When shopping for that perfect gift for your partner, you want to make sure it is something that they want or need, not just something that you want them to have.

Gifts should be personalized. For example, for a hunter, buy hunting gear. For someone who loves fashion, buy some shoes or accessories. For unique and romantic anniversary gift ideas we recommend The Eternity Rose.

Even in the event of a wife buying for a husband, listen to your partner, they will tell you what to buy. In many cases, you may know what to buy but not know where to buy it or exactly what to get.

This is when you should find someone who does know about the item and get advice from them. With many gifts, you can find others who know about what you need and let them point you in the right direction.

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Figuring Out the Best Gift

When shopping for your partner, always remember that what you consider memorable may not be considered memorable by them. For example, if you are a wife searching for that perfect gift for your husband who is a hunter, you can probably recall him pointing out something in a store or on a website that he would really like to have.

It may be a gun or a bow, something that you wouldn’t consider memorable or particularly interesting. However, to the recipient of the gift, it will be a very memorable gift that he can enjoy for years to come.

With husbands, things such as kitchen appliances and the like are something that they consider memorable, but the wife does not.  Trust me, you don’t want to go there!

The wife thinks of things such as jewelry or nice clothing as being memorable, and kitchen appliances as something that just requires more work. 🙂

How to Determine a Great Gift for Men

When a woman is shopping, they usually find lots of things presented as “gifts for him,” such as cologne, razors, sweaters, dress shirts and other things. However, in most cases, this is not a memorable gift for a man.

Men will tell you exactly what they want if you are listening, and many guys are not really interested in surprises either. A gift card to the local sports shop may be a perfect gift if you cannot figure out what to get them.

Another thing to keep in mind when shopping for a man is that they tend to like really expensive, large gifts rather than several small gifts. Buy gifts based on their personality and hobbies, and you will give a gift that they absolutely love.

How to Determine a Great Gift for Women

Many women will treasure jewelry and perfumes as gifts.  Also soft, fluffy throws and blankets to wrap up in on cool nights are appreciated.

With women, it is not necessarily the cost or size of the gift but the thought behind it that will make it truly memorable.

Please share below: What special gift are you giving your spouse for Christmas this year?


About the author 


Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. Nice topic ! I think there are plentiful presents available in the market for women but hardly any for men if compared to the former. I think one really needs to think hard when it comes to gifting a man! I think party shirts (or any other garment)as gifts are always used most by men because clothes is one such thing which will be used most if given as per the recipient’s choice.
    Your Gifting Persona!
    How does your personality influence your choice of gifts?

  2. The most important thing is to get what your own spouse wants. My favorite gift from my husband was a Kitchenaid mixer. It was something I had really, really wanted, but was more expensive than I felt comfortable to spend on my own and he got it for me. Perfume and jewelry are a waste of money to me, because perfume makes me nauseuous and I don’t care to wear jewelry. When your spouse pays attention to you and what YOU want, that’s the best gift. ๐Ÿ™‚ I remember the mixer because years later I use it several times a week and still love it, and I also remember that he spent $200 on something he didn’t understand but knew I wanted. This year we are opting to not exchange because we are moving and will be buying a new house and feel we want to buy something for our new house once we see what it’s like. We are both okay with this – we have everything we need and most everything we want. I can actually think of very few things that I even want. We are so blessed.

    1. Thanks so much for sharing your story, Sheila! I agree with you, and I think this part of your comments sums it up well:

      “When your spouse pays attention to you and what YOU want, thatโ€™s the best gift.”

  3. I’m sorry, but I do not find this to be a good post at all. Men only appreciate hunting, sports and large expensive gifts and women always love perfume and jewelry. And under no circumstance do you give women anything kitchen related. How sexist!

    The parts about knowing your spouse and listening are good, but the author should have stopped there. Delving into absolutes about what men or women like is just unnecessary and quite untrue. The best way to find a memorable gift for you spouse is to know them, know their likes and dislikes and to pay attention. Period.

    1. No need to feel sorry, Angela! I actually agree with you. Although I realize the guest author was using those examples to contrast some of the difference we might face in gift buying for our spouse, it was a bit too absolute. I could use a new bow, though. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I’m with Angela. This wasn’t a helpful guide at all. I actually love getting kitchen appliances (cooking is one of my favourite hobbies) and I would be upset if my husband got me perfume and jewelery. And it’s just common sense to “give something that they want or need, not just something that you want them to have” and to “personalize your gifts.” If you need to be told that, you’re not likely the kind of person who reads relationship blogs.

    1. Yeah Kathleen, I think it’s fair to say we laid an egg with this one. Will you forgive me in the spirit of Christmas?

      By the way, do I recall correctly that you’re not into Christmas gifts much at all?

      1. I only forgive you because the phrase “we laid an egg” tickles me. ๐Ÿ™‚ And yes, you recall correctly. This year I gave homemade French pastries. Baking us so much more satisfying than shopping.

  5. Hmmm..for those of you that state this post was not helpful, it was apparently helpful in getting all of us to think about what we would not do, or what we would not like to receive or give to those closest to us…some food for thought…
    Speaking of thought…
    It is the thought that counts to make someone feel special, if it is a bow(good luck with that one Dustin), or perfume, or a kitchen appliance, if that is what the person has a desire to get that they would not practically get on their own and it will make fond memories of their relationship with each other, then go for it. One of the 1st Christmas memories that I share with my wife was the time I went shopping on Christmas Eve because I was supposed to be deployed to Somalia before Christmas, that did not happen. So, there I am getting my wife a last minute gift and ended up getting her these ice cream dishes(not the only thing I got, but I thought it was something she would really like and appreciate, it’s the thought that counts right)? Well, my wife is a good sport and she did well not to hurt my feelings. But, guess what…we still have those ice cream dishes, and we still reminisce about that time in our lives and laugh at what a bone head move that was on my part.

    Now my wife is a very practical person, she does not wear jewelry(wedding ring and earrings aside), or a lot of perfume. She actually prefers things like fragrant lotion(Bath & Body Works specifically), cuddle duds(fancy name for long underwear for women), slippers, and an occasional kitchen appliance. So, I let the kids & other family members get her everything but the lotion. Why? because when I smell it on her it means we are close, hugs in the kitchen, or just passing by in the hall instantly puts her on my mind. Likewise, if I do not smell it that could be an indication to back off, or that I need to speak to her about something that we are divided about. Either way I “own” the lotion gift, she likes it, and she likes that I like to give it to her. It gives us a special way to let each other know we love one another.

    A short side note about the power of such a gift as lotion… a colleague of mine and I were actually talking about lotion as a gift. He gave his wife lotion for her birthday one year, along with a note about him being the applicator for this one of a kind particular bottle. One day he walks in on his wife filling the bottle he gave her with the bulk size Sam’s Club generic lotion that she had been hiding in the closet. He asked her “What are you doing?”, her response…”You did not think that this bottle was ever going to get empty did you?” The point was not that she enjoyed the lotion as much as the time that she spent with him.

    I hope and pray that everyone has a Merry Christmas and is able to spend time with their loved ones. And to think that all this started with all of us receiving the most significant gift of all, the son of the Most High Living God. whatever we try to do, we cannot outdo that…

    Blessings to all,

    1. Thank you for the gift of this comment, James. It is beautiful and well said. I think this should have been the original post. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Merry Christmas to you and your family!

  6. Dustin, We wanted to stop by today to wish you and your wife a blessed Christmas! We have enjoyed our journey together this past year and look forward to what God has in store for us next year. Be sure to stop by our blog to see our special gift to our cyber friends! Merry Christmas!!!


    1. Thanks so much Tom and Debi! Merry Christmas to you and your family as well!

      And thank you for sharing that great video…I may have to share it on Engaged Marriage, too. ๐Ÿ˜‰

  7. I gave my husband some nice coffee this year and I think it was his favorite present. Last year, I gave him The Joy of Cooking and he still talks about how great of a present it was. Neither were very expensive. I think the most important thing is that you put some thought into it and considered the person.

  8. Great topic! Our first Christmas (16 years ago) my husband got me the worst gifts. I learned then to give him more help and it’s been good ever since.

  9. No matter what the gift itself consists of, it is truly the thought that counts. My wife picked out one of her gifts about a month ago, I just kept it hidden and wrapped it. She had forgotten all about it, but loved it upon opening! ๐Ÿ˜€ She also loved the movie I bought her from the used book store; it is a favorite of hers and she knew that I was paying attention one day when she was talking about it.

    Her favorite gifts? The home-made ones. Including the yearly love letter that she receives in her stocking. It costs me only time and thought, and she treasures it.

    If you pay attention to your spouse, you will have plenty of ideas for gifts.

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