Should Spouses Add Each Other on Social Networking Sites?
Note: This guest post by Vanessa Jones asks some really interesting questions about how we use social media within our marriages. I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
While social networking sites such as Facebook are designed to strengthen relationships among friends and loved ones, they are now slowly weakening them.
Studies show social networking sites are now the number one growing evidentiary support for divorce cases. According to a recent study by the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, social networking sites, particularly Facebook, are being used in court to show proof of cheating, most of which is linked to social media users who exchange flirty and sexual messages and photographs with old flames.
In fact, the survey suggests that one in every five divorce cases involve a social media site. More specifically, 66 percent of cases involve Facebook, about 15 percent involve MySpace and about only 5 percent involve Twitter. But while most would argue that falling out of love is the main reason for divorce and not a social networking site, should you avoid friending your spouse to steer clear of potential problems all together?
The quick answer would be…
5 Reasons to Tell Her You Struggle with Porn
This is a very important guest post about a topic that needs much more attention. Thank you to Mark Chamberlain, Ph.D. for contributing it, and please check out more about his work in the bio line at the bottom of this post.
Maybe it started during a long business trip or surfing through cable channels late at night after she was asleep.
You found yourself more hooked into it than you wanted to be. Viewing that smut violates your own values, and you know she’d be offended if she found out. Her finding out… you shudder to think about that.
You don’t want to disappoint her or have her worry that this is a bigger deal than it really is. She has enough on her plate.
So you resolve to deal with it on your own. You’re confident that you can stay away from it. Maybe some day you’ll even tell her that it was something you conquered on your own long ago. So with renewed resolve you move forward, and do manage to stay away from it – for a while at least.
Life Is Too Short
Note: This is a guest post by my friend Brad Allen. You NEED to read this and then take action with your spouse to answer the questions at the end. This is just too important to ignore, even though I definitely understand why it’s easier to keep this topic out of your mind. Deal with it…for the sake of your spouse and your family.
“Life is too short.”
That’s an interesting phrase. People use it often. I use it often too but a recent, tragic event happened that really put the phrase into perspective. Tragic events do that.
On December 15th, without warning, my Dad had a heart attack and did not survive. He was 54 years old. Nine days after that, I turned 31. Both of us were way, way too young for that to happen.
My Dad and I had a great relationship and, as much as it hurts to lose him, I can’t imagine how my step mom must feel. My wife and I are best friends, and while I’m learning to deal with the loss of my Dad I’m not sure how I could “learn to deal” with losing my wife.
Argue Fairly With Your Spouse: The Rules of Engagement
This guest post is presented by Jason from Live Real, Now, a blog about life and money in the real world.
Everyone, at times, has disagreements.
How boring would life be if everyone agreed all of the time? However, if you handle those disagreements the wrong way, it could mean disaster.
This is particularly true when you are arguing with your spouse.
You spend most non-working moments with this one person, this wonderful, loving, infuriating person. Your emotions will naturally run high while discussing the things you care most about with the person you care most about. Arguments are not only natural, but inevitable.
How do you have an argument with someone you love without lasting resentment?
As strange as it may sound, you have to argue fairly.
The Rules of Engagement
There are a few principles to remember during an argument with your husband or wife:
- When your partner is talking, your job is to listen with all of your energy. You are not interrupting. You are not planning your rebuttal while waiting for your turn to talk.
You are listening, nothing else. If you don’t listen, you can’t understand. If you don’t understand, you can’t find a resolution.
Green With Envy: How to Overcome Jealousy in Your Marriage
Editor’s Note: This is a great guest post by Thomas Warren. Thomas asked if he could share his thoughts on jealousy in marriage, and I thought it was a wonderful topic for our community.
Love and trust are the basis for a sound marriage, so if either of these ingredients is missing, you may begin to wonder why you’re in a relationship at all. While love is something that is maintained emotionally, trust can shaken by both emotional and psychological forces.
You enter into marriage believing that it will last forever and that the person you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with feels the same way. But then, for one reason or another, jealousy rears its ugly head.
It is extremely common for married individuals to experience jealousy, and in small doses, it can actually ensure that you don’t take each other for granted. But if the problem persists, you’re going to have to find a way to deal with it or risk reneging on your vows.
So How Can You Overcome Jealousy?
Communication is a good place to start. This is really the key to resolving any conflict in a relationship (and to keeping your marriage healthy). If you have nagging doubts, this is the best way to clear them up.
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