The Paradox of Our TimeI was reading my buddy J. Money’s blog over at Budgets Are Sexy this morning, and he had a short poem/essay that really drove home something I’ve been thinking a lot about lately.

It’s called “The Paradox of Time” and I think it speaks volumes about our culture today (at least here in the USA).

However, I think there’s a more important message for you personally in this.

Please take a moment to read these words by Dr. Bob Moorehead, and I’ll share my thoughts after:

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We have taller buildings, but shorter tempers
Wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints
We spend more, but we have less.

We have bigger houses, but smaller families
More conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees, but less sense
More knowledge, but less judgement
More experts, but more problems
More medicines, but less wellness.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often
We have learnt how to make a living, but not a life.
We have added years to life, but not life to years.
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back
But have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.
We have conquered outer space, but not inner space.
We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted our soul.
We’ve split the atom, but not our prejudice.
We’ve higher incomes, but lower morals.
We’ve become long on quantity but short on quality.

These are the times of tall men, and short character;
Steep profits, and shallow relationships.
These are the times of world peace, but domestic warfare,
More leisure, but less fun; more kinds of food, but less nutrition.

These are the days of two incomes, but more divorces;
Of fancier houses, but broken homes.
It is a time when there is much in the show window, and nothing in the stockroom.

A time when technology can bring this [message] to you
And a time when you can choose
Either to make a difference …. or just hit [ignore it].

If you’re like me, you probably found yourself nodding along as you read each line.  There’s no question that our society has seen major shifts in what we value and how we measure our worth.

You can’t really control that…

…so what CAN you do about it?

Well, you can make better choices in your own life and place higher value on your relationships.  You can be proactive in loving your husband or wife.  You can choose to value quality over quantity.

In short, you can get away from the idea of just getting more stuff done and instead focus on doing more of what matters in your life.

This of course is easier said than done, but you can make it happen.  And I want to help.

As you may know, I’m working hard behind the scenes right now on a new program called Time to THRIVE for Family Leaders.

I’m SO excited to see years of work coming together in a resource that not only helps busy couples find more time but leads you to use your time to enjoy more of the truly important things in life.

The first training for this course will be released in about two weeks, and I’d love to share it with you. If you think you can benefit from more time, better focus and a sense of fulfillment from how you lead your family, please click here to sign up to be notified when we go live.


About the author 


Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. Wow you’re fast! Haha… Love the addition of “what to do” here – I just skipped it entirely, didn’t I? 😉

  2. Dustin – I am very interested in applying for a position as a guest columnist. I have my post written but I’m afraid that even though I’ve been blogging for a year I’m still a novice when it comes to some of the lingo. You said you want it properly formatted in html – wordpress does that for me automatically so would you like my post to just come from there – give you a direct link to it?

    I apologize for my lack of tech knowledge, this is an area I am working on!

    Thanks for your time,
    Britta Kreps

  3. сделать лучший выбор в своей собственной жизни каждый день !!

  4. What can I say, less is more. Simple things can make you happy. Share what you have now and don´t pretend to impress with the things you don´t have.

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