Sometimes you need an alternative to date night…
I think we’re all familiar with a traditional date night, and I think most would agree that it’s an important part of any marriage.
A nice date night with our spouse lets us reconnect and break the daily routine that many of us experience in our busy lives…especially when we have children in our home.
Ideally, we would all have a date night scheduled every week or two, and we’d experience a magical evening out on the town romancing our spouse like it was our first (too awkward) third date all over again.
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We would enjoy an exquisite gourmet meal, some incredibly unique entertainment and a horse drawn carriage or something before ending the evening with passionate sexcapades under the stars.
What? Your last date night wasn’t like this? Applebee’s and Star Wars? Not even in 3-D? And you had to rush home to get the babysitter back to her house before curfew?
Yes, we don’t live in a fantasy world, and this is the reality of date nights for many married couples. There are some great ways around this, including sexy in-home date nights.
However, for today’s post, I’d like you to turn your thoughts to what you can do before the sun sets…
Date Days: Not Just for Shift Workers Anymore
Time is precious, evenings are busy, babysitters are expensive and the same old dinner and a movie routine is becoming…well…routine.
Why don’t you think outside the evening hours for a bit and consider a romantic date day?
There are many ways to pull this off, but a few of my favorites involve making a weekday of it while the kids are in school, enjoying an awesome Saturday afternoon together while grandma has the kids or just taking a long lunch break if you are able.
If you don’t have kids, this is as simple as blocking out a Sunday afternoon and enjoying some time in the sun with your spouse.
The bottom line is that opening up your dating repertoire to daylight hours adds a whole new dimension to the quality time you can spend along with your spouse. And it adds enough flexibility to make great “dating” possible for most married couples!
The Movie Theater is Closed. What Do We Do?!?
If your date nights have become as predictable as a Chicago Cubs September losing streak (Go Cardinals!), you may be wondering what you would do during a date day. This is the best part!
When you take your dates solar, it opens up a whole new realm of ideas and experiences to enjoy with your husband, wife or fiance.
One of my favorite ideas is to do something that one spouse really enjoys, but the other would never do typically. Maybe he joins her at a day spa or she braves a weedy hike to his favorite fishing hole for an early morning excursion.
Or you can certainly do something you both enjoy…daytime sex, perhaps?
Here are a few ideas to get you thinking of your next daytime date adventure:
- Wine tasting
- Picnic lunch
- Golf
- A day baseball game
- Breakfast at a greasy spoon
- Day spa
- Fishing
- Hiking
- Shopping
- Swimming
- Zoo
- Art museum
- Breakfast in bed
- Sex in bed
- Sex out of bed
Of course, this is just a small sampling of the things you can doing on a date day. Use your imagination!
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We often go to the library together for date day and check out the latest books or some old classics. It always leaves us with something to discuss. We also like to check out the local art museums when a new exhibition has started and pretend that we get what it’s about.
I’m a big fan of picnics. I love to pack up a lunch and head to the park or the beach. Even if it’s as simple as some cheese eaten at the look out mid afternoon.
It’s also fun to go to a gourmet deli and check out what fancy foods are available and what new things you can incorporate into your cooking.
Thanks, Mary! It sounds like you guys are pros on the date day scene. Thanks for sharing some great ideas.
we don’t have any kids so we aren’t all that limited. Except with the busyness of everyday life
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I just remembered another one. we like to go to op-shops and check out the old books, and get some bargain clothes. That’s fun
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When we have a date day Alisa and I will usually enjoy the peace and quiet we have at home without the kids. During this time we are able to relax and talk without interruption plus the added benefit of making love in an empty house is a plus. We also go to our local coffee shop (we’re not coffee drinkers), but enjoy the time together talking and hanging out.
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Tony, I’m confused. What’s this peace and quiet you talk about? I think we need more date days. 😉
Great idea! I need to do this more often, however, a few months ago I left for work in the morning as usual, but instead of going to work I went to the grocery store and picked up food to make my wife her favorite breakfast and we had a great day together! Although we still had our young son at home, we had fun as a family (and as a couple during nap time). It was a huge surprise and a memorable day.
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Thanks for the great idea, Eric! My wife is a teacher, so this is definitely something I could pull off during the summer months. And I love what you are doing with your blog!
My DH & I actually sort of have a “date” planned this afternoon. We’re training together to run a 5K in honor of my mother who has survived breast cancer twice. 🙂 It’s a great way to spend time toghether & challenge one another to go beyond what we think our ability is. Great post.
That’s an awesome way to spend quality time together, Skeemer! Congratulations on taking action to help fight breast cancer, and I think it’s fantastic that you are able to train with your husband in the process. 🙂
Hi guys, been a bit busy this week. But always scanning the good posts, well done Dustin.
With 6 kids, we still manage dates, but even those familiy activities are good fun. We have annual events that we all look forward to.
Here’s a couple that come to mind:
1. Live sport inc Cricket (I’m an Australian), Rugby League, Soccer – there is nothing better than seeing everyone’s face light up at the big Stadiums. Even if you only do this once a year, it becomes something for everyone to look forward to.
2. Walks along the coast, the best one for example is the walk from Bondi to Coogee, about an hour and a half, topped off with a couple of beers at the Beach pub. My wife and I do this on our wedding anniversay weekend away (we get a 24 hour leave pass from the family.
These are just a couple of things we do. It does take some effort (filling up the emotional bank accounts) but the payback later is great!
Dustin, how’s your wife getting on? Hope all is well for the family.
Thanks for sharing all of the cool things you get to do in Australia, Gerry!
Bethany is right at 8 months pregnant and doing great. It turned really hot and humid here in St. Louis lately, so that’s no fun for her, but she’s a trooper!
We actually just had a date day today! Early this morning, I loaded up a picnic basket with water, a blanket, a couple of books that we’re reading together and several ice packs. Then I stopped by a Tim Hortons (Canadian coffee shop…) on my way to meet M, and picked up two sandwiches for lunch (that I wrapped in the ice packs) and two croissants and orange juices (for breakfast).
We sat out on the lawn in front of the place he was staying for a good hour and a half, talking and eating breakfast. Then we took the local ferry over to a small island and found ourselves a picnic spot for lunch (after exploring the island for awhile). We talked and read for quite awhile. And then we climbed back onto the ferry and grabbed ice cream at a shop back on the mainland. It was a lovely day and it was great to chat and reconnect.
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That’s an awesome day, Tara! I appreciate you sharing it because I know that I, for one, found your story really inspirational. 🙂
My favourite day date when I lived in Bali was riding around with the man of my dreams, on our pushbikes, along the beach path, stopping for a great lunch and swim at our favourite local restaurant. Later we would go adventuring in the back streets to look around at this place which is so different to where we come from. When I was tired he would push me initially with a stick and later with our broom handle – I wish we had pictures of it!!
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We had an awesome date day not too long ago. We had lunch in Midtown and caught a matinee at the Fox. It was fabulous!! I want to do it again very soon. It felt so good to be carefree on a Saturday afternoon and act like goofballs together in public. It what we excel at as a couple.
Early Date days have always been the best! My wife and I frequently date during the day. There are lots of things to do in the day and when things are going well, the fun extends into the early evening and often time into the night. It’s like an entire day of fun. There are times my wife and I would take a day off work and spend the day together. It works wonders for refreshing us and backing us away from the “day to day” for a change.
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Well, as a new photography student, I planned with my boyfriend for a whole photoshooting day in the nature, waited for the sunset and had nice pictures. It was really an amazing breaking routine day:)
We have adopted all 3 of our girls & we have found (made) time recently to have day dates recently. Our oldest 2 girls (3 1/2 months apart in age) started Kindergarten this year & our youngest daughter started Pre-school 2 days/wk for 2 1/2 hrs. where we go to church…(3 days/wk starting in August). There is a Panera really close & we’ve been going there & have had time to reflect, to plan, to share, to cry & to laugh together. If we don’t have any money for coffee for her and/or a bagel (or 2) for us to eat we’ll just go a little further down the road & sit & read (or talk) at Barnes & Noble together. I drive a school bus, so unless I have something with work, this is the perfect time for us to spend “We Time” together!! I’ve just found your website today & I would like to say “Thank You” for your blog. I’ve enjoyed reading it so far. God Bless you!!
My husband and I like to go to the early bird special at the movie theater and then lunch while our daughter is at school.
I liked your suggestion to have a picnic lunch. My husband and I have been thinking about trying to have dates when the kids are in school. I'll be sure to bring this up with him and maybe we can try this with some takeout from a restaurant in town. https://www.elindiosandiego.net/