If you ever find yourself feeling stressed out or even overwhelmed by all the things you have to do, you’re going to love this post.
I’m going to share with you one of the BEST and EASIEST things you can do to bring more happiness to your home.
Check it out and then share it with your spouse today so you can take action together.
It could change your life.
I’m sure you’re familiar with the idea of “work-life” balance or other similar terms.
You’ve probably heard some “expert” on Oprah or Dr. Phil telling a young husband or wife that they need better balance. You’ve gotta get things in check and be balanced in all areas of your life, right?
In the lives we live today, no two days are typically the same and no two weeks are ever the same.
Between the demands of trying to share quality time with our spouse, raise our kids, work, attend any number of evening activities, exercise, take care of the house, contribute to our community, hang out with our friends, enjoy hobbies…well you get the idea.
If you tried to maintain balance between all of your responsibilities, you’d not only go crazy, you’d fail. If you’re like me, you’ve probably tried it and then beat yourself up for not being able to pull it off.
The good news is that balancing your time is not important. In fact, it’s probably harmfully unrealistic and stressful.
Happy families do not have balance. They have BOUNDARIES. (click here to tweet this out)
Let me explain.
At this stage in your life, you should forget about trying to keep your time balanced – instead, set healthy boundaries and stick to them as much as possible.
By boundaries, I mean you set both space but especially time boundaries. You have work time, spouse time, kid time and so forth. These are planned ahead and agreed upon with your family.
This may seem subtle, but it’s incredibly freeing and really powerful.
Multi-tasking doesn’t work, and it cheats both you and your loved ones. Don’t try it.
You may think you don’t have time to use boundaries in your busy life.
The truth is you don’t have time NOT to, and you’re wasting so many wonderful opportunities right now if you’re trying to be balanced.
If your marriage is anything like ours, this idea of setting healthy, specific boundaries on your time may be pretty foreign.
When you bring it up to your spouse, they may be a little shocked by what you’re suggesting.
If your schedule has been out of control for a while (like ours was), the suggestion of communicating about how you spend your time as a family and committing to some changes proactively may seem to come from left field.
But it’s so worth it – you can instantly reduce stress and guilt in your relationship and bring more happiness to your home.
Here’s a quick rundown of how to get started:
What does a boundary look like? It can take any form really, but here are some sample ideas for you to consider:
The right boundaries will be specific to your household, but you can see how setting a few at different times of the day can provide clarity and consistency that your whole family will appreciate.
It doesn’t take a big change to make a BIG difference in your marriage and family life!
If you’re interested in enjoying more quality time with your spouse and kids, be sure to check out our popular Get More Quality Time workshop.
Here’s a rundown of the benefits you’ll get from this program:
Go check it out now and reclaim control of your schedule today!
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.