How are things going with your Marriage Mojo lessons?

At this point, you’ve already been at it for more than two weeks!  I’m sure that you’ve had to defend your time together, and you’ve probably had days where it just didn’t happen.

Trust me when I say that I know it can seem tough to spend 1% of your day engaged with your spouse.  It seems a bit ridiculous to say, but it’s the reality that many of us face in our super-busy lives.

Please keep it up!  Like the exercise analogy back in Lesson #2, it’s very easy to get off-track and lose your momentum.

It takes a bit of discipline to set aside that 15 minutes of sacred time each day, but I hope you’ve found that it can be quite powerful when you do so consistently.

If you do nothing else from this mini-course, I ask that you pay attention to today’s lesson.  This one is crazy-easy, and it should really be something you do every day to keep your marriage rocking and your romance thriving!

The Little Things (and the Extra Stuff)

In marriage, it can be so easy to overlook the “little things” we do each day.  After all, we typically spend every day with our spouse, and every household develops a routine where the husband and wife take on certain roles and obligations.

For us, this means that I always mow the yard, and my wife always does the laundry.  Trash night is all me, while getting our daughter’s hair under control each morning is the work of my wife’s magic hands.

I’m sure you have similar routines in your home.  So when was the last time you said thank you to your spouse for “meeting their obligations” around the house?

Sometimes we get so busy and preoccupied with all of the craziness in our lives, we can even take the special “extra” things for granted. It’s not that we don’t appreciate it, we just don’t think about expressing our thanks.

And that’s not good for anyone.  Not only does our spouse need support, but there’s no better way to get them to repeat their kindness than through positive reinforcement.

If you want your wife or husband to do something extra special again, just tell them how awesome they are for doing it the first time!

Affirmation is Sexy!

Here’s my challenge to you, and it’s an easy one.  During your 15 minutes today, tell your spouse three things that they did today that you enjoyed.

I can guarantee that your spouse will feel great hearing this affirmation, plus you’ll become more aware of the blessings in your marriage.  That’s what I call a win-win!

And the best part is that this is so simple.  This could be as easy as saying thank you for an encouraging text message or sharing how cool you thought it was that they spent time playing with the kids outside while you prepared dinner in a quiet kitchen.  A little affirmation goes a long way!

I would strongly encourage you to make these affirmations a part of your daily routine.  Each evening, just pick one good thing that your husband or wife did that day and tell them.  How is that for simple romance?

My wife and I use these little “thank you’s” as a way to start our 15 minutes of Couple Time each evening.  This has been fantastic for our relationship.

I continue to learn more about the little things she enjoys, and she notices the good stuff I do better.  And the nice part is that this works both ways, so this little romantic treat makes us both better spouses.

Thank You for Being So Awesome, My Dear

I think you’d have to agree that this is the simplest lesson of all.  The funny thing is that it could be the most powerful, too!

You see, there’s no reason we can’t use these little affirmations every day for the rest of our lives.  And I guarantee that any couple that takes a minute to thank each other (and hopefully 14 more minutes to do some engaged communication) will be a happier and more romantically connected couple.

And even us insanely busy couples can pull this off!

In a few days, you’ll receive the last lesson in this series.  We’ll take a look at how we can share a fantastic romantic evening together without the need for extra time or money.  You won’t want to miss it! 

I’ll see you in Lesson #7!

All the best,

-Dustin