Now You're Marriage, What About Your Career?Note: This is a guest post from Amanda Brown.

Although there is an increasing trend of later-in-life marriages in the United States, plenty of young lovers are still tying the knot as their first step towards building their lives.

But once the wedding has come and gone, it may be time to think about adding full-time employment to your routine. It’s a daunting task, but the emotional and financial benefits of managing your career and family are worth it in the end.

Why Get Married First?

There are plenty of reasons why someone might want to start a family before settling into a career. Married men typically make more money than bachelors, and it’s definitely easier for a new mother to ease into maternity without having to schedule long periods of time off from work.

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Finally, you have the rest of your life to settle into a work routine, so you might as well spend your youth with someone you love.

Work and Family Don’t Mix

Once you’ve started working full-time, you need to remind yourself to keep your work life and your family life separated at times.

If something bad happens at home, you have to leave your feelings behind once you step into your office. The same goes for stressful work situations; don’t let them affect you when you’re back at home.

Keeping your job and your family in different places emotionally will help maintain your positivity overall when trying to balance the two.

Support Your Spouse

Separating your two lives doesn’t necessarily mean building a brick wall between them, however. You will frequently face tough decisions at work and at home, and you shouldn’t have to face them all by yourself.

Involving your spouse in your more troubling moments will make the decisions easier to make, as well as strengthen the connection you share. Do the same for your spouse. Get to know the kinds of issues they have to deal with on a daily basis and figure out the best way to help them through.

And, of course, always make financial decisions as a pair, especially if your marriage included joining your bank accounts.

Prepare to Make Sacrifices

Unfortunately, it’s a fact of life that you will often have to make sacrifices when it comes to your family and your job. An important project at work might keep you from seeing your kid’s school play. Likewise, you might have to stay home from work to take care of your spouse when they are sick.

Accepting that sacrifices are unavoidable will help you understand the benefits of making them, whether that means a well-earned bonus check or a stronger bond between you and your loved ones.

Do What You Love

You love your family, why not love your work?

Although not everyone can snag their dream job, it’s likely that there’s something out there that you will enjoy. If you have a passion for cooking, try to get into a restaurant’s kitchen. If you love to help others, you can obtain a nursing degree.

But even if you can’t think of anything you’d like to do for a living, you can at least try find some friendly coworkers you enjoy working around. Being happier at work will make you happier at home.

Take Time for Yourself

Regardless of how much you care about your job and your spouse, you cannot forget about the third thing you’re trying to juggle: yourself. Putting all of your time into your work and your family can be incredibly rewarding on those fronts but might leave you feeling stressed and depressed.

You have to find some time to be alone every now and then. Do something nice for yourself, like taking a long bath or buying yourself a little gift. Taking time for yourself will refresh you when you return to your main tasks as an employee and a spouse, helping you work harder and love longer.

Juggling your family, a career, and your own personal life is no easy feat, but coming up with a plan and seeing it through will certainly help your bank account and your relationship in the long run.

Note: This is a guest post from Amanda Brown.


About the author 


Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. Balancing work and family needs incredible management skill- more of a tight rope walking. When you bring your work related stress right into your home your family life will suffer and if you take your family worries to your workplace you can never be successful. You should learn the art of forgetting your work stress when at home and forgetting your family tension when in work. You are absolutely right when you say that you need some personal time to feel good.

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