Comments on: Be Proactive: A Marriage Lesson From a Fat Smoker

By: ericka gavin

ericka gavin — Sat, 15 Oct 2011 17:06:52 +0000

Been married for twenty years, married at twenty. Husband is a smoker and is overall unhealthy. Is on blood pressure medicine, thryoid etc.. he is overweight and basically isnt active at all. I dont know what to do. I take it so personal that he doesnt want better. or doesnt want to make the effort. He plays video games and watches tv.. I have turned into a nag I guess which of course doesnt get me anywhere. What do I do. What am I doing wrong!! Some advice would be great.

By: Pierre & Pierrette

Pierre & Pierrette — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:48:33 +0000

Thanks for asking.My wife & I have been together 44 years and married for 40 on the 3 rd of July.I am truly amazed and so happy to be able to shout it to the world.
We have often talked about our very successful relationship and can pin-point one area that helped us tremendously. Let me share it with you:As a young couple we all struggle with power issues.Yes the who’s right and who’s wrong issues. Whether it be about money, the kids, work, the house, the in-laws, whatever.You know what I am talking about?
Many couples struggle communicating with each other and learning to compromise. Well we did big time.
We would often leave an argument with a sour taste in our mouths, yes both of us did.
One night, during another battle of wits, we made a promise to each other,”Never to go to bed mad at each other,ever”.
It led to many sleepless night over black coffee but, you know what, it broke our defense mechanism down to the point where we both changed and started respecting each others point of view.
Getting along proved to be the best solution,always.We have not gone to bed mad at each other for over 35 years now.Do the math.
Thanks
Pierre & Pierrette
Thee Quest For Perfect Health

By: Julie

Julie — Fri, 13 Aug 2010 05:22:06 +0000

Seth’s the man.

It’s frightening how quickly tomorrow’s priorities become today’s priority, especially with health matters.

By: Dustin

Dustin — Sun, 25 Jul 2010 03:11:08 +0000

Thanks so much, Michelle! I’m glad you enjoyed the post, and I hope you stick around and become part of our awesome community.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 24 Jul 2010 23:20:26 +0000

Hey Dustin, this is the first time I’m reading one of your posts. I like the way you write. Anyway, my husband and I just got married last year… we’re still newlyweds. I agree completely with keeping a “proactive” marriage. It’s really important to make time for each other, to do things for and with each other, and to treat each other with the love and respect they deserve. My husband is a top priority in my life. A marriage is something both people should constantly work at and continue to evolve as the partners themselves evolve.

Thanks for your post!
Michelle