27 Responses to “Regain Your Balance: Real Solutions for Real Busy People”

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  1. Brian DeeleyNo Gravatar

    Like many working couples, we struggle with keeping family, work, finances, etc. in balance but our life is even more challenging because we have a daughter with special needs. While there is tons of great Christian-based advice out there for strengthening marriage (some of the best of it is here!) it can be much more difficult to implement for families like us. It’s much harder to keep things in balance when your child is home from school sick 3-4x more often, you have behavioral therapy 3 nights a week and you can’t do “date nights” because you use up all your babysitters to go to small group because your child doesn’t interact well with the other kids. I wish there was more out there addressing our unique needs, but until there is we still look at the “mainstream” books, advice and tips and feel blessed if 10% can apply to our life.

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      Thank you so much for sharing your story, Brian. As tough as it is for “typical” families, I can only imagine the strain for time, balance and energy that a family with special needs children faces every day. My wife is a special education teacher at the elementary level, so I do hear of similar situations frequently.

      I’d be willing to bet that you have a lot of expertise in this area based on the reading you’ve done and, most of all, your experience. If you ever want to share some advice for all of those out there with special needs families, please know that I would love to publish a guest post from you on the topic here at Engaged Marriage.

  2. I think my biggest balance is between what I want to do versus what I have to do. For example, I want to get my degree but I don’t want to do my homework – I’d rather spend time with my family. It’s just a hard balance between school and work and my future husband. I think my trick to it is though to make sure I give time for what I want, even if it’s just a little bit. It makes me feel like I’m doing something worth while.

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      Thanks for the awesome comment, Miss Lissy! I can totally relate to your issue of balancing wants vs. needs. It often feels like the “wants” always have to wait, but I agree with you that small doses can make a real difference!

  3. Skeemer118No Gravatar

    The biggest struggle for me is work/home/church/school. So…I guess basically LIFE. lol. I’m trying so much harder lately to be in the moment & not let my mind stress about church functions when I’m at home or the laundry while I’m at school. In similar style to Miss Lissy, I worry that getting my degree is taking my time from my loved ones but to make a better life for my family I need my degree.

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      I can relate, Skeemer118. I completed a Master’s Degree in engineering at night after we were married, and my wife is slowly working through a Master’s in special education between having and raising young children. :)

  4. TomNo Gravatar

    As a small business owner with 3 teenage/twenty somethings, my wife and I struggle with keeping up enough energy and carving out time for just the two of us.

    Looks like this book might be quite helpful!

  5. My biggest struggle is finding time for myself. After caring for the kids, managing our household, and trying to spend some quality time with my husband there isn’t much time for me to pursue my own interests.

  6. I seem to be having trouble balancing my time. I have so many commitments to different organisations that i made before i got married. I’ve actually given up quite a bit of them, but it doesn’t take me long to sign up to something else. For some reason, people are always keen for me to have me on their committee. Some weeks i’ll have a meeting every night, and all i want is to go home to my husband.

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      I totally understand, Mary! My work requires evening presentations on a somewhat regular basis, plus I’m involved in several community and church organizations…and I’m a tee-ball coach. I’ve just had to say “no” to further opportunities when they come up.

  7. RebeccaNo Gravatar

    I have trouble balancing homemaking. I have a hard time even remotely keeping up with household stuff with 4 kids under 5.

  8. CharlotteNo Gravatar

    I find it hard to find time for housekeeping. I work and have a husband and son. I prefer to spend any and all free time with them, but by the time the baby is in bed at night, I just want to rest and be with my husband. But I figure a perfectly clean house is not as important as my time with them.

  9. My biggest balancing act is trying to work full-time, be a good wife and mother and work on my new business that is all about what I REALLY want to do! I focus on one of these, and I feel like I’m neglecting the others!

    This ebook has just what I need! I would like to share it with our readers too because part of our business is helping others simplify and enjoy life by finding balance!

    Thanks for the link to the book!!

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      Awesome, Shawna! The book just really hit a nerve with me (in a very good way). I’m glad you are enjoying it as well!

  10. Laura L.No Gravatar

    Gee, can I say “ditto” to almost everything above? Being a full time worker outside the home, with a stay at home daddy until I get home, then he goes to work, and 2 under 2 makes it a challenge to get anything done unless I’m well rested. Unfortunately, I’m not getting much sleep. How to get it all done and still have time for me…ugg!

  11. The biggest struggle I face in finding balance in my busy life? Being able to remember what needs to be done at any given time.

  12. My biggest struggle is finding time to spend along with my wife. I am involved in the Boys Scouts, my church (teaching Sunday School), my full-time job, I am a High School Basketball Referee, I have my blog, family-my 2 yr-old, and I am president of my HOA. Needless to say it is challenge to spend alone time with my wife on a daily basis, most days its limited to Pillow talk, because after all of the above activities, we always try to go to bed at the same time.

    Thanks for this contest, sounds like a valuable book!

    • DustinNo Gravatar

      I can absolutely relate, Eric. I think your goal of going to bed at the same time is awesome, and that move alone can really enhance your intimacy and give you the “Couple Time” you need each day amidst all the madness. I hope you check out the book…I think it’d be right up your (busy) alley!

  13. DustinNo Gravatar

    Congratulations to Eric from Better Husbands & Fathers who’s Twitter entry won the drawing for a free copy of Regain Your Balance. I know he’ll love it!

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