate. We don’t have much communication, absolutely no romance, and we haven’t even slept in the same bed since last year. We love each other very much, but I am at a loss on how to get our romance, and communication back. I truly believe that a strong marriage takes work and I hate the fact that I have allowed our relationship to take second to everything else in our lives. It is time in the New Year to find that spark that allowed us to get married in the first place.

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Tim B

I think that “Go Improve Yourself” call really help me in 2013 because I am notorious for making lofty goals and leaving them unfulfilled. I’m a husband, a father of four girls and a pastor of a local church… so too often my life seems to be driving me rather than me (through God) driving it. It’s tough not to feel like I am constantly careening towards a cliff. There is a constant concern and struggle to provide for the family and make ends meet so that meeting my personal goals gets pushed to the margins. I have a number of goals, like writing a book, publishing a journal article, renewing my Greek and Hebrew language skills that have been pushed off several years in a row by the “tyranny of the urgent.” Church life and family life are often intermingling which can lead one to feel like neither are excelling. This stress tends to boil over into my marriage. I would love to control the tension life creates rather than being controlled by it.

But I need more than a plan, I need action. I need to generate momentum. It sounds like “Go Improve Yourself” is just the tool. Using your program I believe would help my marriage thrive again. I would love to finally meet these goals by re-engaging in life and marriage.

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Shelly

I NEED to win. Bad.

I am 41, mom to a 7yo and a 5 1/2yo and wife to a pretty funny dude. I the last 24 months I have had 3 major surgeries, one of them caused my mouth to be wired shut for 10 months. I have been weak and struggling for years and I am ready to shed that life and have a total rebirth. Also, during the last 24 months my husband started a new business and works from sun up to all hours of the night and I have sorta been a single mom. It’s time for me to totally transform myself, my attitude and my whole families life to be happy, productive and FUN! I need to get a new career (or resurrect my old one), figure out how to manage it all and plan some vacations or outings so we all have something to look forward to. I have not been on the website very long (a few months) but I really feel connected to Dustin’s style and his approach. Pick me, I’ll make a great case study!

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Sydney Wood

Go improve myself would help me and my relationship. I just joined a fitness club for the first time last week. I am hoping that my wife will tag along soon. (We are both active). Go Improve might be the way to get us working out together.

Thank You
All the best to a Happy Holiday Season to all Engaged Marriage readers.

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Jen T

Hi,
I would love to win this for a variety of reasons. 2012 has been a year of huge change for me. Our marriage, which I had felt was lacking, but I was to scared to do anything about it, hit a crisis point and my husband and I have spent the better part of the year reshaping ourselves and our marriage. We have made a ton of progress, but there is still a lot of work to do and I would really like to focus on changing some of my really ingrained behaviours that are not helping or really of any use to me. I would also like to create a lifestyle that fits how I want to live, because I feel like the way we are living is not what I want. This is also more a behavioural change than a financial one, although being able to fund a weekend or two alone with my husband would be lovely 🙂
Best of luck to all competitors and thank you for offering this competition.

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Jennifer

Last night I lay awake thinking about the fact that I wanted my motto for 2013 to be to “live intentionally” I was thinking about the steps I could take to make that a reality and what that would look like. Unfortunately I did not come up with a whole lot before my weary body succumbed to sleep. What do I see in my inbox this morning? Your post telling me that you have a program that will outline each and every one of those steps!

The last couple of years have been a blur for me. I don’t remember much of them. With my husband working a job that has him working 15 hour days sometimes 7 days a week, we don’t see each other often (even though we live at his job) each day seems like a mindless counting down until nap time or bedtime for my young children. I’ve felt exhausted, but at the end of it all, felt like I’ve gotten nothing done or made any significant memories with my family.

I would love a chance to take part in your program to make 2013 my best year ever! To set goals that would allow me to have meaningful time with my family and with my husband. I think it would also give me the opportunity to set some goals to finally achieve some of the things that have been on my resolution lists for a couple of years now, but because of a lack of ability to follow through, have not been accomplished.

Thank you for this opportunity!

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I love these posts, Dustin. It’s great to see you create all this success for the community. I’m not posting to win anything – just to give you a big high five!

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Renae Smith

I would love the chance to take part in the program. My husband has been in the Marine Corps for 16 years and this has strained our relationship at times. I have also found that I forget about me a great deal because I am busy supporting him and taking care of our girls. He will be deploying in October again and I need to make my goals a priority again. Thank you!

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Ellie Vargas

I would love to participate in this program. My husband and I have been through a roller coaster of a few years. He lost his job just after Thanksgiving 2010. This was shocking and traumatic for the both of us. Job openings were scarce and very competitive. After a lot of disappointment, but husband became more and more depressed. Luckily my income was enough to keep us afloat and my husband did everything he could to pick up side jobs. Needlesstosay we were in survival mode and any non-necessity was done away with. Thankfully, he was hired 6 weeks ago to a full time job, but the past two years have left us emotionally, financially, and spiritually drained. We look forward to starting make some plans for 2013, but I feel like we’re being held back by trepidation: What if something else traumatic happens? Almost like, we don’t want to believe we can actually be back on our feet again. On top of it all, we had our first baby earlier this year so our priorities and needs have shifted since the last time we were both employed. I would LOVE to have a chance to refocus our family goals going into 2013 and make a plan that we can follow and succeed with!

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Kristie

In the workplace, I am a “get it done” person. I’m considered one of the top performers. I’m proud of this. I know how to multi-task, be in strategy mode or in the details, I can prioritize and re-direct.

How is it then I am an “A gamer” at work, but a “C gamer” when it comes to All-Things-Home? You know, the very part of life that matters the most.

I’ve made great strides this year with re-hauling my sleep habits, committing and sticking to a challenging workout program, creating and tracking to a financial budget nearly every month. I have all of my personal/home to-do’s tracked on an app. There’s an app for that!

But….I am stressed out, anxious, less fulfilled, less happy than a person that has two wonderful children, a life partner, a church home, and good health should be. Why is that?

I want to learn how to achieve some goals that continue to elude me. These are not new goals. Copy and paste from 2012 goals. Improvements? Yes. Reached? NO.

Where I need to break through to reach the goal:
1. Lose body fat. Lose actual body fat, not just hit all the workouts. Lose it!
2. Have quality time with my partner. Bonus, time for self would be good.
3. Change the pressure cooker living we do with our schedule. We decline social activities. But heavy work demands and shuttling to/from childcare/school and rushing overtakes our strong desire for better living.
4. Save money / eradicate debt (We too are FPU graduates, Dustin). Debt creates a burden to work. And the cycle continues…

Summary of my goal: be my own personal best.

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What you have accomplished in your own life and Go Improve Yourself is proof that when we have area that we want to improve it can be done. What I love about what you are doing with Go Improve Yourself is accountability. This is what so many of us need. We need to be in a group where we are willing to have someone hold our feet to the fire when we drift off course.

I’m looking forward to starting the new year and supporting everyone and Go Improve Yourself.

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nopinkhere

While my marriage is good, I know it could be even better. I would like to be in better physical condition, but I can’t convince myself to want to do it enough. I think if I had a direction I was going, that would help.

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Jackie

I would absolutely love to win a spot in Go Improve Yourself! I am no more special or deserving than any of your inspirational followers, but nonetheless, I will tell you my story.
I have been through some incredibly life-changing events over the past 2 years – all of them I believe have been guided by God. I have 2 wonderful children and a very loving family and husband and a career I never dreamed would turn out to be a perfect fit for me. Up until 2 years ago, I was throwing all that away little by little with alcohol. It did not carry over into my work life and I never had any legal issues (here, I add the ever looming “YET”), so I thought I wasn’t hurting anyone but making myself fat and lazy. At the time, I had no idea that the anxiety I was suffering from was actually being made worse by the very thing I thought was making me feel better. I had so many things to be grateful for but all I could see were the negatives. I blamed my husband for making me feel so lonely. I finally decided I needed help to move past this and went to treatment which was a very difficult decision because I was leaving my 2 young kids and took FMLA from work. I had no idea what an incredible journey I was embarking on… It was day 3 there and literally out of the blue, I had what I refer to as a spiritual awakening. I can only describe this as a warm feeling of absolute peace and feeling completely embraced followed by a powerful feeling of joy. It was incredible and that moment alone began to change my life.
It has been over 2 years since then and I have learned so much about myself and continue to learn more almost every day. I can see so many more of my blessings that I ever could before and am much happier than I can remember being in a long time. This past July I was laid off of my job after 11 years (14 years in the same facility) and it took 5 months to get to work again partly due to my history of going to treatment, despite that was 2 years ago. I only had a momentary time of sadness and resentment about this and loved just about every minute of that time off. We have moved and I have started my job last week. We moved our 1st grader and 4 year old in the middle of the school year, which I was nervous about.
Although I have made great strides, I still have so much more that I need to improve about myself and my marriage. I cannot believe my husband stuck around through the rough times and is still here. I know time will help heal the wounds I created, but we need help communicating and I need help getting past the need for confirmation from him. I am still insecure. He works out of town, so he is gone 6 days and home 5. I am pretty much a single Mom when he is gone. So, we just moved, I have finally started a new job, I have uprooted my kids. We moved from a 5 bedroom home to a 2 bedroom apartment.
I struggle with always feeling like I don’t do enough. I “should” be able to keep a perfectly clean and organized home, but I don’t. I should be able to lose my extra 100lbs that I gained over the past 10-plus years.
I do not enjoy exercise and so I don;t do it. I tease a lot that I am the “Queen of excuses” and I believe every one of them (when it comes to exercise). I need to stop this and get going! On top of all of this, we still have our home in Missouri with a great backyard, but we cannot sell it right now because we have been fighting the City Parks and Rec depart threatening to use eminent domain to take our land for a recreational trail. I am exhausted and need help getting more energy back.
I know you can help if I am chosen and I would embrace this as I have the past 2 years. I have a long way to go, but I am on the road …
Thank you for your time and consideration! You have a great program here

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jennifer

My partner and I both work our butts off (fulltime). We are raising 6 kids (ages 5-13). We struggle to find quality time for our children. We struggle to find quality time for each other. We have both completely given up on finding time for ourselves.
We are trying to fit consistent exercise into our lives. We are trying to pay down a significant amount of debt… and we are hoping to someday find a way to work together, rather than spending so many hours a day away from each other and our family…. oh and reducing stress would be great too 🙂

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Honestly, I’d love to win, Dustin, but don’t pick me. I feel like I’m on a plateau and I don’t want to fall off the edge for the next big change. The view is great but I’d rather do it more intentionally. Although we live well and only have the mortgage, I’d love to live to a written budget and intentional prepare money for some needed work on our house.
As I said, don’t pick me. I know I’ll get where God needs me to be. Help one of these kind folk out and tell us all about it so we can rejoice in their success.

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Heather

I don’t know if not being married disqualifies me, but I am hoping for a God-centered marriage. Perhaps that’s what I can gain most from Go Improve Yourself… I know that hoping is not enough for any goal.

As I mentioned on your first post, I want to continue with my weight loss, add enough income from home that allows me to continue homeschooling my children, and to achieve that God-centered marriage. Each of those alone takes more than hope. They all need a plan. And applying what you said in the first post, improving myself in the first two areas may assist me in achieving that third goal. I know I need to work on those first two goals for myself (and for my kids) and not directly to achieve the third; but I can see how doing so would help me.

I am one who needs (but doesn’t exactly like) accountability. I see that in your description.

My children need to have a mother that’s healthy and is going to be around for them a long while. They need to see me taking responsibility for my life as well as their own. They need to be secure in the fact that Mama’s going to be able to take care of them. Then, if I am blessed with a real marriage, my weight loss and improved health will benefit him as well. But if I’m not, I haven’t lost anything (except the weight 🙂 ).

My ability to contribute financially to the household will be a blessing as well – security, debt payment, future savings, emergency fund, and maybe even some fun money.

I’ve worked on the Big Why before, and I’ve been SMART about a couple of things. However, along with the accountability, I need to work on assessing the priorities and maintaining it all for life. I’ve followed you for some time now and have seen what you have done in your life during that time. If I can glean from your progress and success, then perhaps I can have some successes of my own. Thank you for this opportunity!

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Kelly

Hello – I’m new to this site but in just this past week I have already gained so much hope for my marriage.
We have been married for just over a year but together a total of 7 years. We definitely love each other so much but the last couple years have been extremely testing.
My husband has struggled with alcoholism along with achieving his goals, he continues to try but always put others – especially me in front of himself. I on the other hand struggle with putting anyone – especially him in front of myself. We are both very excited for 2013 as we are already planning on focusing on him. I hope that I win Go Improve Yourself because I need help with “follow through” – I want the chance to show my husband why I married him, why I think he’s awesome. I have goals but need help being more specific (can you tell?) and finishing the plan.
Thank you for the hope and inspiration in just a short week.

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Amy

I ABSOLUTELY NEED TO WIN “Go Improve Yourself…”!!!

Between my long-term ex-boyfriend leaving me to live in the wilderness, my mother and sister completely sabotaging not only our inter-personal relationships but that with my older sister and family as well, my best friend telling me she no longer wanted to be my friend without reason, and loosing my job, the past couple of years have been really hard on me. I have been going to counseling for YEARS to resolve these issues, and have made great progress in my struggle with depression. Additionally, in the past two years, I have found an amazing boyfriend and have found a job in a field related to my interests (both within the same week!). However, I have struggled in developing my relationship with my boyfriend’s young daughter, practically becoming a step-mom without having had a real mom myself, which has caused a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. In addition, my job is very demanding and requires me to work AT LEAST 60-80 hours a week, in addition to time spent on extra projects to pick up for more money to pay the bills I accumulated during my period of unemployment. Finding Dustin’s blog two weeks ago was literally a LIFESAVER!!! Taking his advice to spend 15 minutes with my boyfriend every day has not only revived my relationship with my boyfriend, but has also reminded that a healthy relationship with myself is vital to my relationships with others, including my boyfriend and his daughter, as well as friends. I felt like I was falling into the same depressive state I had previously felt, but now feel re-energized and re-invested! I cannot IMAGINE how this membership could further progress the work I have recently started BECAUSE of Dustin. In getting this, I am not only helping myself, but my wonderful, supportive, loving boyfriend, who is the only person I have in my life. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE consider me!

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Leslie Vandervort-Werner

First of all, thank you so much for making this opportunity even possible. I’m certain that the two winners will have the chance to make their lives better than they could ever imagine,

While improving our finances (we’re FPU graduates) or having more insight into my career, the most important part of my life is a certain tiny human – 4 years old and my absolute joy. I am a step-mom to a wonderful boy named Ezekiel. He is my “monkey man,” my love. My sweet husband and I get to spend 3.5 days a week with him, and that time is always the highlight of our week. He was three years old when we got married, and he was so excited to see us get married that he ran up to us at the end of the ceremony, and he walked hand in hand with us down the aisle after we were pronounced man and wife. It may go without saying, but that was the most emotionally binding experience for us as a “blended” family.

With this in mind, if I were to be chosen for this program, I would focus solely on improving our family – the way we communicate, discipline, lead each other in spirituality, and bond as a family. I’m convinced that this is the best thing we could do to improve our lives and set Ezekiel on a trail of goodness that will affect him for the rest of his life. As a mother, this is all I could hope and pray for – that he will know that we love and cherish him, and that we can help provide him with tools so that he can be whoever he wishes to be.

Thank you again for the opportunity, and I hope that we will get the chance to work with you. Take care!

-Leslie

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Kathy

I did want to win when I got to this page. I do get stressed about living apart from my husband and struggling with financial issues, but after reading through these posts I feel pretty lucky. It may take me longer to get there on my own, but I would rather see one of these other folks get some much-needed help. Best of luck to you all.

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Kaylene

I have seriously lost direction in my life over the past three months and would welcome the opportunity to regain and actually improve the direction of my life by winning a spot. You see, three months ago I discovered my husband of 26 years was having an affair. He has done everything according to all the models on to save your marriage after the affair is discovered. My problem is my focus and self esteem has been shattered. I am trying to rebuild or discover a new me who can commit to a new marriage with my husband but to do this I need to create a better me. Before I discovered the affair I was heading for a promotion. While I have put this opportunity on hold to put my marriage first it would be good to work towards achieving that promotion and still have a solid and rewarding relationship with my husband. There are other areas in my life that need improvement as well, and while not one of the contentious issues between my husband and I, we do have a hefty debt that needs to be addresses. I have been working on the weight and fitness over the last three months and have lost a considerble amount of weight. I have done this before but have lost focused in the past so it would be great to have a model that can help me achieve my ultimate goal weight and fitness level. So there are my three areas that need addressing, relationship, finances and fitness and I am sure there are others that would surface if you picked me to go on this journey with you.

Yours in life
Kaylene

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Becky C.

I have been thinking about my post for a few days now, and I am not exactly sure what to put. I do know that I am a bit aimless lately. I have had a hard time adjusting to the birth of my 5th child due to the fact that she has some health issues and it has greatly affected my sleeping. I am nearing my 40th birthday and I keep thinking about how I want my life to be. I know that I want changes in my life. I need to lose weight. I need to get my finances in order. I need to improve my health so I don’t end up like my dad and his sister. I want to help my kids have a better relationship with food. I want a better life. I need a better life. I hope you can help me get there. Thanks for your consideration.

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Jenn Keever

I would love the opportunity to win the Go Improve Yourself membership! My husband and I have been married for just under 3 months and been together for 5 1/2 years. We would like to start trying for kids in the next month or two (we use NFP), but need to get our home and our finances in order so that we can be responsible (and less stressed) parents. As part of that process, I believe your GIY classes would be a blessing to help us achieve those goals, especially since I want to develop my own business in order to stay home with the kids, yet still contribute financially. I have a lot of goals, but don’t always know the process to achieve them, especially ones that need to be broken down into many steps. Learning your process sounds like a wonderful opportunity to learn HOW to “fish”, instead of being given a “fish”. Once I learn your process, I would love to pass on the principles to my future children and give them a wonderful start towards their own goals and dreams. I greatly appreciate your consideration.

Thanks for your great blog posts! I have learned a lot and look forward to continuing my education.

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Seyi

I have been married 10 years and have been happy probably only two. I live in Africa where a lot of pressure is being put on the woman to make the marriage work, no matter what. I have struggled to get help from people and from the internet on how to improve my marriage. My ailing marriage has affected my health and my work , as I have lost a lot of weight and am struggling in my career. I have made lots of goals on the important areas of my life. I am always excited when I start off with my goals but before long, my excitement dwindles and I find I am not pursuing the goal anymore

I believe that the Go Improve Yourself program can help me improve my marriage, communicate more and achieve my goals. I can then be a better wife and a better mother.

These kinds of opportunities are very scarce in my country and this may be the only opportunity I may have to learn how to improve my life in 2013.

I would really like to be in this program.

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Missy

This would be a lifesaver…for myself, my husband and my children! A year ago, my husband suffered from a traumatic brain injury, had to find a new career (has recently started college courses as he was in construction) and suffers from depression and loss of self (after many tests, appointments). Just this past month, we suffered a house fire…home is still liveable, but finances are a huge stress and this seems to be the “demon” that is the core of our marriage strain. I work full time, he works part time and is in school full time; we have 3 children, who I must say are wonderful and very supportive. It has become almost unbearable at times to where my husband and I talk divorce. My family is number 1 in my life and I am a firm believer in positive thoughts/actions leads to progress. This system appears to be the “kick” we need in our marriage and lives that will help us through it all. Thank you!

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Jeff

I came home from work this morning (working midnights) and was very depressed about life, period. I’m surely not where I want to be. Things for my family could be worse, but are nowhere near the plans that I made with my wife only a short time ago. As I went to bed, I prayed for God to help me straighten this life out. My wife and I had our dream home built for us last year. We have one little boy and we wanted to add to our family. Since then, I decided to accept a job that my wife and I discussed and both agreed that it was the wrong time for. It was a very stupid, selfish move by me. I’m a stupid man. I had to go away for a couple months for training, and while I was gone my wife told me she wanted a divirce. This is devistating to hear from 1200 miles away. I felt powerless, as everything I said was just met with anger. Long story short, I drank a little too much a week later and rolled my car. I am blessed to be alive. Got kicked out of the training and was sent home. Luckily I was able to go back to my old job. I went back home to try to work on out marriage with my wife, but nothing I tried worked. I decided I was also tired of the way things were, and after her constantly asking, I left. She filed for divorce in October. We still talk and occasionally go out as a pseudo family. I love it and hate it all at once.

I’m sorry for rambling. The reason I’d love to be part of this course is because I need direction in life. Every part of it. I’m sick of not being the man I once was. For me, confidence comes from my woman’s love and support. I don’t have that now and I need a different way to feel strong again. God’s guidance will help me through anything, but I feel like I’m losing faith through all of this. I need the street lights to come on so I can find my road out of the darkness.

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Dustin

Thank You for all of the amazing and thoughtful entries!

Picking *two winners* was extremely difficult.

But after lots of reading and getting input from Bethany, I chose the winners late tonight. I decided to go with one person that has more “concrete” goals in mind and one who can use more help choosing their right path.

After all, GIY will help you whether you know exactly where to go or you just know you want to move forward but can use some help holding the compass. 😉

You can see the winners here – https://www.engagedmarriage.com/communication/winners-of-the-go-improve-yourself-contest-and-much-more

If you did not win a free entry, I hope you’ll consider becoming one of our 50 members. The link above has more details on that as well.

Thanks again! I appreciate you all more than you’ll ever know.

Dustin

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Dustin

The doors to Go Improve Yourself are now open! I’m announcing it here first, so go grab your spot while they are still available:

https://www.engagedmarriage.com/go-improve-yourself

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