Comments on: What Role Does Fitness Play in Your Marriage? http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage Marriage Advice & Tips for a Happy Life Mon, 06 Feb 2012 17:52:31 +0000 hourly 1 By: Eric http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-3664 Eric Fri, 24 Sep 2010 16:26:27 +0000 http://www.engagedmarriage.com/?p=1937#comment-3664 My wife and I enjoy training together and competing in running and biking events. I was a former competitive bodybuilder and a personal trainer by trade. With that, it has helped me transform my wife from a casual runner to a complete athlete. We have decided to not have children, which I believe is the best decision for us. With that extra free time, we can always find balance in our relationship, which is the most important thing to us. My marriage is the most imporatnt thing in my life, with exercise...and our dog being a close second My wife and I enjoy training together and competing in running and biking events. I was a former competitive bodybuilder and a personal trainer by trade. With that, it has helped me transform my wife from a casual runner to a complete athlete. We have decided to not have children, which I believe is the best decision for us. With that extra free time, we can always find balance in our relationship, which is the most important thing to us. My marriage is the most imporatnt thing in my life, with exercise…and our dog being a close second

]]> By: Cori Padgett http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-3428 Cori Padgett Mon, 02 Aug 2010 04:30:26 +0000 http://www.engagedmarriage.com/?p=1937#comment-3428 Agreed... fitness makes your relationship better! When I am being consistent in taking care of myself, I feel better, I have more energy, I feel sexier, and all of that translates into better interaction with both my guy and my kiddies. And when I am NOT being consistent (like lately!) I feel terrible, I get cranky, I feel frumpy and in general not very happy. lol But unfortunately getting my guy to exercise WITH me is a losing battle. He's naturally thin and athletic, and doesn't feel the need to exercise beyond his job. :) So my workouts are either done alone or with a girlfriend! C Agreed… fitness makes your relationship better! When I am being consistent in taking care of myself, I feel better, I have more energy, I feel sexier, and all of that translates into better interaction with both my guy and my kiddies.

And when I am NOT being consistent (like lately!) I feel terrible, I get cranky, I feel frumpy and in general not very happy. lol But unfortunately getting my guy to exercise WITH me is a losing battle. He’s naturally thin and athletic, and doesn’t feel the need to exercise beyond his job. :) So my workouts are either done alone or with a girlfriend!

C

]]> By: Joanna Cake http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-3289 Joanna Cake Sun, 18 Jul 2010 15:50:29 +0000 http://www.engagedmarriage.com/?p=1937#comment-3289 Hey Dustin Im half out and half in two relationships. I finally ended my almost 30 year relationship and marriage and one of the overriding factors was to do with fitness and physical attractiveness. My ex-husband did not feel that expending the time on keeping fit whilst cutting down his diet was a priority and seemed to believe that I should love him as is. However, as an anorexic, having a huge tyre of blubber forever between us was a real problem for me. My feeling was that he should at least make some effort to stay trim, even if it was only for the sake of his own health, rather than the benefit of my eyes. Whilst I wait for the divorce to come through, I am in a serious relationship with a man who does believe in working on his fitness. We regularly attend yoga classes together and also engage in separate fitness pursuits. The increased fitness and energy levels allow us to enjoy a very healthy sex life but, doing the yoga together, also reinforces the intimacy of our connection. Learning from the failure of my first marriage, I understand how important it is to stay fit but also to stay connected. Doing a work-out together, in whatever form that takes, is really beneficial to maintaining the relationship. Hey Dustin

Im half out and half in two relationships. I finally ended my almost 30 year relationship and marriage and one of the overriding factors was to do with fitness and physical attractiveness. My ex-husband did not feel that expending the time on keeping fit whilst cutting down his diet was a priority and seemed to believe that I should love him as is. However, as an anorexic, having a huge tyre of blubber forever between us was a real problem for me. My feeling was that he should at least make some effort to stay trim, even if it was only for the sake of his own health, rather than the benefit of my eyes.

Whilst I wait for the divorce to come through, I am in a serious relationship with a man who does believe in working on his fitness. We regularly attend yoga classes together and also engage in separate fitness pursuits. The increased fitness and energy levels allow us to enjoy a very healthy sex life but, doing the yoga together, also reinforces the intimacy of our connection.

Learning from the failure of my first marriage, I understand how important it is to stay fit but also to stay connected. Doing a work-out together, in whatever form that takes, is really beneficial to maintaining the relationship.

]]> By: Kris http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-3254 Kris Thu, 15 Jul 2010 15:44:11 +0000 http://www.engagedmarriage.com/?p=1937#comment-3254 Maya, I know how you feel. I am a working mom (executive level in a global company) so I have to travel, do early morning or late evening conference calls and work crazy hours sometimes. Finding time to workout has been last on my list because I felt that spending time with my husband and kids was most important. BUT, I found that the time I was spending with the family could be done while still getting in some type of fitness. We bought bikes and a trailer for the kids and now our quality time is going around our neighborhood and on trails. Not the intensive workout that I would like, but it has helped. Thankfully my work also has a gym onsite and I have been sacrificing some lunches to get in a 30 min elliptical workout. Every little effort counts. I average 2 days a week in the gym which is better than none. And as others have pointed out, when you feel better about yourself, it shows in every aspect of your marriage. I also have about 90 pounds to lose but in the past 2 months have lost 10 just from changing my eating habits and doing a little exercise. Don't give up, you can do it!!! Maya, I know how you feel. I am a working mom (executive level in a global company) so I have to travel, do early morning or late evening conference calls and work crazy hours sometimes. Finding time to workout has been last on my list because I felt that spending time with my husband and kids was most important. BUT, I found that the time I was spending with the family could be done while still getting in some type of fitness. We bought bikes and a trailer for the kids and now our quality time is going around our neighborhood and on trails. Not the intensive workout that I would like, but it has helped. Thankfully my work also has a gym onsite and I have been sacrificing some lunches to get in a 30 min elliptical workout. Every little effort counts. I average 2 days a week in the gym which is better than none. And as others have pointed out, when you feel better about yourself, it shows in every aspect of your marriage. I also have about 90 pounds to lose but in the past 2 months have lost 10 just from changing my eating habits and doing a little exercise. Don’t give up, you can do it!!!

]]> By: Elizabeth Ikemire http://www.engagedmarriage.com/individual-fulfillment/what-role-does-fitness-play-in-your-marriage/comment-page-1#comment-3241 Elizabeth Ikemire Tue, 13 Jul 2010 13:42:07 +0000 http://www.engagedmarriage.com/?p=1937#comment-3241 Maya, I started my weight loss journey with the same problem. I highly recommend DVD workouts to get going. I lost >100 pounds, and in the beginning, I was doing all my workouts in front of the TV. I really like Leslie Sansome's DVDs. They don't require much floor space, and you can do them at any fitness level. I was doing them at 275 lbs, and I still find them useful now that I'm at 140. Most of all, don't beat yourself up. If all you can do is 10 minutes at a time right now, that's enough. That's all I could physically handle in the begining, but it was enough. Hang in there! Elizabeth Maya,
I started my weight loss journey with the same problem. I highly recommend DVD workouts to get going. I lost >100 pounds, and in the beginning, I was doing all my workouts in front of the TV. I really like Leslie Sansome’s DVDs. They don’t require much floor space, and you can do them at any fitness level. I was doing them at 275 lbs, and I still find them useful now that I’m at 140.

Most of all, don’t beat yourself up. If all you can do is 10 minutes at a time right now, that’s enough. That’s all I could physically handle in the begining, but it was enough.
Hang in there!
Elizabeth

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