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3 Easy Tips for Finding Time to Date Your Spouse

By Dustin | Time Management

3 Easy Tips for Finding Time to Date Your SpouseYou know a regular date night with your husband or wife is not only a great time, but it’s really key to enjoying a healthy relationship, right?

Well then, when was the last time you actually got away together for a few hours to enjoy some romance?

I’m not talking about dinner out with the kids, and it doesn’t count if you were with a group of friends either.

While both of those are excellent ways to spend an evening, you really need some quality time alone to focus on each other.

We Don’t Have Time

If you are anything like us, I bet the constraint that’s holding you back more than anything else is a lack of time.

We’re all so damn busy that it’s easy to jump from urgent task to urgent task, only to look up two months later and realize we haven’t had a single night out with our spouse.

Of course, some of this comes from being our own worst enemies and failing to manage our priorities properly.  Sometimes, we even waste a lot of time on frivolous things like watching television or playing games on our phones.

However, in most cases, I think our time constraints are legit.

I hear from so many in our community, and I know you are  hard workers with families that are hustling to make things happen, sometimes at the expense of your own time and intimacy.

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But We Can Still Make It Happen

I have to admit that Bethany and I were struggling in this area again recently, so we made a plan to make sure we were making our date nights happen.

I want to share a few tips that we’ve learned in the hopes that it helps you find the time for some all-important romance in your marriage.

1. Schedule It

You should have a regular date time, and it must be on your calendars.  If you treat your dates as optional or “schedule” them after all of the “important” things are taken care, you will never have dates!

Seriously, your date time should be a high-priority appointment that is scheduled well in advance and doesn’t get trumped for anything short of an emergency.

If you value your marriage, realize that you NEED this time together.  Seriously.

2. Look Outside the Obvious

Our weekends are really busy, and our babysitter often has other commitments on Friday and Saturday evenings.

Our solution: we have date nights scheduled for every other Tuesday night.  It’s a set time that is much less likely to get interrupted.

Along these lines, you should look at some less conventional ways to spend alone time together that will work with your busy schedule:

  • Date during the day
  • Enjoy an at-home date night
  • Date in the morning with a standing coffee date
  • Work out together to combine fitness with recreational intimacy
  • Make another “required” event a great date.  For example, we were gone last weekend presenting at a marriage retreat.  And we used this time away from home to enjoy each other and found alone time amidst our other responsibilities.

3. Budget It

You better have a financial budget! When you do, it’s really helpful to include some money for dates as part of your budget.

This not only takes some of the financial pressure off, but it makes it an “official” household activity that you are planning for and taking seriously.

We’ve found that having a date night budget item to cover babysitting, entertainment and meals is really helpful in keeping our time out consistent and enjoyable.

If your budget won’t allow these expenses, you can simply plan for a less costly alternative (see at-home date nights above).

I hope these tips make it easier for you to find time for your spouse.  There’s really no better investment in your marriage than quality time spent together.

Your spouse is the love of your life. Sometimes, it takes a date to remind us of this fact. 

Are You Looking for Some Fresh Date Ideas?

When we finally get time for a date, it's so easy to fall into the rut of "dinner and a movie." If you'd like some new, creative and FUN date ideas, you've gotta check out:

The Dating Divas Year of Dates Binder

7 “Rules” to Write the Perfect Romantic Love Letter (in about 15 minutes)

By Dustin | Romance

7 Rules for the Perfect Romantic Love LetterWhen it comes to adding some sizzle to your marriage, nothing beats a good old-fashioned love letter.

Sure, you can buy flowers, candy or go out for a nice dinner.

Those kinds of borderline-cliche gifts tend to be less personalized and their effects fade over time.

A love letter, however, is the gift that comes straight from your heart, and is one they will keep and cherish forever.

Why?

Nothing says “I love you forever” to your spouse like taking time out of your day, putting pen to paper, and crafting the words of your very soul.

In terms of romantic rewards, the author of a romantic letter will reap dividends – if you know what I mean. 😉

You may just have to hire a sitter for the evening!

When you present your spouse with a romantic love letter, you might be shocked at the overwhelming response and outpouring of love that you receive.

Don’t be surprised if you see a bright smile that could light up the room. You might even end up on the receiving end of the most passionate kiss you’ve had since your wedding day.

By the way, ladies…if you don’t think a love letter will work on your husband as well as it works on wives, then you’ve really got to try it.

Everyone wants to feel appreciated, cherished, and loved. See for yourself!

But I’m Not a Poet or Wordsmith!

You might be excited about the idea of writing a romantic love letter to your spouse, but don’t feel like you’re creative enough to write one.

Don’t get overly concerned about writing a perfect letter just yet. Your only concern right now is to get up the courage to write one, period.

I’ll show you how to craft a perfect letter.

The only thing you need to possess is the willingness to open up and show the love for your spouse that I know you have (or you wouldn’t be reading this). If you have that, and even the most basic writing skills, you can write a romantic love letter that will melt your spouse’s heart.

You may be thinking, “Okay. I’m in love, and I can write, but how can I write a good romantic love letter?

Well, here’s the good news. It’s possible for you to write an awesome romantic love letter by following 7 simple rules.

Rules? Rules?!! Calm down. There’s no need to panic..these rules are easy to master.

Rule #1: Romantic love letters have to be personal

What does this mean? It has to be written by you…not by your friend, your secretary, your boss or someone you hired from the internet.

Your spouse longs to hear the secret words that are etched in your heart. The words that are written in the romantic letter do not have to be perfect, they just have to belong to you.

This is 1,000 times more important than earning style points.

Rule #2: Romantic love letters have to be positive and affirming

During the daily hustle of life, you may not remember to whisper sweet nothings in your lover’s ear or even tell your lover how much you care. This slight neglect may leave your spouse feeling insecure about their relationship.

A romantic letter serves as an affirmation to your spouse that the romantic flames have not been doused. It’s important to only mention positive attributes in the letter, and to show them that you have been noticing and cherishing them this whole time.

Rule #3: Romantic love letters must be specific and meaningful

No cliches! You have to put some real effort into crafting this letter. Like everything else in marriage, what you put into the letter determines what you get out of it.

So, make a list of specific things that you enjoy or appreciate about your lover. Maybe you enjoy your significant other’s hair. Or you might appreciate your lover’s kind and caring nature.

Whatever specifics you include in the letter, make sure the romantic letter gives specific details.

The more you personalize it for your spouse, the more special they will feel. Make it count!

Rule #4: Romantic Letters should be neat and attractive

Not only should a heartfelt romantic letter be handwritten, it should be written on stationery or nice writing paper…not printed, and not even on a card (sorry, Hallmark).

Think about the history of love letters…you’re tapping into centuries of tradition. Rituals can be very powerful, so do it the old-fashioned way and it will look like less of an afterthought.

You could also write the romantic letter on attractive paper and include a drawing. Another nice touch would be to spray a nice smelling scent on the romantic letter.

Rule #5: Actually mail your romantic letter to make it extra-special

Mailing the letter to your significant other adds to the element of surprise and fun. It shows your spouse that you put a lot of thought into writing the romantic letter.

Trust me – they want you to be thinking about them, and they want proof!

You spouse will be in for a real treat by getting a surprise like this from you in the mail. Talk about reaping romantic rewards!

Rule #6: Make a commitment to write romantic love letters regularly

Writing romantic love letters is not a one-time shot in the arm to your relationship. Letter-writing is just one tool (albeit a very powerful one) in your romantic toolbox.

So use them from time to time, or on special occasions, as your letters might lose their effectiveness if they are received too often. But don’t wait too long, either!

Make it a priority to surprise your spouse with words from the heart on a regular basis…not just on your anniversary or when you’re in the doghouse. The goal here is to show continuous appreciation.

Rule #7: Remember to proofread your writing

After you have written your romantic letter, proofread your writing to make sure it’s free of errors. You also want to be certain that your letter conveys the message that you think you’re sending.

After your spouse receives the romantic letter, you’ll notice the following positive benefits:

• Deepened intimacy, romance and trust within your relationship,
• Your connection will be strengthened, and help you weather the storms to come,
• You’ll be able to express your feelings more easily when talking with your spouse later on,
• You’ll both re-experience those exciting feelings you had during your dating and honeymoon stages,
• Your spouse will have a keepsake that will serve as a visible reminder of your everlasting love.

I hope that by now you’re convinced of the benefits of writing a romantic love letter, and how much they will help your relationship.

But…some of my readers aren’t convinced they can write a romantic love letter on their own.

The Perfect Love Letter In About 15 Minutes…No Matter How Rusty You Are!

Suppose it’s been a long time since you’ve expressed your feelings in writing (or in general), and you feel like you’re not super-creative and need a little help?

To help you write romantic letters that will keep the flames of your love burning strong, I created a special checklist for you, which I call…

“Our Perfect Love Letter Checklist – 5 Simple Steps to the Perfect Love Letter”

This checklist outlines:

– How to never get stuck on what to write about
– The secret ingredients to crafting the perfect love letter
– The things to say that will make your spouse’s heart melt
– The way to deliver the romantic letter that will WOW your spouse

I am giving away a FREE copy of this checklist. Download your copy now.

You can click here to grab it now:
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Then, get ready to give your spouse the surprise of the year with your own, original romantic love letter.

You’ll thank me later. Good luck!

19 Gift Ideas For Your Guy This Christmas

By Dustin | Romance

19 Gift Ideas For Your Guy This Christmas
‘Tis the season to find a special gift for husband…who refuses to give you any good ideas! 🙂

Are you shopping for your husband and can’t seem to think of a creative idea?

Here are 19 unique ideas to get you started in the right direction.

These all come from Amazon, so they are super-easy to get shipped right to your door.

Even if he already has one or more of the items listed, you may still find some options in the links below to give you the perfect idea for him, your Dad or your son!

The list isn’t in any particular order and prices range from ten dollars to over a hundred.

So whether you are trying to find a stocking stuffer or a the ultimate manly gift, this list should help you give your husband a gift he will enjoy.

Happy shopping!

Fit Bit

Fitbit designs products and experiences that track everyday health and fitness, empowering and inspiring people to lead healthy, more active lives.  Fun gift for those husbands who are interested in fitness!

Kindle Paperwhite

 

Kindle Paperwhite is a great gift idea for those husbands that enjoy reading.  There are many types of Kindles to choose from, but this one allows the reader to use it even in the sunlight with no glare!  He can relax anywhere while reading his favorite book!

 

Echo

 

Amazon Echo is a fun gift for those who love technology! Using voice technology, it can share information, music, audiobooks, news, weather, traffic, sports, and more–instantly!

 

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Grill Tools are a great gift for the guy who loves to cook outdoors!  This set comes with a nifty storage case!

 

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This Yeti Cooler is top of the line when it comes to chilling your drinks and food!

 

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If your husband doesn’t need an entire cooler, this Yeti Can Coozie is the perfect personal sized gift for him!  He’ll thank you when his drink is still cold HOURS later!

 

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Home Brew Kits are a popular gift.  Craft beers are all the rage right now, and making his own brand might be the perfect gift idea!

 

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Art of Appreciation Baskets come in many different varieties.  From candy to meat to snacks, they’ve got you covered!

51PD7s40ZZL._SX522_Cologne is always a great gift.  This scent is refreshing and classic…you can’t go wrong!

816mOAjctSL._SL1500_Tervis Cups are a great stocking stuffer. The insulation makes sure your beverages stay the temperature you prefer.  Many styles to choose from!

 

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A Bose Speaker is the perfect gift for the husband who enjoys listening to music!  This would be perfect if he is in his home office, working in the garage, or doing anything on his “honey-do” list!

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Amazon Fire TV is a useful gift for the whole family! It allows you to listen to music, watch TV shows, movies, and even play games!

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If you are searching for a personalized gift, this Engraved Titanium Ring may be it!  Lots of options available!61uYoMZXfpL._SL1500_Beats Headphones are perfect for the husband who likes to rock out! Many styles and colors are available!

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Is your man high maintenance?  I’m sure he isn’t, but this Man Groomer may be the right gift for him if he is looking to increase comfort and save time!

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Is your husband the Best. Husband. Ever?  If so, this might be the perfect stocking stuffer for him this year!

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Copper Mugs are all the rage!  Perfect for those mixed drinks he likes to enjoy!

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This Voice Activated Alarm Clock is the perfect gift for those guys who like technology…and have trouble with small buttons!

 

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Is your house the party house?  Or does your family enjoy a dance party?  This iON Speaker works well for all of those! If you have a device with music and Bluetooth capability, your party awaits!

 

If you’re the wife, I hope this list gives you some great ideas to really spoil your husband…and if you’re the husband you have some new ideas for your wishlist!

What’s on your gift wishlist right now?  Share it in the comments to help other couples with some new ideas!

 

 

24 Glamorous Gift Ideas to Wow Your Wife This Christmas

By Dustin | Romance

24 Glamorous Gift Ideas to Wow Your Wife This ChristmasThe Christmas season is here!

Are you looking for an awesome gift for your wife to let her know how much you care?

Here are 24 unique ideas to get you started in the right direction.

These all come from Amazon so they’re super-easy to get shipped right to your door.

Even if a particular item doesn’t fit your fancy, you may find some option from the links below to give you the perfect idea!

The list is in no particular order and prices range from ten dollars to over a hundred.  So whether you are trying to find a stocking stuffer or a big gift, this list should help you give your wife a gift she’ll love.

Happy shopping!

 

Leopard Print Infinity Scarf

Infinity Scarves are a fun way to spice up an outfit.  This particular scarf comes in many color combinations, so choose one that you think your wife would enjoy!

Knitted Infinity Scarf

Knitted Scarves are another trendy type of accessory.  These scarves come in many colors and can change the look of any outfit!

Space Dye Infinity Scarf

Chunky Infinity Scarves also add a cozy look and definitely keep you warm during the cold winter months!

 

Alex and Ani Rafaelian Silver Finish Initial Bangle

Alex and Ani Bangle Bracelets are so versatile.  These are meant to be worn stacked, so even if your wife has one, there are so many styles to choose from!

Bella Ryann Silver Plated Birth Crystal

Bella Ryann Bracelets are similar to the Alex and Ani ones, but are about half the cost.  No matter what your wife’s style is, a bracelet (or two) can be found for her!  These are available in silver or gold!

 

Hand Stamped Jewelry

Hand Stamped Necklaces can be personalized with the names of family members.  You can’t go wrong with jewelry!

Perfume

Perfume is a gift for both of you!  This fragrance is a classic choice.

 

Coach Sunglasses

Sunglasses are a useful accessory!  This pair of Coach sunglasses are a trendy look this year.

 

Crossbody Purse

Crossbody Purses are both functional and stylish.

 

Weekender Bag

This Weekender Bag looks fantastic and would be useful when you take your wife away for a romantic overnight stay!

 

Fringe Bootie

Fringed booties are very stylish right now.  They look great with casual or dressy outfits.

Buckled Knee-High Riding Boot

Riding boots are a great accessory.  This taupe color is very versatile, so she can wear them with lots of outfits!

 

Tervis Cup

Tervis Cups are a fun stocking stuffer.  These are great quality and can be found in many different styles!

Insulated Wine Glasses

Insulated Wine Glasses may be the perfect gift!  These can keep her wine or champagne chilled while you relax together!

 

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Keurig coffee makers are a fantastic kitchen appliance!  If your wife is a coffee lover, this may be just the ticket!

 

Kindle Paperwhite

Kindle Paperwhite is a great gift idea for those wives that enjoy reading.  There are many types of Kindles to choose from, but this one allows the reader to use it even in the sunlight with no glare!  She can relax in the sun while reading her favorite book!

 

Echo

Amazon Echo is a fun gift for those who love technology! Using voice technology, it can share information, music, audiobooks, news, weather, traffic, sports, and more–instantly!

 

Fit Bit

Fitbit designs products and experiences that track everyday health and fitness, empowering and inspiring people to lead healthy, more active lives.  Fun gift for those wives who are interested in fitness!

 

Amazon Fire TV

Amazon Fire TV is a fun and useful gift for the whole family!  Lots of movies and apps.  Hours of entertainment!

 

Bluetooth Headphones

LG Bluetooth Headphones are comfortable and useful!  Whether she is working out or driving in her car, she can listen to music or talk on the phone with ease!

 

Coffee Mug

Best. Wife. Ever. coffee mugs make fun gifts, but also let her know what you really think of her.

Roomba

Roomba robotic vacuums are a great way to help your family save time cleaning!  This means more couple time for you!

 

Luxury Robe

Luxury Robes are a fun gift to receive.  Especially if you give her a gift certificate to a spa or make her some homemade coupons to let her have reasons to use it!

Fleece Robe

Fleece Robes are a slightly less expensive type of robe, but can be given with bath salts, or other relaxation items!

If you’re the husband, I hope this list gives you some great ideas to really pamper your wife…and if you’re the wife you have some new ideas for your wishlist!

What’s on your gift wishlist right now?  Share it in the comments to help other couples with some new ideas!

5 Unexpected Ways a Romantic Massage Can Change Your Marriage

By Dustin | Romance

Romantic Couples MassageThe best things in life are often the most simple.

A steaming cup of coffee brought to you in bed. A lingering kiss goodbye. A comforting back rub.

That’s right, a back rub. It doesn’t sound like much, but actually massage between couples comes with a whole host of benefits for your relationship and your close connection with your spouse.

Giving your partner a massage will help you weave strong bonds of trust, supercharge your intimacy and even make you fall a little more in love with them, just like you did at the start of your relationship!

Sound good? Of course it does. Not to mention, a muscle-melting massage feels absolutely fantastic.

Who wouldn’t want access to that on tap?

Massage is the gift that keeps on giving. Once you know how, it’s just one more tool in your relationship arsenal to help you pamper and love your partner on a regular basis.

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Here are five incredible ways massage can work to transform your relationship:

1. Radically Builds Your Trust & Connection

Trust is a crucial part of any romantic relationship. Chances are, you already inherently trust your spouse more than anyone in the world. But sometimes this bond needs a little work, and sometimes (no matter how close you already are) it’s great to just reinforce it in the name of ongoing development.

Massage has been proven to supercharge the trusting bond between couples.

In order to fully enjoy any massage, you’ll have to deeply relax. It’s a beautiful experience to close your eyes as your partner is rhythmically massaging your neck and shoulders and fall back into them as their hands work magic on your muscles.

Becoming putty in your spouse’s hands and likewise, having them surrender to you in the same unquestioning way, is a lovely, comforting experience that will steep through your entire marriage.

2. Creates Effortless Intimacy

The biggest difference between a massage from a professional massage therapist and one from the person you love is the ability to fully embrace the intimacy created during the experience.

Intimacy is about being emotionally close to another person, and it is not an automatic occurrence in a relationship.

Intimacy should be vigilantly and continuously cultivated in any marriage.

It’s about being vulnerable and still feeling safe. It’s created in private moments through shared experiences.

One of the most important ways to nurture this intimate connection is to spend time alone together, concentrating on each other.

When it comes to massage, you are focusing your absolute attention – even your hands! – on each other in a quiet moment together. Try it and watch your intimate connection skyrocket.

3. Fall In Love (Again!)

When we are in our early courtship phase of our relationship, we have the very distinct experience of falling in love with each other: we get butterflies in our tummy, it’s hard to sleep or eat or think of anything other than our object of affection… our brains quite literally mimic the brain of an addict!

We become addicted to the person we love, and it’s wonderful.

This head-over-heels phase never lasts past 18 months (probably for the best; how would we ever get anything done?) after which it gives way to a deeper, more trusting, bonded love.

However. Researchers have found that simply introducing some novelty into your relationship will ignite your brain with a surge of feel-good hormones, the very same hormones that are present when we first fall in love!

This novelty needn’t be big and dramatic – a small alteration to your daily routine, trying out a new cuisine or learning a new skill together.

When it comes to new skills, massage has to be way up there on the list as recommended for couples. You can do it from the comfort of your lounge room, it’s cheap, fun and easy and the fact that you’ll quite literally have your hands all over each other makes it romantic and exciting too. Cue tummy-butterflies!

4. An Amazing Stay-home Date Night

Scheduled date nights are so important. It’s time you carve out mindfully in your week for your spouse where you can turn off your mobile phone, shut down the laptop and focus one hundred per cent on your spouse.

When you’re massaging, there is no stressful talk of money, or the bad day you had at work.

It’s a chance to be together alone, to relax and to spoil each other with love.

Turn your simple massage into a romantic date night with all the trimmings: light candles, play your partner’s favorite music, have a living room floor picnic with a bottle of wine.

Treating each other to a massage is an easy date night to set up, it’s very cheap to do and you can make it a regular weekly thing, learning new massage strokes or trying new routines each time to keep it fresh and new.

What a beautiful way to spend quality time together as a couple.

5. Slows Time Down

We have high-speed wifi and high-speed attention spans these days. Is it just me, or does it sometimes seem like the world spins a little faster than it did 10 years ago?

Some nights, you just want to stop, breathe and slow time down.

Massaging your partner is great practice in doing this. You get to focus on just one thing (a wonderful remedy for chronic multi-taskers), you need to mindfully relax into your massage (there are no points for finishing first in massage!) and you can get completely lost in the little world you set up for you and your partner.

Carving out this extra time and space for your marriage to abundantly thrive is vital to your relationship.

Pause. Breathe. Connect. Love… Just be.

Each moment we have here together is precious and massage is a lovely way to stretch those moments out while connecting completely with your spouse.

How to Enjoy Massage In YOUR Marriage

The info above was provided by friends of mine who know a thing or two about massage – Denis and Emma Merkas are the amazingly talented Australian couple behind Couples Massage Courses.

Bethany and I discovered their video courses a little while back, and I have to tell you they’ve made a powerful difference in our intimacy.

Whether it’s a short foot rub done the right way or a date night complete with an awesome 15-minute neck/shoulder massage, it’s really amazing how much good massage can do for a relationship.

I’ve tried doing back massages before, but the results were less than stellar:

  • I made her neck sore.
  • My hands hurt after about two minutes.
  • I didn’t really know what do with my hands and felt a little awkward.
  • I caused more pain than pleasure.

Can you relate?  It turns out that a deeply enjoyable massage isn’t hard at all once you learn the basics the right way.

I’ll let Denis explain his approach to massage and what it’s meant for he and Emma’s marriage:

 

After I raved about their video series and asked what we could do to bring the magic of couples massage to our community, Denis and Emma graciously agreed to give a BIG discount to Engaged Marriage readers on their premium Melt Massage video course.

When you join through this special link, you’ll get the best of everything:

  • Lifetime, unlimited access to all their high-quality video courses, ready to stream directly to your smart TV, laptop, iPad or tablet. Watch as many times as you like.
  • 17 simple and easy massage techniques, broken down stroke by stroke by a professional massage therapist
  • 3 follow-along massage routines that combine our signature strokes into a 5-minute, 15-minute and epic 30-minute massage routine
  • All techniques are designed for the home. No special equipment needed. Learn in your living room. Just add oil.
  • All their follow-along routines are downloadable when you sign up for lifetime access. That means you can put them on your device and take them with you next time you have a weekend away without your wifi access!

Everything is absolutely PG-rated with fully clothed demonstrations by Denis and Emma of the massage techniques.  While your experience together may very well be sensual, these videos are definitely done in good taste.

And you’ll save money simply because you’re an EM reader – how cool is that!

Massage Your Spouse the RIGHT Way & Enjoy the Ultimate Date Night!

If you're looking for a fun, romantic and intimate date night that you can do at home without the need for a babysitter, you'll love the Melt: Massage for Couples program -

Click Here to Check Out Melt & Save BIG with Engaged Marriage Special Package!

Just click here to get all the details and grab your couple’s massage course – I guarantee you’ll love it and your husband or wife will love you even more for investing in it!

Enjoy and let us know how your first massage date night goes. 😉

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