Ask the Community: Should Your Spouse “Friend” an Old Fling on Facebook? – Engaged Marriage

Ask the Community: Should Your Spouse “Friend” an Old Fling on Facebook?

By Dustin | Ask the Community

Should Your Spouse “Friend” an Old Fling on Facebook-I receive a lot of emails from readers, and I rarely share them here on the blog because they are either too personal or too specific.  Well, I recently received a message that I thought would be best addressed as a community, and the sender encouraged me to share it with you to get your feedback.

Here’s the message:

I had a situation happen to me today that I thought might make a good discussion topic for your site – proper social networking etiquette / behavior for married people.

Today, I had an old boyfriend send me a friend request on Facebook. I decided to ignore the request. I haven’t even thought of him in 13 years and there was a good reason I broke it off then.

Is this really someone I want to share the details of my life with anymore? No. Would I be cool with my husband “friending” an old flame? Honestly, I would probably be a little weird about it. Some people are best left in the past.

Here’s where you can help.  In the comments below, I’d love to get your opinions on this situation.

How would you feel if you were the one receiving the friend request?  Would you feel the need to ask your spouse before you accepted or ignored it?

Would you care if your spouse “friended” an ex-boyfriend or ex-wife?

Do you think Facebook and other social media relationships are totally harmless, or does it actually mean something when you accept “friend” status with someone?

By the way, if you have a question that you’d like to “Ask the Community” here at Engaged Marriage, please send me a message and let me know!


About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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