Those words can stop a partner dead in their tracks.
The idea of “working on our communication” is usually met with eye rolls, shrugs or even denials of a problem.
The first reaction is often, “We talk. We talk about the kids. We talk about the house. I asked you about your day.”
You talk. But do you communicate?
If you had to stop and think about that, read on because it may be the most important thing you can do for your relationship.
Communication Is More than Talking
Talking is simply sharing information using words. It is a way to inform another person about a particular thing.
It’s important but it is not a stand-alone relationship builder.
Stick around and we’ll show you 5 simple games you and your partner can play to exercise your communication skills, deepen your romantic connection, and build a stronger life together.
But first, you need to know one key thing: communication between intimate partners is more than words – it involves establishing an emotional connection.
It is this emotional connection that is the foundation of intimacy.
The emotional connection between partners is often cited by both men and women as the most important factor that determines the quality of their relationship. Emotional connection includes:
That may sound really complicated, but the fact is that couples tend to build intimacy through everyday moments. It’s what you choose to do every day that enhances your level of communication and intimacy.
Verbal communication – words – makes up only a small part of how we communicate. It has been estimated that 60-90% of our communication is non-verbal.
And that 60-90% is made up of things like body language, gestures, facial expression and tone of voice. It’s the how of what we say, and it is powerful.
Learn how to master the art of emotional connection and you and your partner will find a level of intimacy that will enhance and nourish your relationship on every level.
We’ve seen hundreds of couples benefit from the techniques using our easy online system, Communicate Your Way To A Better Marriage. Along the way, we’ve learned that building communication doesn’t have to be boring, and these 5 communication games we’re about to share are anything but.
We learn by doing. And the more we do something, the better we become at it.
So grab your partner and get ready to have some fun while you break down those barriers.
This is a light and fun bonding game to get you started. Remember the game 20 Questions? This is the grown up version.
We sometimes forget to pay attention to the little things that make us who we are. Paying attention to the little things and remembering them creates a sense of knowing each other. Here’s the game:
Set aside some time for the two of you without distractions.
Here’s a fun way to gain some insight into how your partner receives and uses information. It’s also a great activity for working together.
Remember, there is no right or wrong. In the beginning, it may be really hard. The more you do this activity, the easier it becomes to understand what your partner is trying to convey.
It also sheds some light on your communication style and what you might be able to express more clearly.
This game is actually a take-off on staring contests we used to have as kids only with a grown-up flair.
The purpose of this activity is to increase comfort with expressing yourself to your partner. Being in close proximity enhances the feelings of intimacy and connection. Bonus – this game can be kind of sexy.
So here’s the game:
For many couples, this exercise is uncomfortable in the beginning. That’s ok. The more you do it, the more comfortable it becomes and the deeper your discussions will go.
This game is all about recognizing the positive aspects of your relationship and the wonderful everyday things your partner does.
This game focuses on appreciation and expressing thanks which are two very powerful and often overlooked parts of communication and connection.
You’d be surprised at how much of a difference gratitude can make.
Taken from our best-selling book 15-Minute Marriage Makeover, this is not your average date night.
Make a date to do something fun with your partner– something different and maybe even a little spontaneous. The only ground rules are that:
The point of this game is to reconnect with each other in an activity that requires you both to be present for each other. You’ll be on neutral ground, away from the pressures of home and work.
This shift allows you to let your guard down and enjoy your partner while building that feeling of closeness and connection.
So now you have some fun and easy ways to get the communication ball rolling, and there’s more where that came from…
When you’re ready to truly revamp your relationship and find develop a deeper level of communication, we have a system to help you do just that.
Developed by Dr. Corey Allan to help his patients strengthen their bonds and change their lives, this powerful method is bound to bring you and your partner to a new level of communication, intimacy, and trust.
Discover how deeply fulfilling your union can be with Communicate Your Way to a Better Marriage.
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.