June 2, 2022

Halloween is a time of disguises, searching for a costume for yourself or for your kid, and the the idea that to try on different personas for escape as  terrible fun is terribly obvious. We get to be whoever we want to be and we get to be super creative expressing that persona.  Dressing up

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May 6, 2022

Being appreciative of your spouse, the intimacy you do share, and the sex you are currently having is obviously one of the best things you could do for yourself.  Being appreciative is so important, I’ll repeat myself: Appreciating what you have is good for you. Being appreciated for what you bring to your spouse, the

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December 4, 2013

The stress we bring to important moments like marriage is terrible.  And stress isn’t good for sex and intimacy.   In fact, Christmas stress is what inspired this article.   Stress breaks us down.  It breaks us apart.  It is bad for our health.  It is bad for our relationships.  We can’t even think clearly

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September 3, 2013

Love goggles.  Rose tinted glasses.  Seeing the bright side. We are all aware of the cliches and metaphors. Chemistry. Chemicals of love.  Addicted to love. And we are all aware of the science behind love and sexual attraction. People all have their philosophies and beliefs about love and sexual attractions, based on nothing more than

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August 7, 2013

Despite how your family set the stage for your ideas about sex and intimacy in marriage, and despite all the cultural cold water used to rinse away the Disney-fied ideas, I have to say, it didn’t prepare a generation of women and men for the real sex and intimacy of marriage. It appears the overload

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July 11, 2013

Even if you had some idea that sex would decline in frequency after marriage, maybe you had no idea that marriage with work, family, friends, and the C word – children – would mean sneaking sex in whenever or wherever you could. Whether you are needing sex for intimacy and connection with your spouse, or

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