Note: This is a guest post from Amanda Brown.
A more fulfilling life outside your marriage can help you find the way to more fulfillment within the marriage.
If you’re not happy with your current career, why wait to make a change?
Check out these four ways to improve your career and your marriage simultaneously.
Now is the time to reconnect with your passions, inspirations, and values – the things that brought you to the marriage to begin with.
Your 40s and 50s are an age when you naturally begin to reassess your life and look for more inspiration. Once you have dispensed with many of the responsibilities of raising a family and supporting them with a lucrative career, it’s time to ask what you would have chosen to do with your life if money had never been an object.
You may not be in a position to volunteer your time or work at a low-paying job, but there are still many opportunities out there for fulfilling your dreams without sacrificing your income.
Leave your comfort zone, and you may find that you feel empowered and have found a fresh outlook on life. Forcing yourself to experiment with new experiences on a regular basis can have a major impact on your perspective and sense of belonging in the world.
Feel better about yourself and be more attractive to your spouse by doing something that makes the household more money and/or involves some old-fashioned bootstrapping. In this sense, you might find it most fulfilling to become an independent entrepreneur or local small business owner.
Many people who make midlife career changes choose jobs that allow them to help others as well as themselves. This can nourish your sense of empathy, which, in turn, will make you a more attentive and sensitive spouse.
Your spouse will notice the change, which means that more feelings of affection will find their way back to you, too. It’s a win-win.
Jobs that involve helping others as a means to personal and marriage fulfillment include elementary school teacher, freelance interior designer, and certified nurse midwife. There are options available to you, such as accelerated nursing programs,where you can achieve qualifications in a new field in a short amount of time.
In order to figure out what your calling is, ask yourself what your values are now. Remember that your values may have changed over the years, and what’s important to you now may not be what you thought was critical when you first started out.
A midlife career change is a great opportunity to go into a field that may have been off-limits earlier in life due to various stigmas. For instance, nursing is often misunderstood to be a female profession, and young adults are unlikely to study the field. But older men already established in other careers are more likely to join the healthcare field and can benefit from salaries as high as they experienced in the corporate world.
Leaving behind these kinds of prejudices will allow you to be happier in your career choice, which will make you a better husband or wife.
Your midlife career change is an opportunity for major growth and actualization – not only for you but for your marriage as well. On the other hand, sometimes improving your home life requires a new perspective on what work means to you.
Ask yourself whether you can best fulfill your calling by making it into a career, or by choosing a career which will not get in the way of your calling.
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Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.