The following the first few paragraphs from a post I wrote over at Your Tango defending Natural Family Planning. As you may know, NFP has meant a lot to our marriage, and I’m pretty passionate about clearing up misconceptions. While I don’t try to convert people to practice NFP, I get a BIT upset when large websites publish blatantly false information. Fortunately, in this case, I was given an opportunity to respond. Enjoy!
If you’ve heard the term Natural Family Planning (NFP), there’s a very good chance, it’s probably almost a certainty actually, that you were given some bad information about it.
As someone who has practiced NFP with my wife for around six years, I know I’ve heard more than my fair share of misguidance from family, the media and even priests. Sometimes it’s honest confusion or simply a passing along of misinformation, but other times it’s a blatant attack on a somewhat mysterious practice that many in our culture chalk-up to some form of crazy desire for 20 kids or an exercise in Pope-worshiping.
I’ve heard it all as a marriage blogger who writes openly about all aspects of NFP and healthy sexuality over at Engaged Marriage. I’ve even written here at Your Tango about the challenges of Natural Family Planning.
So, I was a bit shocked when I read a recent post by Lyz Lenz in the Traditional Love Blog bashing NFP while linking to said post. I’m actually cool with bashing, and my goals in writing about NFP are never about converting people to practice it (I’m not that naive), but when someone publishes blatantly false statements about Natural Family Planning and further feeds the steady stream of misinformation that caused my wife and I so much emotional pain early in our marriage, I get upset.
But getting upset does no good, so I thought I’d instead share a bit of a rebuttal to Lyz’s post and hopefully clean up some of the mud that was slung at Natural Family Planning, which she called “ridiculous.” I could literally write a book on this subject, but you don’t want to read a book about NFP, so let’s just hit three major misconceptions, all of which were part of Lyz’s post.
For the rest of this post, please go over and read it at Your Tango. While you’re there, I’d LOVE it if you could share your own thoughts/experiences in the comments section. Thanks!