When it comes to adding some sizzle to your marriage, nothing beats a good old-fashioned love letter.
Sure, you can buy flowers, candy or go out for a nice dinner.
Those kinds of borderline-cliche gifts tend to be less personalized and their effects fade over time.
A love letter, however, is the gift that comes straight from your heart, and is one they will keep and cherish forever.
Nothing says “I love you forever” to your spouse like taking time out of your day, putting pen to paper, and crafting the words of your very soul.
In terms of romantic rewards, the author of a romantic letter will reap dividends – if you know what I mean. 😉
You may just have to hire a sitter for the evening!
When you present your spouse with a romantic love letter, you might be shocked at the overwhelming response and outpouring of love that you receive.
Don’t be surprised if you see a bright smile that could light up the room. You might even end up on the receiving end of the most passionate kiss you’ve had since your wedding day.
By the way, ladies…if you don’t think a love letter will work on your husband as well as it works on wives, then you’ve really got to try it.
Everyone wants to feel appreciated, cherished, and loved. See for yourself!
You might be excited about the idea of writing a romantic love letter to your spouse, but don’t feel like you’re creative enough to write one.
Don’t get overly concerned about writing a perfect letter just yet. Your only concern right now is to get up the courage to write one, period.
I’ll show you how to craft a perfect letter.
The only thing you need to possess is the willingness to open up and show the love for your spouse that I know you have (or you wouldn’t be reading this). If you have that, and even the most basic writing skills, you can write a romantic love letter that will melt your spouse’s heart.
You may be thinking, “Okay. I’m in love, and I can write, but how can I write a good romantic love letter?”
Well, here’s the good news. It’s possible for you to write an awesome romantic love letter by following 7 simple rules.
Rules? Rules?!! Calm down. There’s no need to panic..these rules are easy to master.
What does this mean? It has to be written by you…not by your friend, your secretary, your boss or someone you hired from the internet.
Your spouse longs to hear the secret words that are etched in your heart. The words that are written in the romantic letter do not have to be perfect, they just have to belong to you.
This is 1,000 times more important than earning style points.
During the daily hustle of life, you may not remember to whisper sweet nothings in your lover’s ear or even tell your lover how much you care. This slight neglect may leave your spouse feeling insecure about their relationship.
A romantic letter serves as an affirmation to your spouse that the romantic flames have not been doused. It’s important to only mention positive attributes in the letter, and to show them that you have been noticing and cherishing them this whole time.
No cliches! You have to put some real effort into crafting this letter. Like everything else in marriage, what you put into the letter determines what you get out of it.
So, make a list of specific things that you enjoy or appreciate about your lover. Maybe you enjoy your significant other’s hair. Or you might appreciate your lover’s kind and caring nature.
Whatever specifics you include in the letter, make sure the romantic letter gives specific details.
The more you personalize it for your spouse, the more special they will feel. Make it count!
Not only should a heartfelt romantic letter be handwritten, it should be written on stationery or nice writing paper…not printed, and not even on a card (sorry, Hallmark).
Think about the history of love letters…you’re tapping into centuries of tradition. Rituals can be very powerful, so do it the old-fashioned way and it will look like less of an afterthought.
You could also write the romantic letter on attractive paper and include a drawing. Another nice touch would be to spray a nice smelling scent on the romantic letter.
Mailing the letter to your significant other adds to the element of surprise and fun. It shows your spouse that you put a lot of thought into writing the romantic letter.
Trust me – they want you to be thinking about them, and they want proof!
You spouse will be in for a real treat by getting a surprise like this from you in the mail. Talk about reaping romantic rewards!
Writing romantic love letters is not a one-time shot in the arm to your relationship. Letter-writing is just one tool (albeit a very powerful one) in your romantic toolbox.
So use them from time to time, or on special occasions, as your letters might lose their effectiveness if they are received too often. But don’t wait too long, either!
Make it a priority to surprise your spouse with words from the heart on a regular basis…not just on your anniversary or when you’re in the doghouse. The goal here is to show continuous appreciation.
After you have written your romantic letter, proofread your writing to make sure it’s free of errors. You also want to be certain that your letter conveys the message that you think you’re sending.
After your spouse receives the romantic letter, you’ll notice the following positive benefits:
• Deepened intimacy, romance and trust within your relationship,
• Your connection will be strengthened, and help you weather the storms to come,
• You’ll be able to express your feelings more easily when talking with your spouse later on,
• You’ll both re-experience those exciting feelings you had during your dating and honeymoon stages,
• Your spouse will have a keepsake that will serve as a visible reminder of your everlasting love.
I hope that by now you’re convinced of the benefits of writing a romantic love letter, and how much they will help your relationship.
But…some of my readers aren’t convinced they can write a romantic love letter on their own.
Suppose it’s been a long time since you’ve expressed your feelings in writing (or in general), and you feel like you’re not super-creative and need a little help?
To help you write romantic letters that will keep the flames of your love burning strong, I created a special checklist for you, which I call…
“Our Perfect Love Letter Checklist – 5 Simple Steps to the Perfect Love Letter”
This checklist outlines:
– How to never get stuck on what to write about
– The secret ingredients to crafting the perfect love letter
– The things to say that will make your spouse’s heart melt
– The way to deliver the romantic letter that will WOW your spouse
I am giving away a FREE copy of this checklist. Download your copy now.
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Then, get ready to give your spouse the surprise of the year with your own, original romantic love letter.
You’ll thank me later. Good luck!
Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.