As I reflect back on the past week, I realize just how lucky we are to be able to celebrate Christmas with our three kids at the ages of one, four and almost seven years old.

I don’t know how many more years we’ll have while they still believe in the magic of Santa Claus, our Elf on the Shelf and that clever NORAD tracking system on Christmas Eve night.  We are certainly enjoying it while it lasts.

I know that their belief in these things will eventually get spoiled by someone at school, something on television – some message that they’ll pick up from a common interaction with our society.  It’s inevitable, but it’s also okay.

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This got me to thinking about all of the counter-cultural beliefs I hold dear, and how Bethany and I will have to do everything we can (starting now) to help our children continue to believe in what matters – even as they are bombarded with messages that will tell them otherwise:

  • I believe in God and his son Jesus.
  • I believe in Marriage.
  • I believe in Family.
  • I believe in Life.
  • I believe in Personal Responsibility.

What do you continue to believe in, even when the world tells you you’re wrong?




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Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. Concerning belief in God and teaching kids to believe in Santa Claus there is perhaps a risk of children no longer believing in Jesus because they have been told he is real just like Santa Claus. There are a lot of articles where Christians have talked about this issue. For my part we will teach our kids that Santa is fun for Christmas but he is in no way real.

    1. I respect what you’re saying Andrew, but I don’t see why Jesus and Santa are mutually exclusive. In any and all discussions around Christmas, we are sure to emphasize the real reason for the celebration is Jesus. I think Tricia below did a good job of making that distinction.

  2. My beliefs in marriage, family and personal responsibility were tenuous at best until a few years ago when my marriage hit its all-time low. My previous beliefs were created with the home life I grew up with (parents that were very unhappy, blaming each other for their unhappiness but staying together “for the kids”). After repeating my own negative patterns a few too many times, I finally woke up (felt like I snapped out of a bad dream) and understood the true meanings of family, marriage, commitment and personal responsibility. I now have a true belief in them from the core of my heart. I hope to instill that in my kids with my example. I am blessed with a husband who stuck with me through all my negativity and believed in me long enough for us to have the best relationship ever.

  3. I think believing in Santa is fun and when it came time to talking to us about whether he was real, mom and dad explained that there once was a real St. Nicholas who was known for his generosity and gift giving. Nowadays, moms and dads around the world keep his spirit alive by pretending to be St. Nicholas and giving gifts at Christmas. It made sense to me then and now.

    Also, the idea of a child getting used to believing in something that is not easily touched or seen seems important to me. I didn’t prod his wounds, but I beleive that Jesus died and rose from the dead for me.

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