3 Easy Tips for Finding Time to Date Your Spouse

By Dustin | Time Management

3 Easy Tips for Finding Time to Date Your SpouseYou know a regular date night with your husband or wife is not only a great time, but it’s really key to enjoying a healthy relationship, right?

Well then, when was the last time you actually got away together for a few hours to enjoy some romance?

I’m not talking about dinner out with the kids, and it doesn’t count if you were with a group of friends either.

While both of those are excellent ways to spend an evening, you really need some quality time alone to focus on each other.

We Don’t Have Time

If you are anything like us, I bet the constraint that’s holding you back more than anything else is a lack of time.

We’re all so damn busy that it’s easy to jump from urgent task to urgent task, only to look up two months later and realize we haven’t had a single night out with our spouse.

Of course, some of this comes from being our own worst enemies and failing to manage our priorities properly.  Sometimes, we even waste a lot of time on frivolous things like watching television or playing games on our phones.

However, in most cases, I think our time constraints are legit.

I hear from so many in our community, and I know you are  hard workers with families that are hustling to make things happen, sometimes at the expense of your own time and intimacy.

Are You Looking for Some Fresh Date Ideas?

When we finally get time for a date, it's so easy to fall into the rut of "dinner and a movie." If you'd like some new, creative and FUN date ideas, you've gotta check out:

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But We Can Still Make It Happen

I have to admit that Bethany and I were struggling in this area again recently, so we made a plan to make sure we were making our date nights happen.

I want to share a few tips that we’ve learned in the hopes that it helps you find the time for some all-important romance in your marriage.

1. Schedule It

You should have a regular date time, and it must be on your calendars.  If you treat your dates as optional or “schedule” them after all of the “important” things are taken care, you will never have dates!

Seriously, your date time should be a high-priority appointment that is scheduled well in advance and doesn’t get trumped for anything short of an emergency.

If you value your marriage, realize that you NEED this time together.  Seriously.

2. Look Outside the Obvious

Our weekends are really busy, and our babysitter often has other commitments on Friday and Saturday evenings.

Our solution: we have date nights scheduled for every other Tuesday night.  It’s a set time that is much less likely to get interrupted.

Along these lines, you should look at some less conventional ways to spend alone time together that will work with your busy schedule:

  • Date during the day
  • Enjoy an at-home date night
  • Date in the morning with a standing coffee date
  • Work out together to combine fitness with recreational intimacy
  • Make another “required” event a great date.  For example, we were gone last weekend presenting at a marriage retreat.  And we used this time away from home to enjoy each other and found alone time amidst our other responsibilities.

3. Budget It

You better have a financial budget! When you do, it’s really helpful to include some money for dates as part of your budget.

This not only takes some of the financial pressure off, but it makes it an “official” household activity that you are planning for and taking seriously.

We’ve found that having a date night budget item to cover babysitting, entertainment and meals is really helpful in keeping our time out consistent and enjoyable.

If your budget won’t allow these expenses, you can simply plan for a less costly alternative (see at-home date nights above).

I hope these tips make it easier for you to find time for your spouse.  There’s really no better investment in your marriage than quality time spent together.

Your spouse is the love of your life. Sometimes, it takes a date to remind us of this fact. 

Are You Looking for Some Fresh Date Ideas?

When we finally get time for a date, it's so easy to fall into the rut of "dinner and a movie." If you'd like some new, creative and FUN date ideas, you've gotta check out:

The Dating Divas Year of Dates Binder

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About the Author

Dustin Riechmann created Engaged Marriage to help other married couples live a life they love (especially) when they feel too busy to make it happen. He has many passions, including sharing ways to enjoy an awesome marriage in 15 minutes a day, but his heart belongs with his wife Bethany and their three young kids.

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