Marriage Advice & Tips for a Happy Life

Win Hearts, Not Arguments

Note: This guest post was written by Surabhi Surendra of Womantics

In his book, ‘How to have a beautiful mind’ author Edward De bono explains how one of the characteristics of a beautiful mind is that it carries on with a conversation for acquiring something meaningful in the end, with the hope of gaining some knowledge and not just for the sake of winning the argument. Same rule applies to relationships.

Always be more focused on understanding your partner and not on simply pulling him down. Carrying on with the argument with the intent of winning eventually wastes a lot of time and energy without any gain and, in the end, both you and your partner will lose.

Studies have proven that the biggest source of conflict in any relationship is ego – the urge to win over the partner.  We are made to be competitive and to look at everything as a test, as a battle to be won and we believe that is how we achieve perfection.

Winning makes us feel secure, strong and safe. But for any relationship, this attitude is disastrous.

Constant conflicts that result in humiliation and hostility finally lead to distance – emotional and physical distance from the partner and thus a relationship becomes totally void of communication!  



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How to Talk to Your Partner About What You Don’t Like Without Starting World War III

Note: This is a guest post by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Ashley Arn.

When you’re married, it’s inevitable that some things your partner does, or doesn’t do, will drive you nuts.

It would be great if we could love everything our partner does, but it just won’t happen.

Truthfully, if our partner did every single thing we wanted, it would be great at first, but then even that would become annoying!

I absolutely adore my husband and am simultaneously extremely annoyed by some of the things he does at times. Some things about our partner are bound to get on our nerves, but how we talk about these things makes all the difference.

What do most people do in these types of situations?

Most of us either don’t talk to our partner about what we don’t like and get resentful or we talk to our partner in a very blaming and non-helpful way.

Today, I’ll show you how you can talk to your partner about anything that’s bothering you without starting World War III in your household.  Throughout the article, I will use he and she interchangeably because both men and women could benefit from learning these strategies!  



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Join This E-Book Club!

I am really excited to let you know that Mandi over at Life….Your Way has chosen 15 Minute Marriage Makeover for their October ebook club!

If you own 15MMM and want to join some awesome women and couples as they w0rk their way through it next month, then be sure to check it out.  And if you don’t yet own the book, you definitely won’t find it at a deeper discount.  I love everything that Mandi does and I was honored to share the book with her community, so I am providing a very special major discount as part of the ebook club.

Go pick up your copy, join in the fun and make October a month dedicated to ROCKING your marriage…in just 15 minutes per day!

Click here to get started.

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5 Reasons You Need a Debt-Free Marriage

When I shared our family’s story of how we paid off $54,500 in debt, the response was overwhelmingly positive, and I heard from a lot of people who were in the process of shedding their debt (or at least wanted to get started).

However, the reasons that I heard for becoming debt-free were mostly focused on the usual, more material motivations.

It seems that most people dream of paying off their debts to reclaim more freedom in their financial life.

The idea of getting creditors off their back and having more of their income to save or buy things to improve their quality of life is very appealing.  Honestly, that was a big part of why my wife and I decided we wanted to become debt free, and we achieved that goal (other than our home mortgage) three years ago.

I think the purely financial benefits are pretty clear and widely written about.

Instead, I want to share with you some of the awesome marriage benefits that a debt-free lifestyle provides.  While they weren’t our original motivation, our experiences in these areas have really grown our passion for getting (and staying) debt free.  



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15 Minute Marriage Makeover – In Paperback, Kindle, Nook and iBook Format (and on sale)!

I’m SO excited today!

It’s taken some time, but I am happy to let you know that your many requests have been taken to heart and my book is now available in your favorite format.

If you’re not familiar with the book, here’s a short overview:

15 Minute Marriage Makeover – Refresh Your Relationship, Add Sizzle to Your Sex Life & Be Happier in Just Minutes a Day

It’s time to refresh your marriage and enjoy each other the way you did before your busy life got in the way… and you can do it in just 15 minutes a day!

When you experience your 15-Minute Marriage Makeover, here’s what you can expect to accomplish together:

- Control over your time so you can put your relationship first & keep it there

- A renewed connection that leaves you both anxious to talk like you did when you were dating

- A plan for everyday romance that will keep the passion between
you strong even when “life” tries to get in the way

- A deeper, more powerful and more frequent sex life that satisfies you both

   



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