Comments on: How Does Natural Family Planning Benefit Marriage?

By: Nuala

Nuala — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 07:56:21 +0000

I really enjoyed and appreciated your article about benefits of NFP. I’m glad that Church begins at least (slowly but whatever) to compromise with necessity of it. Clearly, i think it’s the most acceptable and moral way of contraception. Yes, children are the joy of the family, yes, we must cherish the life, but we must NOT ignore health by no means, eh?? woman can’t be pregnant constantly, we’re not female animals!!!! it’s dangerous for reproductive system, moreover, children need to be fed, clothed….. you gotta have some money, haven’t you? So, I think it’s nothing wrong with natural contraception, some period of time before procreating a new life is NECESSARY.
P.S. In my opinion, breastfeeding is the best

By: Elise

Elise — Fri, 20 May 2011 02:30:42 +0000

My husband and I decided on NFP before we got married and have been using it for almost a year now. Its hard to judge whether it has brought us closer because we never used anything else, but it definitely improved our communication especially for him understanding how my body works. (He actually got sick during our first meeting with an instructor!)

I also had a very hard time telling even my closest friends who thought we were crazy and that it wouldn’t work etc. It’s definitely not a popular choice, but the more I read and understood it, the more I could talk to my friends and help them understand. Eventually one of my friends and her husband decided to use it and the others now are more accepting (and since its been almost a year and no baby they at least have to admit that it works).

By: kandyce

kandyce — Thu, 19 May 2011 22:15:41 +0000

hi,
i stumbled upon your website through ‘holymess of marriage.’ i/ we are interested in NFP but don’t know where to start (and aren’t in a place where we feel as though having a baby would be a ‘good idea’, for lack of a better way to phrase it.
anything you have to offer on the subject would be helpful. i’m sure you’ve got information on here somewhere, but i just finished reading this post and haven’t had time to poke around much yet.
thanks!

By: j&j

j&j — Sat, 12 Mar 2011 06:07:56 +0000

I am completely convinced that NFP is the only moral and defensible family planning. The most amazing ideas I’ve ever read were contained in Chris West’s Theology of the Body for Beginners, I think it was called. TOTB is hundreds of years ahead of its time. In our marriage we used NFP and the same with 2 of my close friends. Unfortunately one of these marriages ended in a bitter divorce and my other friend lives in a difficult intimate situation as I understand it to be. He still hangs in there because he believes in the sanctity of marriage as do I.

One comment I would like to add. It is not only the woman who has the most desire during the fertile time, it is the man too. Perhaps this is the way God designed it to be.

By: Kemi

Kemi — Wed, 14 Jul 2010 10:33:58 +0000

I’m sorry but I’m also one of your readers who disagrees with the generalization that somehow NFP leads to lower divorce rates. As someone has mentioned before this AT BEST is a correlation. One to say a small percentage of Catholics use NFP and then compare that to the total number of people that use NFP is inaccurate. The are most definitely not the same sample size and should not be compared via percentages. What WOULD be interesting to know is what percentage of NFPers are indeed Catholics and/or practising Catholics, what percentage consider themselves “religious” and what percentage are in the “neither” category. That kind of figure is more reliable than a generalization.

This is not a comment against NFP however. I think all couples should be knowledgeable, know their options and do what’s best for themselves. From the age of about 18 or 19, I’ve always known about my body, my cycle, when I’m expected to be ovulating, the signs of ovulation etc so I’ve always been aware of that. Everyone woman should have this information I believe. Myself and my husband currently use condoms, i’ve never in my life been on the pill. I’ve never had any adverse effects or reactions to the condom (though some are allergic to it).

All in all, like I said before, do what’s best for you.