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Dating for the Wrong Reasons: Misery Loves Company

By Dustin | Marriage Preparation

This is a guest post from E. Umana from Christian Marriage Works.  I hope you enjoy his interesting take on a current trend toward dating to avoid loneliness rather than to find a marriage partner.

We’re in the midst of a raging recession with global reach, and many economists are speculating about the possibility of a “double dip” recession. People have lost jobs, homes, cars, and other property, and marriages are strained under the weight of mounting debts and other economic problems.

But there is one “industry” that is defying the economic gloom and doom.  According to a report from Fox News, some online matchmaking services are reporting double-digit increases in the number of new members.  They describe the pace at which people are trying to find a new partner as being frenzied.

It seems that, despite the sometimes high monthly cost, people want to reach out to one another and be together.  In other words, they don’t want to go through this economic downturn alone.

Dating for All the Wrong Reasons?

Unfortunately, many of these people (not all) are lonely and not seeking a partner from a Godly standpoint,as in seeking their lifelong soul mate, partner, fellow worshiper, lover and co- parent of any future children. In fact, I believe many of these people are simply looking for someone to “hook up with.”  Some of them will marry after many years of getting to KNOW each other in the biblical sense, prior to marriage.

People are social creatures, and they need to interact with other people. When interviewed in the Fox News story, several people stated the need to connect and not face all this uncertainty by themselves.

However, they also mention the advantage of having an almost unlimited number of potential partners to interact with and weed out the incompatible (the golddigger, the psycho, etc.).  As a bonus, they have more basic information on the potential mate than they otherwise would meeting someone at work or from a chance encounter at the laundromat.

One can sympathize as these are lonely people who want companionship and perhaps the ability to share expenses in these difficult times. However, in my opinion, it is better to be alone than to be with the wrong person. No matter how bad the economy is a relationship started out of loneliness, desperation or a desire to share expenses will not last in the long run.

Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife (or husband). Proverbs 21 verse 9 (NIV)

What do you think?  Do you agree with the guest author’s view that dating out of loneliness or economic despair is outside of God’s intentions?


E.Umana is an article author and blog owner, and his various articles on marriage and internet marketing are posted and republished in various places all over the internet. His blog is a christian blog called Christian Marriage Works at where you can download his e-book 12 Marriage Killers, which explains how to spot the behaviors that can create conflict and destroy a marriage.

Sep. 20-Oct. 4, 2010

About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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