These days between jobs, kids and the drama of everyday life, romance tends to get lost in the shuffle.

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Many couples say “It’s just too much work”, but it doesn’t have to be that way!

Some of the most romantic ideas are short and sweet.

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To prove it, here’s a list of 10 romantic things that only take a few minutes to prepare:

1. Mystery Kisses

Stop by the store and pick up 5 pieces of candy with distinctly different flavors.

Think of ones like butterscotch, peppermint, root beer barrels, watermelon Jolly Ranchers, lemon drops, and well, you get the idea.

Later on, when you’re alone, have your spouse sit down and close their eyes. Unwrap the first piece of candy and suck on it until the flavor has saturated your mouth. Take it out and give them a big French kiss!

Can they guess the flavor? If they guess every one right they win…a kiss!

2. Strawberry and Chocolate Surprise

Buy some strawberries and a few bars of your spouse’s favorite chocolate on the way home from work to surprise them after dinner with chocolate-dipped strawberries!

Melt the chocolate in a double boiler or by boiling water in a large pot and setting a bowl (with chocolate) inside to keep the chocolate from burning.

Coat the strawberries and let cool, or just take the bowl of melted chocolate to the couch and feed them to each other freshly-dipped.

3. Origami Love

Express your feelings in a unique way by writing your spouse a love letter on an origami flower. Buy a few sheets of pink or yellow paper from a local copy shop and get started with these easy directions.

It only takes a few minutes of folding to create a love letter that they will never forget.

4. Custom Kisses

Remove the little slips of paper from a half dozen Hershey’s Kisses and replace them with your own slips of paper, each listing one thing you love about your spouse.

5. Their Favorite Ice Cream

Hide a pint of plain Haagen Dazs in the freezer and a few of your spouse’s favorite candy bars elsewhere.

After dinner let them have fun creating their dream flavors Cold Stone-style with chopped-up Butterfingers, Snickers, M&M’s, or whatever!

6. Music of Your Lives

Take a musical journey through your lives by listening to the #1 song on your birthdays for every year you’ve been alive.

See what your parents were rocking out to when you were in the cradle and laugh about the first songs you remember hearing. This is a great way to share childhood memories and funny stories.

Start by pulling up this page at Wikipedia to find the top songs and then go to grooveshark and listen for free!

7. Steamy Message

Tomorrow morning, while your spouse is in the shower, draw a big heart on the mirror with your initials (i.e. J + B) in the middle, or write a little note like “Beth is cute”. They’ll love it.

8. After Dinner Menu

After finishing up with dinner and the dishes, present your spouse with a menu for the evening’s entertainment. Design the menu to look like a real one and print it out with items for different “courses” like:

  • Appetizer: kissing, cuddling, tickling
  • Entree: romantic movie of their choice, music by the fire, board games, moonlit walk
  • Dessert: massage, candlelit bath, or ???

They can only choose one item from each course – don’t be greedy!

9. Automotive Treasure

Put together a little treasure hunt that takes place entirely within your spouse’s car. Hide 3 or 4 clues, such as “It holds your change and the next clue”, to lead them around the interior of the car and trunk.

Start the hunt with a little text message or by leaving the first clue out in the open.

Make the treasure something small such as a few green M&M’s with a “Save for later” note, or bigger like a coupon for a massage.

10. Promise of Things to Come

Drop off or mail a gift to your partner’s work that hints at an exciting evening without providing any details. This could be a ripe strawberry with whipped cream, lingerie, a small vial of massage oil, or even a blindfold.

Include a note that reads “See you tonight” and let them spend the afternoon wondering. They will probably try to call you. Tell them nothing.

What are some fun, simple and romantic ideas that you’d add to this list?


About the author 


Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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  1. Fun ideas! My favorite is replacing the notes in the Hershey Kisses. That’s so clever! And it would be pretty easy to do because rewrapping the foil wouldn’t be a problem. Unlike trying to rewrap a Hershey bar.

    Oh darn. Now I want chocolate.

    1. Thanks, Susan! David has some awesome ideas, and I think I’ll have to invite him back for more posts like this in the future. 🙂

    2. Hey married couples.You should try this game called lovers-opoly .Its a official monopoly game approved by Hasbro based on all elements of what it means to be in love.It was specifically designed for couples in a long relationship or marriage who were looking for a kick start to bring the love and passion back in their lives. Its Barely just a game based on sex,though sex plays its part.But it covers everything you love about being in love.Very fun and it helped spice up my marriage of 24 years.Honestly if you liked monopoly growing up you should definitely give this version a try.

  2. Fun!! My favourite is the mystery kisses — what a funny and original idea!
    .-= Kathleen Quiring´s last blog ..Why Do Christians Make Such a Big Deal Out of Sex? =-.

    1. Yeah, Mary, who doesn’t like treasure hunts? Especially if they have a great “prize” at the end. 😉

  3. Hey David, it looks like all the girls like this one! Thanks for the tips! Now I’ve got plenty of homework to do for the next couple of days!

  4. Wow – great ideas! I love the scavenger hunt; perhaps the final clue could lead to the back seat…

    Thanks for challenging our norms on this. Immediately while reading this, my “that’s a good idea, but I’d never do it” filter went up. Then I thought, “Well, gee, what am I actually doing to spice up the romance in my marriage?” I need to do a better job embracing the different ideas that will get me outside my comfort zone – the possibilities seem endless!

    Thanks for the challenge!
    .-= Derek Sisterhen | Past Due Radio´s last blog ..106 Past Due – Saying ‘No’ in a ‘Yes’ World =-.

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  6. I really enjoy your writing, I like your first point. If anyone else wants to read more about this please visit all about how to spice up marriage

  7. Great article. I have used the steamy mirror and the treasure hunt ideas in the past, and they work great. 🙂 I really want to try the origami idea!

  8. Music of your lives! I know a site where you can entrust a personalized song and they do all the job. If you are bussy, you don’t have to worry. It’s not expensive at all and they do an excellent job. Just take a look, ( my sister in law recommended to me and it was a gift because I didn’t kwon what to give to my husband.

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  13. Thanks for the ideas! I really like Origami Love, & Mystery Kisses. They’d be a lot of fun 🙂 What’s the reference to green M&M’s? I think I understand from the context, but that’s the second time I’ve seen it recently and I wanted to be sure.

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  16. I will find a song on the radio that will say how I feel about my wife. I will find the u tube version music video and text it to her or email the link for her to enjoy a unique way of expressing my love. She really enjoys this approach and every time we hear the song it brings a smile to hers and mine faces,

  17. That was a wonderful list of the things that can spice up a marriage.

    I always love to remind my wife of the day we met and when we share about the things that happened during our courtship, we both feel. However, I love your number one point.

    Mystery Kisses. Thanks for sharing.

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