Do you possess the knowledge to do the right thing? Or do you need more focus, discipline or incentive to live the life you desire?
Do you ever feel a bit hypocritical through your actions?
In many areas of my life, I know the right way of doing things, and I sometimes even share my “wisdom” and give advice to others. However, despite my knowledge and even good intentions, I still get off-track from time-to-time. At times, I get completely derailed, like when I allowed myself to gain almost 20 pounds shortly after writing a series about the benefits of exercise! Sometimes, it’s more minor like simply not sticking to our family budget the way I know we should to meet our financial goals.
Of course, if you’ve been reading Engaged Marriage for more than say three minutes (and actually read the name of the site), you know that one of the most important things in my life is my marriage. I mean come on, I write posts about helping others have an Extraordinary Marriage several times a week and think about this topic during most of my waking hours. I truly and passionately believe in everything I say here at the site, and I don’t give advice simply to fill up a page or pay lip service to you, my awesome readers.
Despite this laser focus on marriage, I still get at least slightly off-track in this area of my life!
It blows my mind and, if I’m being totally honest with myself, it makes me feel hypocritical at times. It sucks.
I am not talking about major issues here. The “creeping problems” I have noticed lately are doing things like allowing my wife and I to slack-off on our 15 Minutes some evenings, and letting things like work or this site get in the way of spending more time with my children and helping out more around the house. My biggest grievance is probably not doing the spontaneous, romantic little things that make my wife feel special and appreciated.
Overall, I’d probably give myself a solid “B” in the husbandry category lately. The problem is I want and expect myself to excel and rock my marriage with an A+ effort at all times.
Now, I do realize that it is unrealistic to keep up an A+ effort at all times. After all, we are all human and imperfect. We have bad days, and we get tired. However, there is no excuse for not being proactive and making your spouse your clear top priority.
So, I am officially recommitting myself to exemplary husbandry and refocusing my efforts to be sure that my wife (almost) always feels like my primary focus in life. I love her and she knows that. However, sometimes I don’t make it easy for her to really feel it and that’s gonna change.
My renewed focus, attitude and energy is not limited to marital issues. I am fired up and ready to improve myself in the areas of fitness, finances, career and Engaged Marriage.
However, if I have to settle for a “B” in some area of my life, it will be these areas. My wife, my children and I deserve an A+ effort in my marriage.
The New Year provides a great opportunity for reflection and readjustment. What areas of your life have veered a bit off-course and left you feeling like you aren’t following your own advice?Photo by hyperscholar
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.