My wife is a dork. So, please blame this post on her. 🙂
You see, as I write this post with the bizarre title, my dear wife and several of her girlfriends are downstairs having some girl time. I am a big fan of “yours, mine and ours” time in a healthy marriage, so I’m happy she’s able to enjoy a fun Wednesday night with good friends.
What are they doing down there? Alas, they are having a little “New Moon” party. If you are not familiar with the insane popularity of the Twilight series of books (mostly among teenage girls, but I digress), New Moon is the second book and the latest movie adaptation to hit DVD.
So, my 29-year-old wife and mother of two (and one on the way), is watching a vampire/teen romance with her buds. They’re eating popcorn. And, oh yeah, they’re all wearing their “Team Edward” or “Team Jacob” t-shirts…and Snuggies!
I think that my point has been proven on the dork-front. When I found out those last few details of the evening’s plans, I let the gals know that I just had to write a post about it. The challenge was making it relevant to the community here, at least a little bit.
Fortunately, I like challenges. I’ve had several friends tell me they like how I can relate seemingly anything back to marriage and happy living. Well, this may take the cake, but I think I just may have something to share. And if it flops, at least I got to expose the Snuggie pals. 😉
I have not read the Twilight books, but I have sacrificed for my wife’s sake and watched both movies. I have to say that New Moon wasn’t terrible, though I won’t go any further than that for fear of losing my Man Card.
In a nutshell, the main girl (Bella) loves/lusts for this vampire named Edward. In New Moon, she also spends a lot of time with a werewolf named Jacob. Jacob really has the hots for Bella, but she is just biding her time until she can get all vampired-up with Edward some day when he finally “changes her” with some mild bloodsucking.
Somewhat relevant part alert: Jacob is really the logical choice for Bella. He is the same age, he’s (reportedly) hot, he will relinquish his werewolf-ing for regular humanhood one day, and it is presumably safe for Jacob and Bella to have sex and produce babies.
Edward is not a good match on a practical level, but he is the passionate choice. He’s a freakin’ vampire, he’s actually like 109 years old (but doesn’t age physically), he could kill Bella at any moment by losing control of his intense desire to drink all of her blood, and there’s a real fear that his sexual prowess could be deadly in its sheer force. Plus, there seems to be a consensus that any baby-making would kill Bella, unless of course she became a vampire for all of eternity.
So, Edward is the mate of choice based on passion, raw emotion and lust. Jacob is a better match for reasons of compatibility, reason and apparent “matchmaker” criteria.
I hope that as you and your spouse have grown together, you’re able to say that both passion and logic draws and keeps you together. However, I think we all have unique stories about those characteristics or circumstances that initially brought us to our spouse and got the relationship going.
So, there’s my excuse for writing this post. Please share a comment about why you started dating your spouse. Was it raw passion and instant chemical attraction? Or was your courtship a more logical and natural fit?
Yes, Bethany is a dork. But I love her dearly (although the lust may have to wait until she takes off that t-shirt with the big Edward face on it). When I look back all the way to our high school years, I see many reasons and differences in our backgrounds that could have kept her from taking a chance with me.
I’m glad she’s a Team Edward kind of girl. 🙂Photo courtesy of Amazon
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.